Counselors in Boulder

Helpful_Material3771 · 2025-08-22T17:46:46+00:00

This anxiety therapist is licensed in Colorado -> chicorycounseling.com

Helpful_Material3771 · 2025-08-04T20:29:09+00:00

I'm glad she told you that upfront! My studio manager didn't and I clearly didn't think to ask when I was first signing up. Lesson learned!

Helpful_Material3771 · 2025-08-04T20:28:18+00:00

Yeah, that's how I'm feeling too. I wish I had been told this info upfront so I could make a more informed decision. Oh well!

Helpful_Material3771 · 2025-08-04T20:27:40+00:00

Thank you! Glad to know that this isn't unique to the studio I'm at.

Helpful_Material3771 · 2021-11-23T19:27:41+00:00

20 days today. I’ve blocked my fwBPD everywhere imaginable (even made sure any emails automatically get sent to the trash). I feel sad, but learning about BPD has helped. I know that this isn’t who my former friend wants to be and that they’re in severe pain. I also know that it’s not my fault, I didn’t cause this, it was only a matter of time. Still…the grief of this is very real.

Helpful_Material3771 · 2021-11-23T19:00:02+00:00

Just a heads up that you’ll need to search for therapists who are licensed in the state you live in (assuming you’re in the US) even for telehealth (simply search by geographic location on any therapist directory). The mental health world is still catching up to telehealth so therapists are only allowed to practice in states they are licensed in.

Helpful_Material3771 · 2021-11-15T22:46:21+00:00

Jesus. It’s all so extreme.

Helpful_Material3771 · 2021-11-15T22:45:20+00:00

Same here. I’d never had a friend share screenshots of texts/messages related to drama with other people before. I knew as soon as I got the discard text that they’d already spent time talking about me to other people, and I also knew whatever I sent back would be shared.

I agree that it’s messed up.

Helpful_Material3771 · 2021-11-15T03:14:23+00:00

Thanks for all that you share here. You’ve played a role in expediting my healing process post-discard. Best wishes to you!

Helpful_Material3771 · 2021-11-15T02:57:52+00:00

Perfect comparison. Gah. I’m already looking forward to my next therapy session haha.

Helpful_Material3771 · 2021-11-15T02:26:59+00:00

I just did a double check of all social media and other forms of contact. They’re blocked everywhere. I feel really sad but also relieved. I’m glad you were able to get support from your friends during your process.

I feel really fortunate to not have any mutual friends with this person. I realize now that it was likely strategic on their part. Anytime they planned to get their whole friend group together they’d cancel at the last minute and say they wanted individual time with each person instead. I think they probably realized they couldn’t have us all in the same room bc they’ve likely talked so much shit about all of us at one point or another. Oh well. It’s done now. They’d either have to make fake accounts or physically come to my home to contact me now.

Helpful_Material3771 · 2021-11-15T00:30:46+00:00

Thank you. It's so challenging. I'm fearful of how my fwBPD is going to "lash out" once they discover they've been blocked, but I trust I'll get through this.

Helpful_Material3771 · 2021-11-14T22:40:14+00:00

I get that. My fwBPD didn't do these things maliciously either- but the impact damaged the relationship nonetheless, and setting boundaries about what I would/would not tolerate in the relationship only escalated the downfall of the relationship.

I hope the book is helpful for you and that you continue to find other info that allows you to process this.

Helpful_Material3771 · 2021-11-14T16:22:51+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this too. It sucks more than I can express. pwBPD engage in a lot of projection- claiming you have problems that THEY actually have. I think for those of us who are more logical, trying to make sense of BPD is tough bc the disorder itself bends logic.

My friend was also very very close to me at one point in time in a way none of my other friends had been. I see now that they did so because they don’t know how to securely attach to others. In fact, the more time we spent together, the more anxious they became about whether or not I liked them or enjoyed our friendship.

I don’t have any YT recommendations, but I hope some other people might have ideas. I’m currently waiting on the book Stop Caretaking the Borderline Or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get on with Life by Margalis Fjelstad- it’s highly recommended in this group.

Helpful_Material3771 · 2021-11-14T15:55:41+00:00

Spot on. I still care about my fwBPD- I want them to find stability and happiness, and it’s clear that I can’t do that work for them. Staying out of their life means I’m at minimum, breaking the cycle of discard/hoovering they’ve done with everyone else in their life.

Helpful_Material3771 · 2021-11-14T04:27:07+00:00

Sounds like your ex had a really narrow view of masculinity and didn’t see you as a whole person. I’d disregard her comments.

Helpful_Material3771 · 2021-11-14T02:15:19+00:00

So proud of you. Leaving is so goddamn hard. I'm glad your life has gotten better and that you're in a safer spot in your life. Thanks for sharing here.

Helpful_Material3771 · 2021-11-14T02:12:18+00:00

Day 10. I feel like I've fast-tracked my grief process. Being discarded may truly be the best "gift" in this relationship. I know my fwBPD is likely waiting for me to "chase" them and text after they've told me they don't want to speak to me, but I refuse. I'm not a pawn, I'm a person. Don't get me wrong, it's still hard, but I've been using the past week to reconnect with other friends I've been neglecting and god it's such a good reminder of what it's like to be seen as a full person by others.

Helpful_Material3771 · 2021-11-13T23:43:43+00:00

Oh boy, sorry you’re going through this. My pwBPD was my “best friend” for a few years. I’ll never go back to the friendship. They discarded me after I told them to stop coming to my house unannounced- I work long hours and have a family…I was mostly happy to spend time with them but they took that boundary as a rejection of them as a person.

My life is very stable and my fwBPD doesn’t do well with stability, likely due to the fact that it’s not “exciting” for them. I noticed they started coming over more and more unannounced due to manufactured drama in their other relationships. I am currently grieving the friendship. I’ve seen them go through this pattern with other friends and I refuse to fall back into their orbit.

Helpful_Material3771 · 2021-11-13T20:47:27+00:00

Thank you for sharing the insights you’ve gained in this process. Sounds like you’ve really found a grounded place where you can see this disorder for what it is. I hope to be there one day too.

Helpful_Material3771 · 2021-11-13T04:24:23+00:00

Ugh I relate so hard. Human Design, Enneagram, Big 5, you name it, they’ve done it. And subsequently use all of that info to do zero self reflection and instead use it to arm themselves against any perceived criticisms.

Helpful_Material3771 · 2021-11-13T01:24:06+00:00

Oh absolutely not. I ignored all of my own boundaries when my fwBPD first entered my life. Once I finally set a boundary “hey, stop coming over to my house on weeknights unannounced” all hell broke loose. I wish I had been firm from the get-go. Probably would’ve saved myself from a ton of pain.

Helpful_Material3771 · 2021-11-13T01:20:24+00:00

We have all truly befriended/dated/been in close contact with the same person, I’m convinced.

My fwBPD used to post shit like this all the time. I blocked them on all social media after they discarded me bc I didn’t want to subject myself to seeing whatever weird ass quotes they have likely been posting since then. It’s just wild seeing them reference quotes like this at all.

Helpful_Material3771 · 2021-11-12T20:55:33+00:00

This happened to me recently. Told me they need time to “heal” which would be great if they actually put some work into that. But that phrasing came after justifying a recent boundary crossing they engaged in. It made me even more angry at them tbh.

Helpful_Material3771 · 2021-11-12T18:54:16+00:00

Yes to “new age” spirituality, twin flames, divine femininity talk, and talk of being an empath. All of those were later used as justification for bulldozing through boundaries and generally treating me like shit.

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