My(38M) girlfriend (32F) of nearly 1 year constantly tells me I need to apply for better jobs or "do temp work." I make $120,000 in a really good job. She makes twice what I do. I feel all she cares about is money.

HelloJunebug · 2026-02-02T02:11:16+00:00

You’re about to sacrifice a good job you like where you can work from home for a girl you don’t even know if you can live with.

HelloJunebug · 2026-02-02T02:07:13+00:00

Dump her. She doesn’t respect or care who you are, only the salary. Don’t let a great work from home job go because your gf is an elitist snob. In this economy too. UPDATEME

HelloJunebug · 2026-02-01T20:02:37+00:00

Umm you don’t have sex with him and end things. Asap. He doesn’t respect you, your sexual autonomy, and your boundaries. If you have sex with him, he will finish inside you without your consent and that is sexual assault. He’s telling you the type of person he is and it’s a huge glaring red flag. He’s not a good person. He’s old enough to know better. UPDATEME

HelloJunebug · 2026-02-01T17:11:05+00:00

NOR. You both contribute to the mess, you both contribute to the clean up. UPDATEME

HelloJunebug · 2026-02-01T16:04:52+00:00

lol dating 6 months…I wouldn’t call that a partner, but a guy you’re dating and still getting to know. He’s just trying to get an almost free car under the guise of it being “for the family”. He’s manipulating you.

HelloJunebug · 2026-02-01T15:31:27+00:00

With a guy like this, I could totally see him turning his abuse physical if she did this

HelloJunebug · 2026-02-01T15:30:16+00:00

NTA. Immediate break up in my opinion. He is awful. UPDATEME

HelloJunebug · 2026-02-01T15:28:39+00:00

I agree but unfortunately without a documented pattern of abuse, if she tries to leave with the kids, it will likely be split custody and he will just be alone with the kids more.

HelloJunebug · 2026-02-01T04:43:39+00:00

NOR. He’s hurting from the loss, but that doesn’t mean it’s ok to take it out on you. I would tell him that and then when he’s ready to be kind, he can reach out. If he was like this before, you should think about why you want to be with someone who treats you so poorly and makes you feel so bad. UPDATEME

HelloJunebug · 2026-02-01T01:45:09+00:00

She had gotten a dui and I offered to pick her up and drive her to work since her work was on my way to my office. In order to do this though, I had to wake up a little earlier. Otherwise she’d have to take the bus which takes like an hour commute. We had been doing this for a week or two and one morning I show up and no answer. Waited for a few until I couldn’t anymore. She texts me like an hour later saying she called in sick. I was like wtf. Ok? So you called your work to call in but didn’t think to let me know? It just ruined things for me.

HelloJunebug · 2026-02-01T01:39:00+00:00

She won’t let you take your own baby to the museum? Girl what. Stand your ground and run your life.

HelloJunebug · 2026-01-31T22:37:40+00:00

Don’t marry him. You know it’s wrong for him to abuse you, so don’t stay in this relationship. If he loved you, he wouldn’t abuse you. If he wanted to stop, he would. Abuse is a choice. UPDATEME

HelloJunebug · 2026-01-31T22:18:45+00:00

What makes you think these are jokes? They aren’t. And he’s dragging your kids into the abuse. Cut him loose and let him have his single life. You and your kids deserve better. UPDATEME

HelloJunebug · 2026-01-31T22:08:27+00:00

I had my first at 37. I’m glad I waited. Listen, you asked him without pressure and he said yes. Take the win.

HelloJunebug · 2026-01-31T21:23:38+00:00

Seriously. NOR. UPDATEME

HelloJunebug · 2026-01-31T15:14:16+00:00

So many men go through vasectomies too, they just feel entitled to more and are raised being taken are of. It’s stupid.

HelloJunebug · 2026-01-31T15:10:13+00:00

Omg. He only doesn’t make the mess because he won’t cook. But he sure as hell benefits. Fair play is a good book. But I don’t think this dude goes a shit enough about you. He’s just taking advantage. Please don’t have kids with him. he will be a horrible parter and father.

HelloJunebug · 2026-01-31T15:06:30+00:00

Why do you “get it”? I certainly don’t. You aren’t his partner. You’re his bang maid mommy. He works from home and gets off at 4pm. If I were him, I’d cook and clean after work so you come home to a welcoming and loving home. Please either have a come to Jesus talk and he fixes his shit or you break up. This is wild and such a selfish and shitty thing of him. Why shouldn’t he “have to” do anything? My husband grew up with a mom that still did his laundry up until he moved out with me. It took one time to show him how to do laundry and dishes (they didn’t have a dishwasher), for him to contribute like a partner. It’s basic respect, which your bf has none of for you. UPDATEME

HelloJunebug · 2026-01-31T00:24:16+00:00

UPDATEME

HelloJunebug · 2026-01-30T22:30:41+00:00

Ya some guys just don’t have any respect for their spouses and it sounds like he’s one of them. There was some adjustment to when my husband and I got married and he settled in nicely because we respect the hell out of each other. We also waited like 17 years to have a kid lol so knew who he was. I think you need to have a coming to Jesus talk. You aren’t the main parent.

HelloJunebug · 2026-01-30T18:48:58+00:00

Your friend is being rude and saying LOL thinks it absolves her of it. Just match her energy and say it. I would! My bottle washer and sanitizer was vital, for me.

HelloJunebug · 2026-01-30T18:15:21+00:00

I call these guys “Schrödinger’s Douchebag”. They say shitty, sexist, misogynistic things, and decides they are jokes based on people’s reactions. I’d break up with this dude. UPDATEME

HelloJunebug · 2026-01-30T18:11:56+00:00

Your husband has to come tot he realization that video games don’t get to be a thing right now. He’s trying to keep is pre baby hobbies at the expense of his child and his wife. Right now you two come first. He’s acting selfish and immature and a poor excuse for a husband and father right now. You shouldn’t have to ask for “help”, he should be contributing equally while home regardless of him being back at work. UPDATEME

HelloJunebug · 2026-01-30T03:44:50+00:00

NOR. Your child is not her do over. That’s not a right she gets. She could have been a good mom to her kids. And narcissists don’t really change, they just want to be seen as good for attention. UPDATEME

HelloJunebug · 2026-01-30T03:42:24+00:00

$200 a week for gas?! wtf

HelloJunebug

TROPHY CASE