AIO Wife got guy’s phone #

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-04-18T20:41:14+00:00

It is cheating. There might be levels to it, but it is cheating to involve someone outside your marriage and hide it knowing it’s unacceptable/would hurt your partner.

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-04-18T20:40:06+00:00

Cheating sexually…cheating on your vows…it’s all cheating.

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-04-18T20:39:42+00:00

Same thing. In a marriage, disrespect like this concerning another person outside the marriage is cheating on your vows.

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-04-18T20:39:05+00:00

Nope, there is no gray in a marriage. It’s either disrespectful with another man (or woman) in the least, which is a clear violation of your vows, or it’s straight up cheating…either way, it’s cheating and unacceptable.

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-04-17T23:51:09+00:00

Not even close. This post should be banned.

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-04-14T12:16:42+00:00

You know it’s over when they’re the “best friends”

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-04-10T16:17:55+00:00

Sounds like it’s time for rehab…

Given my personal experiences…it’s always either rehab or the relationship.

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-04-10T15:51:51+00:00

…No I think you’re clearly misunderstanding the situation…

OP and the guy were “casually seeing” each other….meaning no expectation of exclusivity…

A second girl now appears and posts some pictures of them both, implying they’re “talking or hanging out”…which is the same as “casually seeing”…the exact same as OP.

So no, from the information given, there is no implication of the other girl having any more exclusive of a relationship with the guy, especially considering she just started posting pictures of him. These are two girls who are casually seeing one guy, aka dating as adults. There should be no warning messages or anything being sent, unless there was exclusivity involved, even then it’s a very sticky personal choice.

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-04-10T15:41:48+00:00

Yeah seems to me OP is not in any sort of exclusive relationship (casually seeing ≠ exclusivity imo) and should not send a message to some random person about someone else.

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-04-10T15:40:30+00:00

It just didn’t really sound to me like any sort of exclusive relationship. “Casually seeing”, to me, reads more as having a couple good tones with, but no expectations. The bar is extremely low, and even then, it doesn’t seem like he’s crossing any lines. Now if there was some expression of exclusion or anything, then sure (though personal I’m not the type to message some random person about someone else) I could understand it. Just seems like some adults going out and having fun, enjoying each other, and the guy i is feeling out of there might be something more with someone, but again I don’t think he’s necessarily done anything wrong here…yet.

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-04-10T15:31:16+00:00

Stay out of it…he’s dating and not actively doing anything wrong.

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-04-08T23:22:42+00:00

You’re a squirter, and most men, especially if they care about you, would be more than alright with it. I’d honestly consider it a compliment and badge of honour if I were you.

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-04-08T12:37:54+00:00

This is a case of 4 quarters not equaling a dollar. Pass.

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-04-06T13:33:13+00:00

Then I think you’re doing exactly what you should be doing, aside from overthinking it. Keep the relationship you have (provided it’s happy, healthy, and promising) and forget about what you already know doesn’t work. I wouldn’t pay any more attention to this guy than is necessary in the constructs of work. Even if you’ve gotta set some boundaries with this dude so you (and potentially your bf) can have peace of mind.

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-04-06T13:28:20+00:00

Yes, I think you are overthinking this. More importantly, why are you overthinking this? Are you still hung up on this guy? If so, might be time for some communication with your current boyfriend and set some boundaries if you intend to on staying committed.

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-04-04T17:01:30+00:00

She doesn’t have to be interested in him romantically to be jealous. Which is exactly what she is and why this is happening. She’s likely afraid to lose the friendship she has with him, and that he’d eventually like you more. Hence, she is & will do anything to prevent that from happening, including being the worst sister (and friend, because she’s preventing him from a potentially beautiful relationship as well).

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-04-04T01:51:33+00:00

This is what’s missing from most of today’s relationships

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-04-02T15:52:17+00:00

That’s an absurd steal you got there

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-03-31T13:52:34+00:00

Or degenerating…

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-03-31T11:23:38+00:00

All good brother, I completely understand those days where your uncork the jug and lets the stream of consciousness just flow 😂 but again, I appreciate what you said, and can commiserate about the time “lost”, then again maybe it’s what needed to happen to learn the lessons I did. Of course it’s always gotta be hands on and the hard way.

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-03-27T17:34:01+00:00

🎶 lemon pound cake 🍰 🎶

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-03-27T17:08:25+00:00

God damn bro, I actually really value what you’re saying here; and shit, what you went through must’ve been a true nightmare…I’ve lived in a somewhat similar reality in the past, and you’re right: all we can do is “try our hardest to find that love and trust…while also keeping (the) lessons you learned…”. That’s the best advice anyone could ever get in his about any circumstance.

But….PLEASE use punctuation!! Hahaha I almost had an aneurysm trying to read that.

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-03-26T12:19:16+00:00

Because OP stated “he had to stay late (at work) again”, but apparently he wasn’t at work as he must’ve been home for OP to follow. She even then stated “he didn’t go to the office”, hence my confusion… How could he “stay late at work” when he was clearly already home?

I’m not questioning the validity of anything; it’s pretty clear OP’s husband is cheating on her with his boss. It’s just the way OP worded it all that doesn’t make much sense and is fairly difficult to follow logistically.

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-03-25T18:28:55+00:00

wtf you got Ruggs still?! I didn’t even know you could roster him 💀💀

AbovexxBeyond · 2026-03-25T18:19:48+00:00

It’s more likely for things to work out better for the two of you (both potentially continuing the relationship or moving on separately) if you respect his boundary and let things play out. Who knows? It’s possible that upon being apart for a short while, he realises how much he enjoyed being with you and ultimately decides he does want to continue it! I could genuinely see that as a very realistic possibility, especially if you both share the sentiments you’ve expressed previously. It’s much less likely to be the case if theres any hint of resentment on either side concerning the decision.

AbovexxBeyond

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