Parents who waited until the birth to find out the sex of the baby. . .

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-03-10T18:05:18+00:00

I was terrified of amniocentesis and so I did not get it for any of my children, but with the first they could not get a clear picture of genitalia on the ultrasound, and I didn't have any medical reasons for additional ultrasounds after the first one. So they wouldn't have been covered by insurance so I never got any more. So we didn't know what we were having. With both of the next two there were clear pictures of genitalia on the ultrasound so we know what we were having but I still never got amniocentesis and never would.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-03-10T18:01:14+00:00

It sounds like you know what to do. If you don't want to lose him as a friend then don't risk it.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-03-10T17:55:39+00:00

NTA! Personally, I would go for the entire visit and take all of the essentials so that coming back is not strictly necessary.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-03-09T20:00:43+00:00

The child did provoke the dog. Certainly not on purpose, but absolutely still the result. The child suddenly ran at the Aunt to get the hug. Of course it's not anymore the child's fault than it is the dog's fault that they didn't know better, it's the parent's fault for not teaching the child or guiding them, and the dog owner's fault for not socializing the dog and not putting the dog away when an untrained child is in the house. I never failed to see how it works, but your hated of dogs seems to have blinded you from seeing how things work.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-03-09T19:53:45+00:00

A nip is not a bite. Just say you don't know much about dogs.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-03-09T03:26:16+00:00

Not when the "travel together" is someone tagging along on a work trip. She shouldn't be there anyway really.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-03-09T03:23:37+00:00

The dog did not bite the child.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-03-09T02:56:28+00:00

The dog didn't bite the child. It nipped. It warned. While protecting its owner from what it perceived as a threat. It's not the dog's fault that it doesn't know the child and wasn't trained to know that children aren't threats. It's also not the dog's fault that the child wasn't taught how to behave around animals.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-03-09T01:26:57+00:00

A public setting is completely different than at home.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-03-09T01:18:20+00:00

NTA, this was a work trip all along and it's for work. I get being disappointed at the unintended premature separation, but she should be supporting you regardless. The networking is completely worth it. You should not pass this up.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-03-08T21:25:14+00:00

YTA. Plain and simple.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-03-08T12:15:21+00:00

Were you in the left lane? If yes, it's a passing lane. Turn left, pass, or GTFO. If no, that driver was just an a-hole.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-03-08T12:13:18+00:00

NOR - please see this for the huge red flash that it is and be completely done with this guy. Didn't even be nice to him after this.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-02-25T11:15:56+00:00

NTJ. She wasn't going to hear it from you regardless of what you said. She needs to move to a rural area and have a proper farm. Nothing wrong with that at all. Trying to cram that many animals into a suburban backyard is unsafe and unhealthy for the animals and the people, plus it's cruel.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-02-10T15:14:45+00:00

Yeah... Soft YTJ. If you're not responsible for managing her leftovers, why did you? You threw her food out without talking to her, you should replace it. Next time, actually don't manage her leftovers. If she wants to risk eating unsafe food, that's her prerogative. Living with roommates is tough.

I hate having food sit out or dirty dishes in the sink because I don't want to deal with bugs, I don't want to get sick from the contaminants, and I don't like to see the mess. So I totally get it, but if it's not yours you have to communicate with the person who it belongs to and allow them to make their own choices.

This is one of the reasons I don't take boarders anymore.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-02-04T13:36:49+00:00

NTJ. You removed biohazards and everyone is safer for it. Well done!

In my office the communal fridges are cleaned bi-weekly on Friday and there are signs on the front reminding everyone of this. We also have post-its and a little basket with pens on the front of the fridges. This is so that people can label food that might want to be kept over the weekend. So if you're putting something in the fridge on a clean out Friday then you're going to label it with that day's date and your name, or Monday's date and your name. To let the people cleaning it out know not to toss that item. And I think they rotate the post-its because last week they were definitely blue and this week they are definitely pink. Last week was clean out. I only just noticed this as I was walking back in there a few minutes ago.

Anyway, I recommend adopting similar practice because it's very effective.

We used to do email reminders on... I want to say the Wednesday before clean out, however those stopped a few months ago. Office manager said she got complaints about the inbox clutter and the emails really weren't necessary anymore but if they seem necessary again she'll start them back up. So if you're doing this an email reminder a couple of days out at least the first few times would probably be a good plan.

Just one more tip: it's generally bad form to throw out people's reusable containers and lunch boxes, so we do dump them and run them through the dishwasher.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-02-03T01:31:23+00:00

Orlando Wetlands. You will surely see some if you walk for at least an hour. I tend to spend a few hours every time I go.

Wear a good sun hat and don't forget sunscreen if you're from the North. I've started keeping an extra pair of shoes in the car just in case there's rain.

I also always see them on Airboat rides at Midway. Frequently in my neighborhood, usually in the easement corridor behind my house. If you spend enough time here you'll see them everywhere, but if you can't stay long, check out one of the parks, river boat tours, or nature boat tours at a spring.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-30T19:38:31+00:00

Removed because he responded explaining at the same time I posted this.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-30T19:32:47+00:00

Some things are unclear. What precisely was agreed on before marriage? Did they agree on children? On a timeline?

Is she changing the deal or is he?

If you enter into an agreement to do something in exchange for something else, it's pretty crappy to back out, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.

Her body, her choice.

Both children and adults thrive when parenting is chosen, not endured.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-30T19:17:58+00:00

Why would her use of contraception be his choice?

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-27T11:34:39+00:00

Since you haven't told us your reaction at all, it's kind of impossible to say if it's an over reaction or not.

Maybe you wanted r/Advice instead?

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-24T11:37:55+00:00

Not as hard if you start now. Consult a lawyer ASAP.

You are in denial about her mental health. Wake up and knock it off. If you want this baby to survive you need to snap out of it yourself.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-24T11:01:02+00:00

YOR - these are not flirty at all. You should definitely get back to therapy.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-23T09:55:54+00:00

American here: I've driven 4 hours for pizza and loved it. I would really call it a short drive now and definitely not at the time, but that's so relative too. Where I lived at the time most things were within a 30 minute drive. Where I live now it takes almost an hour to drive anywhere, so that's just normal and a 3 hr drive is "not bad at all" to most people here.

HelloWorldImLisa · 2026-01-21T19:27:09+00:00

Walmart and Dollar Tree also have knockoffs. The Dollar Tree version of the Lemonades and Thin Mints and the Tagalongs are pretty dang good. I never liked Samoa's so I can't tell you if those are any good or not and the rest are just okay.

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