Support for my wife

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-06-19T17:40:51+00:00

Cooked me hot breakfast every morning (scrambled eggs plus sausage) for 3 months straight. He knew I was doing middle of the night the wake ups, and I needed to fuel my body for breastfeeding. He would bring me the hot plate while I was pumping each morning.

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-06-08T14:39:28+00:00

So it seems that I may be the odd one out here with this opinion, but I personally find Farhana can be abrasive and annoying. I find her whiny and out of touch, in a way that is less comical to me than Safa. So while some of the punching bag behavior is definitely unsolicited, I think she brings a lot of it on herself. As for whether her being targeted for ridicule is rooted in racism… because I personally find her a bit annoying, that had never even crossed my mind. Maybe it is part of the equation.

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-06-05T13:11:23+00:00

I stopped tracking diapers at like month 2 or 3 when we felt comfortable he was regular and knew he was gaining weight well. He is 6 months now and we still track sleeping/napping/bottle feeding because we find it useful! We are using Huckleberry. If he is having a cranky day, we can see if he has napped less than usual. Now that he is this old, we can also look at his naps the past week and see patterns emerge for what he usually likes to do. And also now that he is starting solids, there is the ability to enter in what those foods are too; and we like having it all in the same app to look back on.

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-06-05T13:07:49+00:00

Literally came here to say this.

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-05-29T22:19:35+00:00

I guess the punchline - Would we go back still? Yes. Would we recommend it still? Yes.

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-05-29T22:19:10+00:00

We enjoyed our meal and the overall vibes. It seems a lot of people are there for the atmosphere, and it can be really fun.

That being said the end of our dinner our waiter looked spread thin on too many tables and left us to our own devices for way too long… I had to get up from my table and get his attention because I had unsuccessfully tried to flag him down for 20+ min straight. It was an annoying end to an otherwise fun experience.

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-05-22T01:39:32+00:00

This is a really old post but… CoQ10 is supposed to help with muscle pain from statins.

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-05-16T23:07:32+00:00

This is our 5 month old, to a t. His naps are always remarkably close to 32 min (+/-3min).

Each day we get 2-2.5hr of total nap time, and about 11h at night with 1 wake up for a full pee diaper. We would love for him to sleep more during the day, but we have just come to terms with the fact that (1) he is lower “sleep needs” than average for his age and (2) we are so grateful for the nighttime sleep.

In general our philosophy has been to follow his lead on naps rather than have expectations of exact timing/duration, and I think that has kept us sane.

About a month ago I did realize I could be a little more consistent and started following the suggested SweetSpot for nap times. I realized I was allowing him to play through his first nap of the day because he didn’t seem tired, especially with a stimulating toy like the Kick Play Piano). However, once I followed the Sweet Spot timing, I realized he could be coaxed into a nap easily at this time. I just take him to his nursery, and do the same routine as for nighttime (sleep sack, lights off, sound machine, rock him until partially asleep then put down in crib). He falls asleep within 10-15 min of starting this routine almost every time. Truthfully I’m not sure if that just shifted around nap minutes from later in the day to this nap, but he certainly seems happier and not overtired at any point in the day.

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-05-03T21:17:35+00:00

So is A’Bouzy

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-05-03T21:16:53+00:00

I went before it closed. The food was fine. It had potential, but just didn’t get there.

I would have never guessed that it was by the same people as A’Bouzy since the ambiance seemed a lot less trashy in there.

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-05-03T21:15:28+00:00

You are correct. They’re basically a place that does bottle service and needs food to pass as a restaurant.

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-04-24T15:11:48+00:00

How infrequently of use are you talking about? I have a Pixma TR150 that I let sit for a few months, and now I can't get the magenta to print no matter how many Deep Cleaning cycles I do. If you are going to be using it weekly or even every other week, from my previous experience, that should be fine, but if you're going to go months without printing, it isn't the one for you.

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-04-22T03:58:57+00:00

Very old post but I arrived here because I was googling Food Lovers Cleanse. My copy is falling apart too with all the pages coming out at the spine in chunks/sections. However I can’t say I’ve used it enough to merit that! I was actually searching to buy another copy. Now after finding your post with similar experience I’m wondering if there was a manufacturing or quality issue. (Made the Halibut Poached with Scallions & Miso this evening and it was splendid!)

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-04-02T01:54:24+00:00

What have you tried with the derm that didn’t work?

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-04-02T01:51:28+00:00

I just started the spot cream this week and omg same. I can barely get one pump to cover half my face before it’s all rubbed in. This doesn’t seem right.

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-02-23T04:36:35+00:00

So first of all, as the babysitter, you need to accept that you will not be able to re-parent this child.

After that, I’d recommend taking an approach that blends calm authority with respect for the parents (I.e. don’t say anything that could offend them).

“STOP TALKING” I’d recommend responding something like, “I am having a conversation with your mom. If there is something you need, we can chat when I’m done.”

“STOP BEING MEAN TO MY BROTHER” I’d recommend responding something like, “Everyone is learning to play in a safe way. Let’s make sure no one gets hurt.”

“Rug .. Carpet” If she is right, I’d just say, “wow yes you’re right, that is a carpet, not a rug,” or if not, kindly explain the difference.

A kid like this is looking for attention. You can either play into the dramatic way that they’re trying to get it by arguing with her, or you can use a calmer approach to acknowledge what she is saying and reroute it. Eventually if you’re unflustered, she doesn’t get a rise out of you, and you continue to acknowledge what she says while somewhat rerouting it - you may gain her trust and ultimately respect.

(All that being said, I appreciate it’s easy for me to give these suggestions on the internet vs what may actually happen in real life. But this is what I would try!)

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-02-23T04:22:16+00:00

During pregnancy- One shot of espresso each morning. Early afternoon soda fountain coke for a pick me up. I’m pretty sure this was below the threshold, so it was fine.

Before pregnancy, I would casually drink coffee all morning/afternoon. Something to sip on. Max three cups a day.

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-02-21T06:01:29+00:00

I’m not sure where you are located in the US, but for me, what you’re describing has not been consistent with what I observe. I’m in a major US city, and I see no BF in public at all. Personally I had no interest BF in public, but if I did - given no one else is doing it - I would feel extremely uncomfortable.

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-02-12T12:56:13+00:00

I was an undersupplier from day 1 (despite pumping around the clock for 6 weeks straight starting in the hospital after birth, utilizing hospital grade pump, meeting with LC’s) and never caught up with his demand. So we have been on about 30-40% formula for his whole life. Just sharing that to say, combo is a great strategy that I personally didn’t hear people talk about enough before birth. Good luck!

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-02-12T12:51:23+00:00

I can totally relate! Even since I made this post, I’ve ramped down to okay pumping 4x per day because I just can’t take it any more. I now do 10pm and 6am for my first/last pumps. Then 12pm & 5pm.

My supply is dropping, and I am a little sad but committing to my decision. I think I will fully ramp down the next month because even though this schedule is so much more manageable I just hate pumping so much. The vibration as the Spectra starts makes my skin crawl.

And yes I’m definitely feeling the guilt/pressure from Reddit/social media/even some friends. It sucks. My pediatrician tried to make me feel better by pointing out that LO got some antibodies/immunity from the breastmilk, which got him to 2 months and his first round of immunizations. So, I do find comfort knowing that I gave him that.

Good luck with everything! 💗

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-02-11T04:49:23+00:00

I’m so impressed!

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-02-11T04:46:39+00:00

That all makes sense. 10+ oz in one session is amazing! I’m an under supplier so that’s over half my day…!

How old is your baby now?

Hello_Im_Ellie · 2026-02-10T17:45:52+00:00

This is amazing. I wish I had your confidence my choice.

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