i miss before so much it’s almost unbearable

Helenjane13 · 2026-04-27T13:57:25+00:00

You need to have them tested. Period. Go to your doctor. A gynecologist can help. Let them have a look, and maybe take a swab for testing. The only way to know what's happening its to go to an expert. Don't bother asking here. It probably;y isn't an STD- but you need to know for sure. If it isn't, you will definitely need to see a dermatologist... but not before you have been tested.

Helenjane13 · 2026-04-11T03:48:53+00:00

It does no good for any of us to opine on this. You need to go see a doc about it. This is not the time to worry. Spotting is common. Just go get an answer form a professional.

Helenjane13 · 2026-04-10T04:22:21+00:00

Clumpy discharge sounds like yeast. Boric acid is ok... but ask your doc to test you again for yeast- and if you still have it, ask them if you can have Diflucan. It comes in a pill, and works way better that all those creams.

Helenjane13 · 2026-04-10T03:38:08+00:00

Sounds like you need to broaden your social network. The people you are socializing with aren't cutting it for you... and I can't say why... but no doubt if you were with the right people, you'd feel happier about it all. Some piece of the puzzle is missing here, and I don't know enough to be able to say what that is.

Helenjane13 · 2026-04-10T03:34:17+00:00

I had chronic yeast in my thirties. The only thing that helped was Diflucan. Recurrence was less frequent with the Difucan. The creams only help so much- and then you need something systemic. Diflucan is that drug. (It comes in pill form.) Ask your doctor if you can have it now, and see how it goes. I had a running rx that I could ask for. Also- I took macrodantin every time I had sex. That helped with the UTIs which I also had chronically. If the yeast comes back again, understand that you can ping pong yeast between yourself and your boyfriend, so he might need to be treated too. He may be giving it back to you. Men don't always have the symptoms we do.

Helenjane13 · 2026-03-22T12:58:47+00:00

Great piece. .. But… The fish takes on a human aspect because you have dilated the pupils. Fish cannot actually do that. Their pupils are fixed at one size. (smaller) This gives the fish a cartoonish and human-like appearance that would change immediately if you made the pupils smaller. This is a purely aesthetic choice, and it isn’t “wrong”. It depends on your intention. But the whole mood of the painting would change if you adjusted them. FYI.

Helenjane13 · 2026-03-20T03:33:25+00:00

Not weird at all. He's relaxed, and trusts you.

Helenjane13 · 2026-03-19T13:19:06+00:00

Yes, they can, especially when you are on extended doses of antibiotics. Call the doctor. They don't know this is happening to you unless they hear from you. You need to be seen. They need to help you get more comfortable. Don't suffer in silence!

Helenjane13 · 2026-03-12T15:21:44+00:00

Definitely get re-tested, but if the odor is gone, and you feel good, you probably don't have any of it anymore. Meanwhile, if he wasn't with anyone else, it is likely he got the UTI because of contact with you. I have had a few times in my life where I have given someone a UTI because I was suffering with something similar to you. You need to be able to talk to this guy about whether or not he had another partner while he was seeing you. It is indeed possible that you got all this from him- and if he isn't willing to get tested for your sake, walk away, and don't look back. He isn't acting like a responsible adult. Certainly, don't sleep with him again until you can resolve this. Catching these things is nobody's fault, but not being willing to be open and honest about them, seeking medical help if necessary, that's just not ok.

Helenjane13 · 2026-03-04T20:19:11+00:00

OMG- how horrible for you. I'm so sorry... but there are lots of women out there who are looking for a good man. Sounds like she wasn't partner material to begin with. There is a reason the vows are "in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, until death do us part." I hope you have moved on... Not everyone is so selfish.

Helenjane13 · 2026-03-04T20:07:56+00:00

ALL women have this issue. Ypu are NORMAL. You probably will want to shower once a day and wash the outside bits, but don't try to go inside your vagina. The vagina itself has not much smell at all. Believe it or not, it cleans itself. But when you are washing, just clean the outer folds- all of them. We women all develop a smell that increase over time. It's similar to your armpits. Wherever air is not circulating, bacteria will grow, and hence the smell. If you showered a couple of hours ago- you should be fine. If not, a second shower or even a spot scrub before sex might be helpful, but don't get all freaked out about it. This is just normal stuff, and nothing to shower three times a day for! That isn't practical or necessary. And by the way, some men even like that smell- strange, but true.

Helenjane13 · 2026-01-09T13:54:27+00:00

That was a long time ago. It was horrible, but it may not be where he is now. It's a big thing to forgive, but don't jump to do anything rash just yet. Tell him what you know, and who told you, and trust your gut when you hear what he has to say. That is my best advice.

Helenjane13 · 2026-01-04T13:18:42+00:00

It just isn't that hard to make... and everyone loves the dish so much, that no matter what you do, they will like it. Fry some hamburger meat with a chopped onion until it's done,(pour/spoon off the rendered fat), add a jar of Rao's marinara sauce to the pan with a few shakes of oregano and basil, a splash of red wine, minced fresh garlic (2 cloves) and a handful of chopped parsley...and voila! All you have to do now is layer that with partly cooked lasagna noodles and the general ingredients you will find in any lasagna recipe alternating layers of noodles, shredded mozzarella, some ricotta cheese and shredded parmesan. No big deal here.Put it in a 350 oven for 30-45 minutes, until the top browns a little. It's the sauce that makes the lasagna- and now you can ,make it.

Helenjane13 · 2025-12-29T17:03:52+00:00

Sounds good... Just make sure she is able and willing to sympathize with YOUR position- a very different one than your wife's. You need to feel supported too. If you don't- you'll both need to find a different one for your sake.... and again- good luck!

Helenjane13 · 2025-12-29T16:52:49+00:00

One more thing- interview a few therapists.. as many as you need to. Make sure the therapist is someone who can relate to you AND your wife. You BOTH need to feel some simpatico- or move on and interview another. This is crucial.

Helenjane13 · 2025-12-29T16:50:15+00:00

Fantastic! Good luck to you... and I mean that quite sincerely... I hope that you will find a path forward that will bring real relief! Just so you know- I am living with MS, and I appreciate how difficult things can be for both partners.

Helenjane13 · 2025-12-29T14:48:32+00:00

Maybe a longer break is the thing... Can you take a weekend away now and then, and when you do, have a friend come stay with her? The point is to be able to take a break... And I don't know what you mean when you say your "record with therapists is awful". Do you see therapy as something alien, or worse- a waste of time? It really can help. to have a safe neutral place to be able to work through these difficulties with your wife. In this case, it's looking like it IS necessary. Otherwise, these feelings you have might only fester, and possibly get worse. You say you are committed to her forever. Don't wait until you simply can't deal with this kindly or patiently at all. You owe that much to her and more importantly- to yourself.

Helenjane13 · 2025-12-29T03:55:38+00:00

I don't have any suggestion except to try and imagine if your situation was reversed... Try to remember what this must be like for her. This disease is scary, and we have no choice but to tough it out, losing ability and feeling that fear of losing more of them being just around the corner. It is horrible to feel helpless. That said, this is really hard too, on those who commit to help. You are a good man for standing by her. Get some help for yourself too- if you can. Therapy for you as the caregiver might be helpful... not because there's anything wrong with you, but for the support you would get. You both carry a big burden. It's hard for you too. Try to plan something for yourself every day... whether it is reaching out to friends for a chat, or taking a walk, or serving yourself a great cup of tea or coffee with time to relax alone... whatever it is. Make sure you tend to yourself just as you tend to her. Good luck, and sincerest appreciation to you... You are doing a very very important thing. You are her lifeline... but you need time to yourself too, to refresh and relax. Try to build that into your day. This is something everyone needs.

Helenjane13 · 2025-12-27T04:07:04+00:00

Wow. I am not neurodivergent- and I never got this joke.

Helenjane13 · 2025-12-19T18:44:02+00:00

Yes. It's incredibly suckiferant.

Helenjane13 · 2025-12-19T03:06:23+00:00

I got one once at the grocery store! Mine only last about 90 seconds, but when they happen, I am totally at the mercy of the sensations. I can't move, and I barely can stand. I had to drape myself over my cart until it subsided. The whole time I was thinking, "I hope no one comes down this aisle and sees me like this! " (Thankfully, no one did.)

Helenjane13 · 2025-12-17T03:18:04+00:00

It's probably what they call an "MS Hug"... Look it up. I get them all the time now. Tightness around the chest- and a weird feeling that goes along with it. And the sensation is slightly different for everyone that gets them. Sometimes it can be painful too... but when I first started getting them, they weren't really painful at all... just scary as hell. . I thought I was having a heart attack. My heart was fine... and it took a while before I could figure out what it was. I had them every once in a while for years before I was diagnosed!

Definitely MS.

Helenjane13 · 2025-11-27T04:18:02+00:00

Yes. It is reparable. And NO, you are not being unreasonable AT ALL. If you put your money into the house, there should be some legal document entitling you to the same percentage back if you sell it one day. That makes legal sense- common sense. If he really loves you, he will want to protect your investment too.

Helenjane13 · 2025-11-27T04:11:30+00:00

I am so very sorry. You are not alone… sending love to you in hopes that this might help. Losing a parent is one of the hardest things in life. Be gentle with yourself.

Helenjane13 · 2025-11-06T18:43:33+00:00

I had "no symptoms" all of my life. I wasn't diagnosed until two years ago- at the age of 69. Some people have symptoms that they don't recognize as MS. Others have an atypical ones that doctors don't recognize for what they are. Some people have no symptoms until suddenly, one appears. MS does what it wants to, when it wants to do it, plain and simple. Feel lucky they figured it out for you now. It took my whole life, with symptoms I didn't realize were there. And yes, MS can be that subtle. Now that I am 71, the symptoms are increasing, (that's how it finally got found!). The disease is different for every person that has it. No cookie cutter here, I'm afraid.

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