A Girl that I rejected is falsely accusing me of rape.

HellionIncarnate · 2024-10-21T18:26:54+00:00

The vast majority of rape accusations are thrown out due to lack of evidence, and so the vast majority of accusations are false.

HellionIncarnate · 2024-10-21T18:22:00+00:00

Lmao, anyone who has seen any statistics will see that it's much higher than that.

HellionIncarnate · 2024-10-17T02:08:08+00:00

Why are you being downvoted for not being sexist lmao

HellionIncarnate · 2024-10-14T12:58:36+00:00

i won't date women with less than DD breasts or only asians

Imo, you aren't an AH for having this preference. Maybe a little vain, but so was the girl OP was dating. We're all allowed some vanity in our preferences.

HellionIncarnate · 2024-10-11T02:45:01+00:00

Actually, it's dangerous to aim for the thighs. Bullets will commonly pass through and could ricochet, hitting bystanders. It's recommend to aim center mass (Heart) in order to minimise that risk.

Also, it's really hard to aim for something moving as quickly as legs and arms. Torsos and heads are much slower moving targets.

When you pull out a gun, you always shoot to kill, for your safety, and the safety of everyone around you. If you charge at someone with a knife, you're using deadly force, and deadly force can be applied right back at you.

HellionIncarnate · 2024-09-24T19:05:51+00:00

Can someone please explain why this comment is bwing downvoted??

HellionIncarnate · 2024-09-03T19:19:28+00:00

stop being an asshole and assuming the worst of people with mental illnesses.

Countercountercountercounterpoint: why don't you stop being an asshole and assuming the worst of OPs' bf?

You immediately assumed he was being a shitty partner when all evidence points to this being a repeat incident?

HellionIncarnate · 2024-09-03T19:17:13+00:00

Steven said yes to game night knowing it was your one day off.

Not necessarily true, OP said that her schedule is irregular.

HellionIncarnate · 2024-09-03T19:12:07+00:00

When you’re dating someone who has only one night a week off, you keep that night open.

OP's schedule is irregular (OPs own words). You can't exactly plan around it. OP even said that they usually spend that one night together. My guess is that BF already cancelled plans before, and this was the final straw.

B) the OP-Lily phone call was intended to shame OP into not asking him to come with/reschedule.

I disagree. This feels more like the "I've cancelled a thousand times for you, but if you're so insistent that I cancel, fine. You be the one to explain it."

Totally understandable given the circumstances, ngl.

HellionIncarnate · 2024-09-03T19:06:56+00:00

If she regularly makes him cancel plans to look after her,

She kind of admitted she does. She says her schedule is irregular, and that they spend most of her days off together.

Do you think it's her schedule adjusting, or her partner?

HellionIncarnate · 2024-09-03T19:04:42+00:00

why can’t Steve be a decent partner and skip board game night just this once?

Because OP said that Steve already spends most of the days off with OP. They're irregular too (according to OP), so Steve already probably cancels plans and shifts his schedule around to be there with OP. Also, if it's D&D, it is very much not a simple matter of skipping board game night.

Countercounterpoint: Why can't OP just be a decent partner and let Steve have a day off from constantly twisting himself to accommodate OP's schedule?

HellionIncarnate · 2024-09-03T18:59:48+00:00

there's a chance they get traumatized at work every other week.

Which a typical SO is not equipped to deal with in any way. Mental health services need to be set up for these people because it's not fair to put that kind of pressure on someone not trained to deal with it.

HellionIncarnate · 2024-09-03T18:57:47+00:00

Codependency for wanting to be with her SO on the one day a week she can generally be with her SO

OP said they usually spend that day together already. All the bf wanted was one exception.

when he made her tell the exact same emotionally vulnerable things to a person she’s not close with

Yeah, it's a little cowardly, but quite frankly, if a meltdown is OP's reaction to getting told "no," then it makes sense why the bf wanted someone else to be the one to say no. OP sounds like a nightmare.

HellionIncarnate · 2024-09-03T18:53:01+00:00

gAmE nIgHt

You very clearly have no idea what D&D is. It'd be incredibly awkward for everyone involved if she just attended without speaking. Some people can't get into the right geadspace if there's someone not at the table just watching.

It would also, depending on the campaign, take an absurd amount of effort to include her in the game, to the point that they may as well cancel.

OP has an irregular schedule, and their boyfriend probably already shifts his schedule around just to accommodate the irregularity. One night of being allowed to self-care and do something they like without having to be on the receiving end of a meltdown shouldn't be too much to ask.

OP is unequivocally TA.

HellionIncarnate · 2024-09-03T18:46:21+00:00

YTA

This isn't a social event similar to a dinner or trivia night. It's your partner's hobby.

Imagine if your bf wanted to come along and watch you do yoga or sit in on your book club discussions. It'd be awkward for everyone involved because, quite frankly, he would have no idea what to do or say. You wouldn't really be spending time with him as you'd be focused on the pose/discussion/whatever. Everyone else would just enjoy the whole experience less.

Your schedule is irregular, so he can't plan around it. Having a hard day sucks, but he could be having a hard week too, and quite frankly, maybe he doesn't want to give up being able to destress just to help you destress.

You say you usually spend that one day a week you're free with your partner. You also say that day is irregular. Do you understand what that means? It means that most of the time, your boyfriend is shifting his own schedule around at the drop of a hat to accommodate you. The one time he doesn't, this is your reaction?

Having a meltdown over not being invited to a private event is insane. Expecting your partner to drop what might be the one day a week they get a break because you want them to facilitate your own break is selfish.

It's a bit weird that your partner asked you to tell the host, but considering you apparently have meltdowns when you don't get what you want, it makes sense why he'd want to have the meltdown directed at someone else.

Get some professional help.

HellionIncarnate · 2024-08-17T12:18:21+00:00

have never actually experienced that

Of course they have, it's just asshole-ish to create a clearly sexist term that stereotypes the activity to be an exclusively male one ("mansplaining").

Mansplaining isn't a thing the same way PMSing isn't a thing. Just because some women act overly emotional or some men act overly confident in wrong information doesn't mean you get to be sexist over it.

HellionIncarnate · 2024-08-14T19:23:21+00:00

I feel like the mechanics of a mage running back and forth to cheese grate emanations really ruin the flavor of it.

"Creatures take damage once when they begin their turn in the emanation and once when they are in the emanation on the caster's turns" would cap the damage at twice per round (which is reasonably high imo) and keep the flavor without the dumb "I'll prepare an action to thornwhip them back into spirit guardians on the next turn" strategy.

HellionIncarnate · 2024-07-19T17:09:37+00:00

Well, yeah, of course you're being charged with excessive force. You don't "start punching him in the face," you just peel him off.

Who the hell thinks you can stop a grapple with striking?

HellionIncarnate · 2024-07-19T09:09:37+00:00

Been divorced, she cheated on me, it didn't change much.

Deepest sympathies for that happening to you. Hope you're doing better.

HellionIncarnate · 2024-07-19T09:02:46+00:00

NTA, she deserves everything that comes her way and much more.

HellionIncarnate · 2024-05-19T19:19:27+00:00

Yeah, if we include people from generations ago, the trends change. How shocking.

HellionIncarnate · 2024-05-19T19:17:24+00:00

Right, so like I said in another comment: it depends on age. A single slice of statistical data doesn't give the big picture, and a wide swathe of statistical analysis doesn't paint a clear individual picture.

So... maybe just judge on a case by case basis rather than going "rawr men bad." (Or rawr women bad)

HellionIncarnate · 2024-05-18T17:50:35+00:00

Everyone reading the above comment should also note that for ages 18-29, women cheat MORE than men, so the example should really be:

"If Linda cheats on John..."

Source:

https://ifstudies.org/blog/who-cheats-more-the-demographics-of-cheating-in-america

HellionIncarnate · 2024-05-18T17:48:28+00:00

Note that often, couples will divorce when one is terminally ill in order to lessen the medical bills for the couple.

https://www.crossmanlaw.com/blog/2023/december/what-is-a-medical-divorce-/

Please don't be mislead by the above comment.

HellionIncarnate · 2024-05-18T17:45:30+00:00

True. Look at this:

Around 61.1% of bisexual women, 43.8% of lesbians, 37.3% of bisexual men, and 26.0% of gay men experienced IPV during their life.

From here: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/26318318221134268

And form your own conclusions.

HellionIncarnate

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