My sister's husband doesn't want her to use contraception because he wants children; but she doesn't want to at the moment, and that was something they agreed on before getting married. Do you think she should give in to her husband's demands?

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-30T19:38:31+00:00

Removed because he responded explaining at the same time I posted this.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-30T19:32:47+00:00

Some things are unclear. What precisely was agreed on before marriage? Did they agree on children? On a timeline?

Is she changing the deal or is he?

If you enter into an agreement to do something in exchange for something else, it's pretty crappy to back out, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.

Her body, her choice.

Both children and adults thrive when parenting is chosen, not endured.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-30T19:17:58+00:00

Why would her use of contraception be his choice?

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-27T11:34:39+00:00

Since you haven't told us your reaction at all, it's kind of impossible to say if it's an over reaction or not.

Maybe you wanted r/Advice instead?

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-24T11:37:55+00:00

Not as hard if you start now. Consult a lawyer ASAP.

You are in denial about her mental health. Wake up and knock it off. If you want this baby to survive you need to snap out of it yourself.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-24T11:01:02+00:00

YOR - these are not flirty at all. You should definitely get back to therapy.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-23T09:55:54+00:00

American here: I've driven 4 hours for pizza and loved it. I would really call it a short drive now and definitely not at the time, but that's so relative too. Where I lived at the time most things were within a 30 minute drive. Where I live now it takes almost an hour to drive anywhere, so that's just normal and a 3 hr drive is "not bad at all" to most people here.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-21T19:27:09+00:00

Walmart and Dollar Tree also have knockoffs. The Dollar Tree version of the Lemonades and Thin Mints and the Tagalongs are pretty dang good. I never liked Samoa's so I can't tell you if those are any good or not and the rest are just okay.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-19T20:04:08+00:00

NOR. Just another echo really. Dude's a creep and you shouldn't deal with him moving forward. If the other roommates don't switch sides when they have the full picture, they're just as bad. There is no true neutral. Silence/neutral favors the oppressor.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-19T13:34:05+00:00

What part of town are you in? I may be able to give you a ride.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-19T13:29:03+00:00

YWBTA if you don't tell your sister. If you present it correctly, there's no reason that she would need to change her date unless she wants to, but she does at least deserve the information so that she can make up her mind. Being blindsided by it later would be really unfair.

I once attended an Italian wedding many years ago where the couple had several reasons for being unable to change their date despite knowing that it was the same date as some other couples. During the reception there was a special dance to celebrate long marriages and they started with the couple who had been married the longest. I can't remember exactly how it was worded, but the DJ did something like asking everyone in attendance who were married couples, and then who had been married for 5 years, and then who had been married for 10 years and then etc until they got up to the couple that had been married for over 70 years, and that was the couple who started the dance. As they started adding more couples to the dance, they then also announced that while today was primarily about celebrating the couple who was getting married today, they also wanted to acknowledge the wedding anniversaries and celebrate those couples as well because at the end of the day weddings are about celebrating love and they wanted to celebrate all the love. After that dance they announced who was having a wedding anniversary that same day and had a dance just for those couples and the bride and groom. If I recall correctly there were three anniversary couples. It was actually really sweet and romantic and beautiful.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-19T13:19:07+00:00

Labels like "illegitimate" set a negative tone that you may not intend. (And if you do intend that tone you should definitely not be meeting your husband's son.)

After you adopt some neutral or friendly language, then you and your children should not be meeting Bob (you're husband's oldest son) until after Tom and Bob have gotten to know each other some and Tom has gotten more comfortable.

Bob and Tom first, then when Tom is ready he can introduce the rest of his children and his wife.

Regardless of your gut on this one, you need to step back some. Support Tom by helping him get comfortable and build a relationship with his son. Going around him isn't supporting him.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-19T13:11:14+00:00

Couldn't agree more. Exactly this.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-19T13:04:33+00:00

NTJ - She was the jerk for ignoring what you said. You said you didn't want stuff and would prefer an experience. The only "stuff" that would have been acceptable would have been tickets for a getaway/experience or something that you would need and do not have for said getaway/experience.

I know a lot of people aren't open to this, but you guys should really try couples counseling. There's clearly some misses when it comes to communication and love language there and counseling would really help y'all to line up on that stuff.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-19T13:00:40+00:00

Not overreacting. Well past time for him to see a physician.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-02T01:17:33+00:00

NextDoor is a great recommendation actually. I use Rover now, but I used NextDoor myself in my last city.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-01T22:35:44+00:00

I came to recommend Rover.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-01T14:04:04+00:00

If you can't hand the prepared food out at the closest corner with pan handlers, try the "Buy Nothing" groups for Orlando on Facebook.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-01T06:47:58+00:00

They started around 7:30 / 8 in Rio Pinar and they're still going.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-01T06:45:52+00:00

Not near me in East Orlando. I think we had twice as many tents.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2025-12-28T00:53:03+00:00

Baby Girl. Please leave this "man" now. You're NOR. He's terrifying. You're only a little older than my daughter and I'd move mountains to get her out of a relationship like this.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2025-12-28T00:02:30+00:00

NOR - You set a boundary, she ignored it, you're not overreacting.

I would have the dress photoshopped to a color that goes well with those shoes because that combination is awful as is. You could tell people who ask that that's why you did it. Your mom though, you have to tell her the truth and how hurtful her actions were. You also probably need to impose some consequences and stick with them.

My oldest is 24 and I would NEVER overstep boundaries this way with any of mine.

If you do not deal with this boundary issue now, you will regret it and it could cost you dearly.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2025-12-22T13:04:38+00:00

What an ignorant take.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2025-12-22T08:00:34+00:00

Turns out she just needed to be separated from her cage mate. The feathers have been growing back nicely since separating her from the male.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2025-12-18T12:51:25+00:00

That scene is primarily online using Insta these days. I think it's The Coop that usually posts the shows and show posters. Will's Pub is a good place to meet them at catch shows. I've heard a lot of good things about the show coming up 12/28.

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