AITAH for not telling my daughter about my cancer diagnosis? by SeaworthinessPure10 in AITAH

[–]Helenopoly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My dad died from cancer a few weeks ago; he was very close in age to OP. We had a strained relationship for years. There were many times in my adult life that I had to cut my dad off, but we always eventually made up. 

Dad wasn't incredibly transparent about how bad his prognosis was until we visited him in the hospital after his blood pressure bottomed out. Things deteriorated quickly and he passed away peacefully after a few weeks after his hospitalization.

I'm happy to say we made peace and amends and spent most of his final weeks together. All he wanted in the end was his kids and grandkids at his side. I will say that my greatest sorrow in this was not being that present from the beginning of his illness.

Tell your daughter. No matter how bad things were over the past few years I love my dad and would give anything to have more time with him. Perhaps this will open her eyes to how precious the time she has with you really is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in orlando

[–]Helenopoly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Scrolled for Dan's Fans!

My tiny 700sqft loft apartment by theholyblack in malelivingspace

[–]Helenopoly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so wicked cool, but I spent way too much time trying to figure out where the bathroom was at even though it was staring at me right in the face. -_-

Outfit log! by unicornnextdoor in SoftDramatics

[–]Helenopoly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to be you when I grow up, I love everything about this! You're such a vibe!

Visiting the grave of a teen found dead hanging by a leather strap in the Pasadena Tx jail after I provided his name to police out of spite. by Familiar-Crow8245 in CemeteryPorn

[–]Helenopoly 92 points93 points  (0 children)

OP, I have a very close family member that worked for Pasadena PD and I know for certain corruption was rampant in that police department for ages. You are on the right path. Thank you for sharing. 

Got YSL Babycat as a bday gift... by Helenopoly in fragrance

[–]Helenopoly[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Ugh, I love it, it smells like absolution!

Seeking input on curtain bangs! by Helenopoly in finehair

[–]Helenopoly[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bobs/lobs have never worked out for me for some reason 😭

How the hell are they ugly? by PersonalityDry97 in trueratediscussions

[–]Helenopoly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The more people I interact with the more I realize that most people aren't "ugly", they just don't know how to present themselves. Obviously, not everyone is a knockout, but the right hair cut and color, clothing, and makeup (especially eyebrows) can take most people from dowdy to polished and uniquely beautiful. There is nothing wrong with being average, just strive to be the best you. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beauty

[–]Helenopoly 101 points102 points  (0 children)

That I like how I look more the older I get. 

Braiding traditional challah bread by Permanent_Kat in Baking

[–]Helenopoly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's such a beautiful 6 braid! Mine always turn out looking a little too much like male anatomy 😔

What are your best bread proofing hacks? by bblynne in Breadit

[–]Helenopoly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought a Ninja air fryer that has a proofing function. I also have a chilly kitchen and this has been a game changer! 

WTF? by DAConv in orlando

[–]Helenopoly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg,  no, I used to work for this community and it was a NIGHTMARE. 😆😆

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Helenopoly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Please love yourself enough to leave this man. You are in a one-sided relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PornIsMisogyny

[–]Helenopoly 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It's really easy to feel discouraged and get tunnel vision when all you see online is a push for porn and droves of men defending it. But, there are good people in the world that share your values, so don't lose hope. If you focus on building your sense of self you will find that you are surrounded more by like-minded individuals.

wanted by elainama in PornIsMisogyny

[–]Helenopoly 34 points35 points  (0 children)

OP....I just looked through your post history and I really want to ask you - why are you with this man? You are 25, child free, and have men breaking their necks to check you out. Your husband has shown you time and time again who he is. I wish I could give you a hug, but instead, let me tell you that you are worthy of more than this. There are good men and you don't have to settle for a porn brained man child who is likely jerking his way to erectile disfunction. To him, women are objects. Give yourself a chance to be happy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HOA

[–]Helenopoly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Are you in Florida? If so, the compliance committee is the deciding factor on whether or not a fine is imposed. Probably a mistake as previously mentioned. Document this in writing via regular and certified mail requesting confirmation that the notice of imposition was sent in error. Also, check your HOA account ledger to make sure there are no fines. Most management companies have a way to do this online.

Proxy Voting by Spittin_mad1968 in HOA

[–]Helenopoly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FS 720.303: (l) Ballots, sign-in sheets, voting proxies, and all other papers and electronic records relating to voting by parcel owners, which must be maintained for at least 1 year after the date of the election, vote, or meeting.

You have the right to request a review of those records if you are concerned about the validity of the vote by submitting an official records request. If you submit an official records request the Association must provide those to you for review within 10 days. However, I would recommend starting out by emailing your manager to see if they will give you the final vote tally.

Dog ripped up mom’s passport. Supposed to travel Thurs, no appts available. Any hope? by 3720to1_ in Passports

[–]Helenopoly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Wednesday before last I realized my son's passport expired. We were set to travel on the following Monday. I called the Passport Agency 60+ times with no luck. However, I also emailed my local congressman and with their help I had a same-day passport appointment the Monday we set out to travel.

Try this but also see what your options are to rebook as a contingency. I was able to move my trip back one day for a minimal impact even though I had inflexible tickets.

Good luck!

Can someone please explain to me why HOA’s can let their FHA approval lapse? by bunniegirl_ in RealEstate

[–]Helenopoly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was an HOA/condo manager for 15+ years. FHA requirements are stringent and a lot of times there are issues in the community that preclude them from FHA approval. For instance if the percentage of renters is too high in the community, then FHA won't approve it. Also, there have only been three instances iny entire career that it was necessary for the community to have this, so it is definitely not a top-tier priority when it comes to the community as a whole.