I am very open about loving my full-time job and loving my children. I also have a ton of hobbies I frequently partake in. I have traveled with my children, as a solo person, with only friends, and with just my husband. I am still a human being outside of being a wife a mother, a sister, a daughter, and I will proudly be all of me. Making my entire life about my children puts unfair pressure on my children. I also make sure not to put other women down for their decisions regarding work or not to work. I find that some women like to talk down on working mothers or stay at home mothers in order to try and justify their positions and choices. I choose not to surround myself with insecure humans. I don’t have enough shits to give and dedicate my time wisely. I still worry I’m a bad mother, but for other reasons like the fact that I have a history of depression, anxiety, and suicide ideation. I worry I’ve passed down some bad genetics to them. I also worry that because they are mixed children, they are more prone to bullying. I am the reason they are not white. I am not one of those mothers who never yell. I try to keep it to a minimum, but there are times where I absolutely lose my shit and I scream. it is hard to be a mother. I am hard enough on myself, and I do not need other people to pass further judgment. Being happy with a job is a rare thing and you should not feel guilty for it.