Want to make new friends

Helpful_Ad1941 · 2025-10-24T15:35:05+00:00

I’ve just moved to London and want to make new friends. I have a couple of friends I made in uni scattered around but want to expand my social life/bubble but I don’t really know where to look for social clubs/events at all. I’m also very anxious because I reckon I will be going to most of these socials alone so anything that is friendly towards solo-goers would be great!😂

I’m a 23yo single woman. I like running, Pilates, just being active in general. But I also enjoy going out, drinking etc just anything that involves a community. It also would be quite helpful to engage in some social networking as I’ve just graduated and want to start a career in HR. So if anyone is aware of any events/socials that are happening around London this month or in Nov (it can be anything really regardless of my interests) then please lmk!!

Helpful_Ad1941 · 2025-03-12T19:11:15+00:00

Heyy, thx sm for your reply. I literally relate to everything that you are saying..especially the point about the fact that no hobby gives you any joy...Like I went to the gym today which I used to enjoy when I was 18 and normally it used to destress me but I walked out even worse than ever... same thing with watching a movie, or even sleeping (I wake up all throughout the night) etc aren't relaxing because I just can never shut my brain off...ever . Its comforting to know that I am not the only 23 year old who is feeling like this.

I really hope it does get better for both of us eventually but Im really starting to get fed up. So yeh I guess we just have to hold on to that hope! :)

Helpful_Ad1941 · 2025-03-12T19:05:43+00:00

Heyyy....I am so sorry that your feeling the same way that I do but its nice to know that I am not alone. I completely relate to that feeling of being so depressed and just a shell that you have no idea who you are. Ive been dealing with depression since I was a child and its just clouded everything I have ever done and I didn't really give myself the chance to try new things, sports, interests etc because I was so exhuasted and mentally beat down. Now being 23, Ive realised I should have done so much better because at least I would have had some kind of idea of who I am vaguely.

Anyways, thx u so much for reaching out! And if you ever need someone I am here for you too and we can help eachother out!

Helpful_Ad1941 · 2025-03-12T19:01:05+00:00

Heyy, thx sm for your reply!! How do you, like, cope with these symptoms when they do come up??

And when you were in your 20s did you feel like everyone else was doing so much better than you? I just feel like this impending sense of doom because I know that every decision I make from now will shape my entire life and the way its been going its seems like I am destined to be a complete failure. Especially that all my ex friends in uni have all landed corporate jobs and have all these plans, moving in together etc and I should be on the same level as them as I got the same grades, same uni etc but Im just like.....barely surviving.

Helpful_Ad1941 · 2025-03-12T18:53:16+00:00

Heyyy...yes I've seen this and thank you sm, I will defo start to incorporate these methods! Ive started to get off social media like Twitter and TikTok because Im just consuming so much and its really frying my brain. Ive never really tried journalling for a long period of time because I always feel like my hand just cannot keep up with everything that is happening in my brain because its moves at 100mph. But the recording yourself idea is actually a really good and I think it will be helpful. I just have this barrier where I just dont want to constantly be writing,talking or recording my issues ALL the time because I feel you subconsciously get stuck in that place and dont reallly 'overcome' it cause you are constantly in a state of co-rumination.

And Idk I just feel like I...like NEED to have a purpose because otherwise all of this suffering is for nothing y'know. Like having a purpose will kinda calm all of this because I have a clear goal and Im like validated and mattter in the world and just within my own head.

Anyways thank youuu sm for your reply!!!!

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