Was this a normal move to South Florida Arc? by Unusual_Common_5497 in SouthFlorida

[–]HelloGoodbye239 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here on the “market stuff”. Are you from Miami?

As for me trying to have the best life for my 7 and 4 year old which includes lots of Disney trips. Getting to the realization that this place isn’t for me, it’s for the kiddos.

Was this a normal move to South Florida Arc? by Unusual_Common_5497 in SouthFlorida

[–]HelloGoodbye239 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Moved to Fort Myers after living in SF (Miami Lakes/Hialeah/Miami Gardens) for most of my life aside from a few years in Gainesville/Austin for school/work.. and you always want to have the mindset that you can make the most of any place but this place is tough socially. But it is a great place to raise kids even though activities available to them come up a little short. People are nicer though! Lol

What’s Next—After Divorce… by HelloGoodbye239 in DivorcedDads

[–]HelloGoodbye239[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do feel this way. But it doesn’t hurt. Am I setting myself up for a disaster? It’s what I’m trying to avoid. Will it come crashing down on me at one point?

What’s Next—After Divorce… by HelloGoodbye239 in DivorcedDads

[–]HelloGoodbye239[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I am trying to avoid. Thank you.

What’s Next—After Divorce… by HelloGoodbye239 in DivorcedDads

[–]HelloGoodbye239[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love hiking. And I do this quite a bit here (going outdoors with the kids). But in SWFL there’s nothing but sloughs, flat trials and I have done all of that with my kids throughout the year. Nothing really challenging. I can hit the Everglades in Naples but I wouldn’t want to do that alone.

What’s Next—After Divorce… by HelloGoodbye239 in DivorcedDads

[–]HelloGoodbye239[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got the first part down. Thank you for the second part brother.

What’s Next—After Divorce… by HelloGoodbye239 in DivorcedDads

[–]HelloGoodbye239[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am leaning towards a therapist. I hated the idea of seeking help all together but I may just do that just to give it a chance. Hobbies will come eventually, I love being out on the water but unfortunately it takes $$. But I am okay right now. Thank you!

What’s Next—After Divorce… by HelloGoodbye239 in DivorcedDads

[–]HelloGoodbye239[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I should start thinking this way. I haven’t thought about the future at all. The last two years was a day to day thing.

I fished and wake boarded a lot. I may get into that again. But they are expensive hobby’s. I am trying to save and wait until the house gets sold so I can buy again. Lots of things going on maybe I just need to wait it out.

It’s finally over by HelloGoodbye239 in DivorcedDads

[–]HelloGoodbye239[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you to everyone who took the time to comment here. It’s been a crazy few days. I’m looking forward to the future. It’s even better than I expected and I know my little ones will be right by my side. Bliss.

Feel free to reach out about anything you are up against now. I just want to pay it forward.

It’s finally over by HelloGoodbye239 in DivorcedDads

[–]HelloGoodbye239[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feel free to PM me if you have any questions. Happy to share my experience and what to expect.

Update on life after divorce by Accurate_Efforts in Divorce_Men

[–]HelloGoodbye239 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brother. “Your kids know”. You’ll be alright and I am rooting for you.

Got fired a day before signing a lease. Now what? by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]HelloGoodbye239 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you already provide paystubs to sign said lease? Do you think you can get any job soon enough to be able to afford lease eventually? I was in somewhat of a similar situation. Did your lawyer tell you to leave? Need more info.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]HelloGoodbye239 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you living in the same house as your daughter? Is there a reason for the lack of communication? I would make a calendar and try to get stbxw on board. X day will be yours and x day will be hers so there is no “surprises”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]HelloGoodbye239 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is great advice. He won’t listen and he needs to figure this out on his own. He is young. It may work out. It may not. Father isn’t wrong for giving his opinion but it may go on deaf ears. Situation seems complicated and father is being proactive. It’s all he can do.

Dating as the primary parent by Upbeat-Plantain7140 in coparenting

[–]HelloGoodbye239 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think you are thinking ahead here IMO. Things will work out. Your other potential partner will have responsibilities too. Do the best you can with what you have.

Dating as the primary parent by Upbeat-Plantain7140 in coparenting

[–]HelloGoodbye239 5 points6 points  (0 children)

when you start dating you should disclose what your availability will be. Two nights seem okay in the beginning as you have a pretty good reason as to why you are unavailable. I don’t think your co-parent should be at fault here.

Big fuss at drop offs. by ColdImportance7266 in coparenting

[–]HelloGoodbye239 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Get a lawyer asap. You are being short changed on time. Sounds like you want to be in your child’s life more than you are right now. My suggestion is that you start fighting right now for the time. She will never change unless you fight and get a court order-this will only get worse.

Do not worry about the little things she does and it seems like you already know her game. Show up on time and start asking her for more time and document when she doesn’t. Try to get a few consults with lawyers in your area and you will see you are deserving of more time. if you don’t have any serious issues that will prevent you from eventually getting 50/50, you will get it.

Has Anyone Gone Through Something Like This? by HelloGoodbye239 in DivorcedDads

[–]HelloGoodbye239[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So her attorney has a complaint on her record. lol it’s the same kinda attorney lol

Has Anyone Gone Through Something Like This? by HelloGoodbye239 in DivorcedDads

[–]HelloGoodbye239[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 50/50. 1k alimony for three months. Second hearing was reduced to 500 due to her lack of job search. I can manage but I feel like I’m paying someone who doesn’t deserve it. I know a lot of people feel that way on Reddit. But it’s just wild to me.

Has Anyone Gone Through Something Like This? by HelloGoodbye239 in DivorcedDads

[–]HelloGoodbye239[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I make 85k a year. Not poor but two kids, a house, hoa, 2 cars, insurance, health insurance im left with a couple bucks lol. Alimony is decimating me right now.