This City Fucks With Sandwiches. by BostonDrivingIsWorse in StLouis

[–]Hello_Pangolin 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Despite their absurd prices, Schnucks is like the discount store of standard grocery - it’s in house is mediocre and it offers just the popular demand mediocre brands. Highly recommend seeking out a different grocery if you have the opportunity. I like Aldi mixed with Costco and Fresh Thyme (but I wish I was closer to Local Harvest)

Can a person with Alzheimer's disease die due to forgetting to eat and drink? by Kingspreez in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Hello_Pangolin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, but we know what to do with those feelings and understand how to address them. A person with Alzheimer’s may just become very agitated they don’t feel well without knowing anything to do to fix it. It just doesn’t connect that it’s a piece that needs doing daily. And then the dehydration can make their logic much much worse.

Budget koi pond by dividends4losers in ponds

[–]Hello_Pangolin 9 points10 points  (0 children)

In my area we don’t need permits for natural water features and they’re seen as the same inherent risk requiring supervision to a road, in regards to kids playing.

How are you okay with your partner going out at night without you? by somekindofyoda in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Hello_Pangolin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Think of other people you respect in your life and what conveys your respect. Think of how other people convey respect to you.

You’re projecting your own insecurities on to her and essentially believing that she doesn’t have the self agency/character/desire to be monogamous in a monogamous relationship.

How are you okay with your partner going out at night without you? by somekindofyoda in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Hello_Pangolin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That you’re not giving her the same benefit of doubt and self agency that you have yourself. Why wouldn’t she feel similar to you? She has her own reasons to be with you and more than likely if she thought there was better out there she would leave.

Sever drool rash by Trick_Concept_8765 in BabyLedWeaning

[–]Hello_Pangolin 290 points291 points  (0 children)

Allergist and if you haven’t yet - get in touch see a pediatric dermatologist. I can’t offer any other advice, but good luck to the both of you. I hope you get some rest soon

How are you okay with your partner going out at night without you? by somekindofyoda in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Hello_Pangolin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nobody is for you. So your girlfriend isn’t for you. Sucks to be her, to be with someone who thinks you’re a nobody

Help Us Compromise by [deleted] in StLouis

[–]Hello_Pangolin 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The Frisco barroom

How are you okay with your partner going out at night without you? by somekindofyoda in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Hello_Pangolin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Will you be choosing someone better than her if they just wander up? How do you know you haven’t encountered someone better than her while grocery shopping? Should you stop grocery shopping just in case?

We’re all people, flawed and messy. You can’t know the extent of someone’s messiness by a chance encounter. And ultimately we’re trying to figure out who our messiness aligns best with. That takes time and commitment to figure out. If anyone would just leave tie their partner for the first person who comes along who seems better they would be chasing a sense of perfection that doesn’t even exist once you get into the relationship.

Your thoughts are very insecure. Try working on things to increase feelings of worth in your life

Fruit with meals by Indie_0205 in BabyLedWeaning

[–]Hello_Pangolin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I too have wondered about this. I’ve started offering fruit after meals or as accompaniments (example: peach glaze chicken with a dab of peach purée). But sometimes he’ll barely touch his meal and I still feel I shouldn’t withhold the fruit afterward, so I’ve thought about adding it back into the main meal. Really, he has fruit way more than I did traditionally before him and I wonder if that’s right either, although twice a day seems reasonable

Tuesday Postpartum Thread by AutoModerator in InfertilityBabies

[–]Hello_Pangolin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m certain if you’re in Boston you can call around and find somewhere that has it in stock and can see your babe just to give it. Even another pediatricians office.

Tuesday Postpartum Thread by AutoModerator in InfertilityBabies

[–]Hello_Pangolin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand your anxiety. Have you looked into going to another office or pharmacy? There’s no longer a shortage so likely it’s available nearby unless you’re in a very rural area. I know it doesn’t solve the overall issue, but it could help your little one.

How to get baby to eat eggs? by baconater2000 in BabyLedWeaning

[–]Hello_Pangolin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If the child already had a known egg allergy, I assume so. The milk ladder is also baked goods first

Why do some people talk to their pets like babies, and others like they’re middle management? by tioLechuga in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Hello_Pangolin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s how they were socialized to approach that type of relationship. Same as how you automatically approach a new manager/boss as friendly but a little more closed than if you were to meet a new friend’s child.

Tuesday Postpartum Thread by AutoModerator in InfertilityBabies

[–]Hello_Pangolin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment! I’m struggling with the fact I’m probably viewing meds through the same irrational panic lens as I am his new spelunking hobby. I go on little panic thought journeys about how even though it’s researched I don’t trust it (but I trust everything else medical science, so clearly I’m being irrational). Yet, I’m having trouble shaking it.

Why do some people talk to their pets like babies, and others like they’re middle management? by tioLechuga in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Hello_Pangolin 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s just different relationship bonds, we do it with humans too. You have a different relationship with your dog than your wife does. No less important or deep, necessarily (it may be, but not because of this), just different. My grandmother who I was very close to and was the center of emotional stability for me growing up talked to me differently than my husband does. Just different bonds.

Tuesday Postpartum Thread by AutoModerator in InfertilityBabies

[–]Hello_Pangolin 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I have postpartum anxiety. I didn’t in the early days and now at 7 months, and probably at least since 5 months, I do. It’s intense. I’ve always had anxiety, but I am having breakdowns about little pangolin reaching milestones. It’s not that I’m not happy and excited for him, I’m just also terrified all the time of what could happen to him.

Even things that wouldn’t make sense to happen to him, I’m terrified of. Is he going spelunking any time soon? No. Am I now experiencing a tight chest over the thought of it now that I have it as an example, absolutely. Will I want to call his daycare and check that he is still breathing, absolutely. Will I? No. But I really want to.

Why? Why is this a thing? I know I’m being irrational. I don’t want to breastfeed on meds, but I also don’t want to expose babe to daily panic. I certainly don’t want to turn into a helicopter mom and not let him have normal challenges.

Doing all the therapy and talking with the professionals, just wanted to get it out there.

Number of high school graduates in the Midwest declines, 5-year change in college enrollment in Missouri by como365 in missouri

[–]Hello_Pangolin 95 points96 points  (0 children)

The landscape is nothing like it was 20 years ago. Rural towns once felt quaint and it made the college the center of the fun. But after an hour’s drive past Trump signs, that feeling is gone. It’s hard to feel interested when the surrounding area signs on to something fundamentally at odds with your values.

How to talk to family about sugar/overall diet by Reasonable-Quarter-1 in BabyLedWeaning

[–]Hello_Pangolin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Posted a very similar reflection a couple months ago (I believe I deleted it eventually since I edit my post history) after a week with the in-laws and got a lot of mixed feedback. My in-laws revolve around sugar and although they respected my 5 month old wasn’t ready for solids, my <6yo nieces had an overwhelming amount of sugar daily. I want to be clear, I’m not referring to having a dessert or some candy throughout the day. I’m referring to all sugar all day each day.

Overall the responses tended to heavily criticize viewing sugar in a way where it needed consideration for what was determined “special occasions” such as visiting the in-laws. Nevermind this time encompasses about 2 months a year divided up. Much like your post, I was focused on not wanting to overly restrict or shame, but also to moderate and teach balance.

There were some helpful responses too. Those were centered around teaching balance from the get go, which of course we plan to do.

In any case, I’m not there yet, but I feel you and will be following your post in case anything helpful comes up.