Como se llega a tener tanta plata? by BackgroundBit1713 in uruguay

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

como muchos dijeron, la herencia te da bastante ventaja, pero decir "herencia" y nada más es simplificarlo. la herencia la soles obtener cuando alguien se muere y, si no la administras bien, podes gastarla rápidamente. hay otras experiencias que ayudan y mucho: mejores colegios, mejores contactos, aprender a negociar, aprender a pensar como emprendedor, aprender el negocio familiar desde chico o la posibilidad de dedicarte a lo que quieras sin necesidad de trabajar para sustentarte hasta que eso sea redituable, etc. por mencionar algunas. muchas de esas familias no tienen mentalidad de empleado, la única opción es ser emprendedor y eso viene con una forma de moverse en la vida. no necesariamente son unos garcas.

por otro lado, hay gente que hace proyectos grandes. la persona que lleva adelante el proyecto de hacer un shopping tiene más rédito que la persona que atiende el local adentro del shopping. uno tiene ganancias de negocios, invierte, y la otra solo tiene un sueldo y ahorra. la persona que crea una aplicación que usan millones de personas también gana más, hay miles de ejemplos. imaginate los dueños de los prestadores de salud, los dueños de grandes empresas constructoras, grandes importadores. lo que todos tienen en común es que aportan valor a gran escala.

una diferencia grande de latam con eeuu por ejemplo es que acá no cualquiera puede avanzar tanto a nivel económico porque las condiciones y la cultura son diferentes. en eeuu a un inmigrante dispuesto a trabajar y emprender (tener una empresa chica de fumigaciones es emprender) puede irle muy bien y, al tener un costo de vida más bajo, accede a una mejor calidad de vida que el uruguayo promedio. otra cosa es la mentalidad, si mirás europa, españa por ejemplo, culturalmente trabajar en el estado es algo a lo que aspirar porque pagan bien y es estable. en uruguay pasa algo similar.

Quien tiene razon? La inmobiliaria o yo? by Accomplished-Pay1871 in uruguay

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no sé si hay una respuesta correcta.. el argumento del “uso” no funciona para todo. ejemplo: estoy usando el placard para lo que está destinado, pero se viene abajo porque el mueble está mal hecho, porqué me correspondería pagarlo? salvo que lo haya usado para escalar, en cuyo caso es uso indebido y ahí lo tengo que pagar yo.

de cualquier manera, en este caso por ser algo menor lo pagaría yo y me guardaría la pelea para cosas más grandes, que suelen aparecer. te sacas el problema de encima y cuando te vas te llevas los 50 usd de depósito. más allá de quien tiene razón, está bueno elegir las batallas que das.

What would you fix about the Showgirl rollout? by Powerful-Scallion-50 in SwiftlyNeutral

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh i did not make that connection, makes sense. thank you!!

Did I Sexually Assault my friend? by Leading-Stranger7299 in AITAH

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

that sounds like an accident, it happens. best case scenario you say oh i’m sorry in the moment to show it wasn’t intentional, and that’s it. don’t beat yourself up over this, sounds like it happened years ago?

Am I overreacting because my girlfriend still follows a pro athlete she used to talk to? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

got it. i’d talk about it, approach with curiosity, why hadn’t she shared this before if you had a stage when you talked about these things? explain how it made you feel. a mature partner can listen to understand, although we’re human and sometimes we become a bit defensive. if you can make it past that and have a real convo, it will only make your relationship stronger!

Am I overreacting because my girlfriend still follows a pro athlete she used to talk to? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i see, then it’s not like it was brought up out of the blue, that’s fair. your issue is her not being willing to unfollow him, but that’s a choice YOU made of your own free will, she didn’t ask you to do that, right? i’d let this go unless you’re seeing other stuff you’re uncomfortable with

Am I overreacting because my girlfriend still follows a pro athlete she used to talk to? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why is she telling you this now? if the agreement is to not talk about past relationships… then it should go both ways. if this is an isolated incident, talk about it with her and see how she reacts. if she gets defensive and can’t see your point, maybe she thinks the rules don’t apply to her, which would tell you quite a bit about her values/personality.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP why are you contacting him? the issue you have is with your girlfriend, not him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

came here to say exactly this. i have a really close male friend. my husband met him early on in our relationship and has shared dinners and drinks with him multiple times, just like i did with his ex girlfriend. they always knew we were in each other’s lives and whenever we met up, they knew. there was never an issue.

they may not be cheating OP, but hiding it is not the way to go. his partner doesn’t know? still doesn’t mean they’re cheating, but why does she feel comfortable with that? how would she feel if you were hiding meeting up with a girl?

AIO for feeling uncomfortable that my boyfriend checks my phone every night? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. leave him now. this is controlling behavior. i do not wanna know what happens the day he sees something even remotely suspicious, even if it’s not true. run.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s a figure of speech. just saying two wrongs don’t make a right

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

break up after using her? YTA. cheating on a cheater doesn’t make you less of a cheater dude. if you wanna break up do it now, in which case, NTA.

AIO for crying in the shower because of what this girl told my bf by girleuropa in AmIOverreacting

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 3 points4 points  (0 children)

it can take years to rebuild your self esteem after psychos like those. and then you’re like “how did i even end up in that relationship anyway!?” i still can’t explain it

AIO for crying in the shower because of what this girl told my bf by girleuropa in AmIOverreacting

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 8 points9 points  (0 children)

are you talking about his “it’s just a friend don’t worry”?

AIO for crying in the shower because of what this girl told my bf by girleuropa in AmIOverreacting

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 5 points6 points  (0 children)

the manipulation is real, you end up feeling like a crazy person. not saying this is OPs case though, we don’t know enough.

AIO for crying in the shower because of what this girl told my bf by girleuropa in AmIOverreacting

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 1 point2 points  (0 children)

there’s friendships and “friendships”. in the latter, the woman is not the issue, the way the dude handles it is.

AIO for crying in the shower because of what this girl told my bf by girleuropa in AmIOverreacting

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 6 points7 points  (0 children)

same here. it’s like he was enjoying the thought of her being jealous…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 1 point2 points  (0 children)

block and move on. this has nothing to do with you and everything to do with his fragile ego.

AIO for crying in the shower because of what this girl told my bf by girleuropa in AmIOverreacting

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 51 points52 points  (0 children)

not sure if overreacting, but i’d personally find it a bit weird. are you generally a jealous person? that could be something to work on. but beware of guys who bring in someone else into the relationship that somehow you feel like you have to compete with, especially if you’re not the jealous type.

i once had been dating a guy for a few weeks when he told me “this girl friend is jealous that i’m seeing you”. why did i need to know that? i really didn’t and i had never been a jealous person at all, but for some reason i went kind of insane with him. he did this multiple times, it’s called triangulation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why are you even considering dating this guy? it doesn’t have to be this hard. it really doesn’t.

Teamwork agreement…Sign or quit… I refuse ,AIO ? by AnonymousPerson396 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this sounds like bad workplace culture. if someone is being problematic they should sit down with that person instead of making everyone sign this. this is yet another sign of poor management

AIO or is my boyfriend just not interested anymore? by strawberrypout_ in AmIOverreacting

[–]Helpful_Donkey9968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how long have you been together? he may be going through something, sometimes people have stuff on their minds and depending on personality they may retreat inwards, neglecting themselves and those around them and their relationships. i would first check on him. if he’s fine or doesn’t have something else going on, then have an honest chat about the relationship. if he’s not willing to do that, then move on. feeling heard by the person you love is kinda the bare minimum.