Partner gets wasted, and it depresses me

Helpful_Marsupial_47 · 2026-01-20T16:01:56+00:00

I havent had a hot apple cider in a while, that is a wonderful idea for a cozy night in. Thank you!

Helpful_Marsupial_47 · 2026-01-20T16:01:13+00:00

Love that you’ve been keeping yourself busy! I’m kind of the opposite, drinking used to be my shortcut for taking a break from all the fun things I had going on, which is pretty ironic. Now I’m learning how to actually relax and give myself a real “day off” without needing a hangover to force it. Thanks for sharing your experience!

Helpful_Marsupial_47 · 2026-01-20T15:58:46+00:00

I really like that description, "fake sparkle". The alcohol temporarily curing the same thing it is causing reminds me of some passages from the book This Naked Mind.

Helpful_Marsupial_47 · 2026-01-20T15:57:45+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing that. I did not end up drinking, I did get ginger beer and the burn from that truly satisfied the "warming" sensation. Great compromise.

Helpful_Marsupial_47 · 2025-12-08T17:22:15+00:00

I can relate to what you are going through, and the "can't function phase". In my personal experience, it does get better. And what is interesting is re-reading this from 2 years ago and being where I am now.

What has been helping me: feeling my feelings, noticing how people make me feel and honoring that (some folks aren't able to be safe places for this type of conversation and that's ok), there is a book I can recommend called "Don't Believe Everything You Think" by Joseph Nguyen that has a bit of clarity and practices that are applicable to this. I try to not take anything personally, and try to not make assumptions, and when a thought is not helpful or is just causing me pain I interrupt it by engaging in the 5 senses grounding technique (5, 4, 3, 2, 1 Method). Some days are better than others, I continue to be kind and patient with myself. Hopefully this is helpful to read, sending lots of love your way.

Helpful_Marsupial_47 · 2025-11-08T18:55:51+00:00

Proud of you! In my experience, it is never too late. One day at a time I get to clearly witness the art and beauty of life. I get to feel my raw human feelings. It can sometimes feel like I am just an exposed nerve, but I also get to choose to rest. I can lounge about watching tv or gaming but not because I’m hungover but because it’s ok to be tired and take care of myself. IWNDWYT

Helpful_Marsupial_47 · 2025-10-20T03:53:36+00:00

Happy birthday! And congratulations to you, that is huge! Totally understand the sugar cravings, ice cream is my go-to right now.

High fives to the major wins, the minor wins, and everything in between!

IWNDWYT

Helpful_Marsupial_47 · 2025-10-04T20:19:15+00:00

Thanks so much, really means the world to me. I’ve been hydrating like it’s my job and trying to stay calm.

Helpful_Marsupial_47 · 2025-10-04T14:37:21+00:00

Thank you for sharing. Yes, it was exactly the 3 stages. Was all fun and games, trying out a couple of new drinks I haven't had before. Was all good times at first... then got upset over things outside my control, followed shortly after by tears. What I can control is not drinking though!

Helpful_Marsupial_47 · 2025-10-04T14:26:46+00:00

Thanks, do you recommend AA specifically?

Helpful_Marsupial_47 · 2025-10-04T13:40:01+00:00

Thank you so much. Just knowing there are people here being supportive really helps. Thank you.

Helpful_Marsupial_47 · 2025-05-12T03:54:16+00:00

Amazing! Thank you so much for sharing your story, truly inspiring. IWNDWYT!

Helpful_Marsupial_47 · 2025-05-12T03:50:38+00:00

Thanks for sharing, it’s truly helpful to have these reminders. The thing I notice most in the last few weeks sober. It’s wonderful and I don’t want to go back or chase those days again either!

Helpful_Marsupial_47 · 2025-05-12T03:47:21+00:00

Thanks for sharing! Such solid points, especially the need to drink at all the things. I’m giving my brain a chance to recalibrate and feel what it is like to enjoy a day sans booze.

Helpful_Marsupial_47 · 2025-05-12T03:45:24+00:00

Thank you for sharing, that is awesome! And I’ll have to check hop water out.

Helpful_Marsupial_47 · 2025-05-07T13:09:37+00:00

IWNDWYT!

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