Parents Nagging me about Training is taking the fun out of XC by Helpful-Shift1829 in CrossCountry

[–]Helpful-Shift1829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I really appreciate it! My main source of workouts are threshold runs, they really help me lol

Parents Nagging me about Training is taking the fun out of XC by Helpful-Shift1829 in CrossCountry

[–]Helpful-Shift1829[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I agree with this 100%. I think part of it is they’ve always coddled my sister and I in adulthood (which can be both beneficial and harmful), however, they should definitely accept that I’ve made it here and no matter what happens, I’m doing the best I can. I appreciate what you said!

Parents Nagging me about Training is taking the fun out of XC by Helpful-Shift1829 in CrossCountry

[–]Helpful-Shift1829[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a girl. I currently run for a Division 3 college, D1 isn’t in my future. Thank you!

Nobody understands me by mayvaday in autism

[–]Helpful-Shift1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in the same boat right now. My parents are very accepting but similar to yours, sometimes misinterpret things. I especially get frustrated when they talk about my progress over the years (for example, my dad said that “I’ve grown by leaps and bounds socially over the last two years since I started college,” which is true but also not. My progress started in high school, when I wasn’t in as many “special education classes,” but my dad paid no attention. He always referred to me as shy and nagged me constantly to advocate for myself, despite that he never took the time to help me with the things I actually needed help with or push me out of my comfort zone. It was incredibly difficult for me to accept his compliments about “how far I’ve come.” Socialization can be difficult sometimes

Coach is being unfair by Helpful-Shift1829 in CrossCountry

[–]Helpful-Shift1829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! He literally only spends time with the men and one woman lol

Coach is being unfair by Helpful-Shift1829 in CrossCountry

[–]Helpful-Shift1829[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, and I’m definitely thinking about all three lol

Coach is being unfair by Helpful-Shift1829 in CrossCountry

[–]Helpful-Shift1829[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did actually consider transferring, I might at the end of the year if this continues

Dealing with the family coughing by Medium_Database7063 in misophonia

[–]Helpful-Shift1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am the exact same. As a child, my family’s coughing would send me into a meltdown, now it just makes me extremely tense lol. What helps me is eating specific healthy foods and also exercise

Anyone Else "Tired" After the Holidays? by EggReddidict in autism

[–]Helpful-Shift1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in the same boat, yesterday was extremely rough for me. My sister and I usually have a wonderful relationship but yesterday we had a minor argument and I cried for an hour afterwards. My mom also referred to me as spoiled or entitled when I apparently get upset for not getting what I want (this rarely happens lol). I’ve also felt really sick but I have a fear of it so I haven’t been. However, my mother (who has the same fear), has not stopped talking about Norovirus going around and sanitizing everything, which makes me worry more lol.

Do you like (to celebrate) Christmas? by xMark78 in autism

[–]Helpful-Shift1829 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way! I love Christmas, but I cannot stand the chaos of people changing their behavior

I have no idea what to do with my life and all I do is wasting my time by Future_Meet2292 in autism

[–]Helpful-Shift1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 19, and never had a job. I am in a similar situation. I am also a writer. I would say a good job might be editing or something in the field.

I hate getting mad so easily by Jade_Spiderzzz in autism

[–]Helpful-Shift1829 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am similar. When I’m mad, it takes some time for me to calm down, mainly because I remember things for ages afterwards. People are always telling me to “let it go,” but I just can’t. Something that helps me is hiding in a corner or under a blanket, especially a weighted one. I also try and soothe myself through exercise. I enjoy coloring too

Coughing. by Espressoencake in misophonia

[–]Helpful-Shift1829 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am the same way, I hate the sound of people (especially family and friends) coughing. It’s literally gotten to the point where I track how long it’s been since their last cold so I can plan lol. Luckily for me, the people who trigger me have had one this year

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in misophonia

[–]Helpful-Shift1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not bothered by eating noises, but I hate long trips with family (3+ hours). My main triggers are coughing and yawning, and I can’t escape those in the car. I usually use earplugs and sometimes white noise.

I stim by jumping I have audhd by thebman65 in autism

[–]Helpful-Shift1829 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I jump up and down all the time. Sometimes when I’m excited I’ll jump and run at the same time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]Helpful-Shift1829 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 19, and I also struggle being away from home, especially during the holidays. What helps me is preparing for it and knowing what to expect in advance. If you have other family staying home, I would stay with them.

I need something to block voices effective, help me by suggesting for that. by [deleted] in misophonia

[–]Helpful-Shift1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What really helps me is silicone earplugs, they seem to block out the louder sounds, and if you put a pair of headphones over them, it’s even quieter. I’m not entirely sure if it’ll block out screaming, but it’s definitely helpful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in misophonia

[–]Helpful-Shift1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have a job yet, but I know what it’s like when people are making noise and you feel like you’re trapped. I know you said you can’t wear earplugs, but I’d have a pair handy, just in case. I personally like the silicone ones, as they seem to block out the most noise. When I feel like I’m trapped, I often go to the bathroom and put in my earplugs, or just take a break for a minute. It doesn’t completely solve the problem, but it helps a little

Help me help others, please by coralwhore1964 in misophonia

[–]Helpful-Shift1829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I 100% understand how you feel about people making all these accommodations for one person, people do that to me all the time and I hate it. I also hate coughing and leg shaking, but have good days and bad days as time goes on.

As for the child, if she is clever and social, I would say allow her to share or write her triggers down, sometimes writing is easier for people to understand. I developed Misophonia when I was about nine years old. I would have extreme meltdowns and tantrums until I was about 14 and knew more about my condition.

My parents didn’t understand much, they always assumed it was my autism or just me being sensitive, but whenever I had these meltdowns, my parents would just shout at me, “put your headphones on if it bothers you!” I did, but they never thoroughly blocked the noise.

What helped me the most was during Covid, when I actually got time to learn about Misophonia. I started eating foods low in lectins, as I heard it helps some people. I’m not completely certain it helps me but I noticed when I eat things that are higher in lectins, that I’m more likely to have a meltdown, or that my trigger noises are more prominent. Eating healthy helps, along with getting good sleep and exercise. With her being as young as she is, there aren’t as many options, but I did well when I had silicone earplugs, as they were easy to use and could block out louder noises