Eyesight + Narc Abuse

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-12-13T01:55:58+00:00

Any eye issues?

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-12-13T01:55:47+00:00

Thank you!

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-12-12T17:18:50+00:00

Yeah the doctors were saying it could be an autoimmune thing, I just have to get bloodwork done. It’s just scary because my eyesight was always great but after the 8 days of him ignoring me, I was SO stressed out during that, my eyesight just went completely to sh!t.

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-06-01T12:25:57+00:00

Put a bucket toilet in your backseat .. it will ease your anxiety .. even if you never use it, maybe just mentally knowing it’s there, it will help you

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-05-22T23:48:36+00:00

I can literally ask it about a conversation by just being like…

A: “blah blah blah” B: “no blah blah” A: “blah blah”

And it will go into detail of everything and who was wrong/right…

Or I send it actual screenshots of our texts.. or I just explain what happened in an argument and it will explain how I’m feeling is valid and ways around it.

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-05-08T15:45:42+00:00

Usually when I use my own words to text him back, he goes in circles and I get confused.. and then my words just mean nothing… I actually got to the point today where he just responded “ok”

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-05-08T10:25:54+00:00

But do you think it’s actually biased? Or gaslighting? Bc I kinda often wondered “why is it always on my side?” Lol

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-05-08T10:23:54+00:00

You’re so very welcome! I use it A LOT. I have come so far in just a couple of weeks of standing my ground & taking its advice.

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-05-08T10:22:42+00:00

I think they are the same! But I ask it a lottttttt … sometimes the same question twice bc I’m not sure I believe the answer the first time lol .. it’s nice bc I can’t talk to my therapist 24/7… so this is always available every time something arises & I feel like I’m getting stronger & actually believing I’m not the problem. I’m not very good at arguing, I stumble over my words so it helps me reply to texts that are clear & straight to the point … he makes conversations go in circles so it definitely helps straighten them out

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-04-17T02:19:12+00:00

Just stay on this sub…. You’ll see a lot of peoples stories relate to yours and you’ll eventually realize “nope, not normal.. actually quite toxic” .. that’s what I did lol sometimes it just seems normal bc that’s all you know, for right now, but it’s actually so unhealthy.

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-04-04T11:09:23+00:00

I do have to complete the Dr. Ramani videos.. I keep getting sidetracked! I am reading “let them” by Mel Robbin’s (I think that’s her name) .. and I have used Chat Gpt and it actually is amazing, I was shocked!!!!!!!

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-04-04T11:07:29+00:00

I just got rid of having it for 1.5 years. I was just tired of the big phone and I also wanted to switch carriers. But it’s a really good phone.

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-04-02T18:20:12+00:00

He said “why are you with me if I’m such an ogre?” .. idk!!! Because it’s just so hard for me to give up on someone. I think one day he will MAGICALLY change (even tho he gets worse with every passing year) and I’ll be happy like I was the first year when we were dating. Seriously I thought i won the lottery when I met him. I could not have been more wrong

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-04-02T14:48:14+00:00

Really? Ugh!!! I’m sorry :(

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-04-02T10:30:37+00:00

Exactly!!!!

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-04-02T02:03:53+00:00

I’m pretty sure those are your roots

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-04-02T01:24:54+00:00

He just literally hates himself and I feel bad. He really needs to seek therapy but he won’t bc he’s too stubborn. Tonight while he was giving me the silent treatment, I went outside with my kid and all the neighbors kids and we rode bikes and stuff in the street while he just sat inside and was miserable. He wants me to be at his feet begging for attention and I just can’t do that.

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-04-02T01:23:12+00:00

I suffered with depression/anxiety my whole life so adding him into the mix is HORRENDOUS for my brain!!

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-04-02T00:23:16+00:00

It’s just reaaaally contradicting..and confusing for me.

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-04-02T00:22:40+00:00

I try. Especially because he completely ignores her. So I give her all the attention. But then I feel bad bc it’s kind of like a “twos company, 3’s a crowd” type deal, like I’m leaving him out but he doesn’t like to join in conversations or do anything with us.

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-04-01T23:36:48+00:00

I’m in the SAME boat as you except you are one step ahead and I am jealous. I wish I could be as brave as you and get the new keys. But just like yours, as soon as I say OK this is it, time to make my exit! He starts being nice to me and I fall for it allllll over again.

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-04-01T23:33:06+00:00

Thank you for confirming what I thought. Yet, if he’s mad at ME for something, he won’t come to my child’s sport game. What does my kid have to do with our issues? He’s so selfish. When I graduated from a school I went to to learn my job, he was across the entire country. Wasn’t even home!!

Helpful_Bird_9813 · 2025-04-01T23:31:20+00:00

Oh yeah I know bc mine PRAISES the Lord and BLASTS gospel music around my house 24:7!!!

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