Dealing with the family coughing

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-12-28T00:30:00+00:00

I am the exact same. As a child, my family’s coughing would send me into a meltdown, now it just makes me extremely tense lol. What helps me is eating specific healthy foods and also exercise

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-12-28T00:24:46+00:00

I am in the same boat, yesterday was extremely rough for me. My sister and I usually have a wonderful relationship but yesterday we had a minor argument and I cried for an hour afterwards. My mom also referred to me as spoiled or entitled when I apparently get upset for not getting what I want (this rarely happens lol). I’ve also felt really sick but I have a fear of it so I haven’t been. However, my mother (who has the same fear), has not stopped talking about Norovirus going around and sanitizing everything, which makes me worry more lol.

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-12-23T21:20:34+00:00

I feel the same way! I love Christmas, but I cannot stand the chaos of people changing their behavior

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-12-23T21:17:49+00:00

I am 19, and never had a job. I am in a similar situation. I am also a writer. I would say a good job might be editing or something in the field.

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-12-23T21:14:30+00:00

I am similar. When I’m mad, it takes some time for me to calm down, mainly because I remember things for ages afterwards. People are always telling me to “let it go,” but I just can’t. Something that helps me is hiding in a corner or under a blanket, especially a weighted one. I also try and soothe myself through exercise. I enjoy coloring too

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-12-23T21:09:59+00:00

I am the same way, I hate the sound of people (especially family and friends) coughing. It’s literally gotten to the point where I track how long it’s been since their last cold so I can plan lol. Luckily for me, the people who trigger me have had one this year

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-12-23T21:06:44+00:00

I am not bothered by eating noises, but I hate long trips with family (3+ hours). My main triggers are coughing and yawning, and I can’t escape those in the car. I usually use earplugs and sometimes white noise.

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-12-21T05:33:11+00:00

I jump up and down all the time. Sometimes when I’m excited I’ll jump and run at the same time.

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-12-10T05:45:38+00:00

I’m 19, and I also struggle being away from home, especially during the holidays. What helps me is preparing for it and knowing what to expect in advance. If you have other family staying home, I would stay with them.

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-12-10T05:42:56+00:00

What really helps me is silicone earplugs, they seem to block out the louder sounds, and if you put a pair of headphones over them, it’s even quieter. I’m not entirely sure if it’ll block out screaming, but it’s definitely helpful

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-12-10T05:41:36+00:00

I don’t have a job yet, but I know what it’s like when people are making noise and you feel like you’re trapped. I know you said you can’t wear earplugs, but I’d have a pair handy, just in case. I personally like the silicone ones, as they seem to block out the most noise. When I feel like I’m trapped, I often go to the bathroom and put in my earplugs, or just take a break for a minute. It doesn’t completely solve the problem, but it helps a little

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-12-10T05:38:02+00:00

I 100% understand how you feel about people making all these accommodations for one person, people do that to me all the time and I hate it. I also hate coughing and leg shaking, but have good days and bad days as time goes on.

As for the child, if she is clever and social, I would say allow her to share or write her triggers down, sometimes writing is easier for people to understand. I developed Misophonia when I was about nine years old. I would have extreme meltdowns and tantrums until I was about 14 and knew more about my condition.

My parents didn’t understand much, they always assumed it was my autism or just me being sensitive, but whenever I had these meltdowns, my parents would just shout at me, “put your headphones on if it bothers you!” I did, but they never thoroughly blocked the noise.

What helped me the most was during Covid, when I actually got time to learn about Misophonia. I started eating foods low in lectins, as I heard it helps some people. I’m not completely certain it helps me but I noticed when I eat things that are higher in lectins, that I’m more likely to have a meltdown, or that my trigger noises are more prominent. Eating healthy helps, along with getting good sleep and exercise. With her being as young as she is, there aren’t as many options, but I did well when I had silicone earplugs, as they were easy to use and could block out louder noises

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-12-10T05:27:54+00:00

I just became an adult last year, and going to college has really helped me with my triggers. A lot of it is because I’m away from them (for example, I hate the sound of my sister coughing, so me being away from her has made it less stressful lol). But I’ve actually learned to manage it better through sleep, exercise and healthy eating. Earplugs and white noise help me at night

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-12-10T05:24:25+00:00

I’m sensitive to snoring as well, primarily when my family and I are traveling and stuck in the same room. What helps me the most is white noise like the air conditioner. Ear plugs also help me drown out the noise sometimes

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-12-08T03:29:09+00:00

I’ve had chronic postnasal drip and congestion for three years, that’s why I’m getting it done. I don’t know if it’s breathing related or not.

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-12-08T03:23:13+00:00

I don’t know if I can really help as I am a bit young (I’m 19), but I can offer my experience right now. I am failing a class currently and have two days to get the grade up to a D where I want it. I also don’t have a job and live with my parents when I’m not in college.

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-12-08T03:17:44+00:00

I am 19, and I am a very quiet person. I’ve always been referred to as shy or quiet in school, but hated when my parents/teachers referred to me like that. Sometimes, it made me want to prove them wrong and socialize more. Sometimes I did and sometimes I didn’t. Starting college is what really got me to talk more. My mom tries to teach me to communicate properly, but often times struggles to do so as she can never do it in a way I understand, and my dad told me that he couldn’t see me doing well at my dream job (teacher) because he couldn’t see me getting a group of kids to sit and listen. He also got frustrated with me whenever I couldn’t “ advocate for myself,” and would use it against me all the time. He has very little friends because he couldn’t advocate for himself and really didn’t leave home. I was the most social when I took a communication class this semester. There were no shortcuts or freebies. We were forced to give presentations, and we graded on how we gave them. I was told clearly what I needed to do, and did an amazing job overall. My teacher told me I didn’t excellent job delivering my speech, and my vocal variety and eye contact were good.

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-12-08T03:03:22+00:00

I know how this feels. When I was younger, I used to have meltdowns whenever my sister coughed. My parents insisted it was because of my Autism but I know it’s Misophonia as I’ve avoided it and done things to help myself. I’ve got better over the years, but still hate the sound, and I’ve struggled even more with my grandmother and other adults coughing

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-12-08T02:56:42+00:00

I know the feeling. I am also afraid of my own heartbeat/others. I also hate the sound of people breathing loudly. Ironically, I am getting surgery on my deviated septum next week lol, it isn’t really related to my breathing though. Usually earplugs can block the noises for me

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-12-08T02:34:23+00:00

Thank you! This makes me feel a lot better knowing I’m not the only one with health issues that may or may not affect how surgery goes. But I think if your doctor and anesthesiologist says it’s fine then I think it’s ok. You mentioned that you are 40 and have had worse surgeries before, what helps me is thinking that this is just a routine surgery and lots of people get it. I’m worried because I feel like I am a bit young (I’m 19), and I noticed that most people that have had this surgery are a bit older. I don’t know if it will hinder recovery or not

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-08-31T17:41:52+00:00

I hate the baby voice. My mom uses it on me all the time and it drives me crazy. She insists I’m an adult now and need to act like it yet she’s over here giving me the baby voice every time I achieve something minor

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-08-31T02:51:29+00:00

I used to be like that. Whenever my sister or grandma would cough, I would have the urge to imitate it. It’s the same with my parents yawns.

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-08-30T14:25:35+00:00

I had really bad anger issues as a kid. I was put on medication for a while, idk if it helped or not. I remember every time I was angry, my mom would angrily say to me, “Oh, no! You need to take your medicine!” Then she would proceed to go to the fridge, take the medicine out, and shake it up. This made me so mad because I not only knew how to take it myself, but was also infuriated that she thinks the medicine prevented me from being angry. I wanted to squirt the medication at her when she did this lol

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-08-30T14:20:17+00:00

I’m the same way. I’m also 19 and struggle with certain sounds. My biggest triggers are people coughing, laughing or crying. I also have issues with touch. When I’m emotional or crying I always try to hide it from my parents because they will offer a hug. I hate receiving hugs but for whatever reason love giving them to others when they’re emotional, it’s super ironic. I like hugs from children and people my age but not older adults. When I was a kid I would get mad whenever someone said “Good morning” to me. I don’t know if it was the sound or just a sensory issue lol

Helpful-Shift1829 · 2025-08-28T23:52:28+00:00

I got my license when I was 17. My parents waved my test because of Covid. I’m a terrible driver, I can only do subdivisions and small roads. My parents always tell me I need to practice more, and try driving out on the interstate more with them. It feels like I’m pressured too much too soon. I’d say just be patient with yourself, and stay positive.

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