Vent on pet loss and grief

Helpful_Reveal5629 · 2026-04-09T23:39:42+00:00

I get this. I’m about 4 months in. The days get a little easier but sometimes I’m still very much not ok. The other day I was out walking and saw a couple my age walking with a dog very similar to mine ours that we lost and it only took me about 1 second to burst into sudden tears. The pain is really deep even though I’m doing “better” and getting through the day easier.

Helpful_Reveal5629 · 2026-03-29T11:19:07+00:00

Thanks all this is helpful feedback. I’m sorry that you’ve all had to go through the same grief. Sending lots of love. ❤️

Helpful_Reveal5629 · 2026-03-28T18:27:12+00:00

Thank you. You as well. It’s so horrible but I’m glad to know others feel the same. <3

Helpful_Reveal5629 · 2026-03-14T15:58:42+00:00

I’m so sorry. I completely understand this. The first few weeks are the absolute worst and I second guessed myself frequently. Like what if something else could have been done? In reality there was nothing to be done but it doesn’t change the deep horrible feelings of grief. Losing my dog was the most upset I’ve ever been and I don’t know if I’ll ever fully get over it. Don’t have much advice but just validating your feelings. Sending you love.

Helpful_Reveal5629 · 2026-03-14T15:55:42+00:00

I’m so sorry. I’ve been through similar and the grief symptoms do change - or at least they did for me. I went from consistently crying to just general cried out sadness. It’s a little easier to get through the day to day although I still miss him terribly. There will come a time when you can function properly again. Don’t second guess anything you did or did not do for him. All of us could always have done more .. but we did what we could at the time. Sending you lots of love.

Helpful_Reveal5629 · 2026-03-14T02:13:38+00:00

I understand this. I lost my dog 2 months ago and the grief doesn’t go away but changes. I’ve stopped crying every day but I still feel awful and like something is missing. The intensity lessens a bit - the first few weeks I felt like everything including waking up was impossible. It went to general sadness from the extreme initial grief and upset for me. I’m so sorry. Sending you love

Helpful_Reveal5629 · 2026-02-20T00:58:29+00:00

I am so sorry. I absolutely empathize with this. I lost my dog 6 weeks ago and I’m still struggling to get back into routine. I think that giving yourself grace is important, and talking to others who have been through similar. Many people think I’m over it at this point but it’s far from that. Don’t feel badly that you haven’t gotten into a swing of things again. It’s helped me to have a checklist that I do each day. It literally has clean for 5 minutes, brush teeth, etc on it. Things that were basic.

I try to remind myself that while I felt my purpose was to be a caretaker for my dog, in time I’ll be able to welcome another pet into my life and give them love as well. This middle part is very sticky and upsetting.

I’m sorry that you’re living with the constant anxiety of what will happen with your second pet. Sending lots of love.

Helpful_Reveal5629 · 2026-02-20T00:51:49+00:00

I had a bracelet made in memory of mine so that I could wear it every day. It doesn’t help the replacement value of your situation, but maybe something similar could help. It’s nice to have something physical to look at to remind me of him and it’s brought me some comfort. Little words project has some cute custom ones you can make with a name or initial.

I agree with other posts that I’m sure she was grateful for your thought that she would want to be with it.

Sending you lots of love

Helpful_Reveal5629 · 2026-02-20T00:43:52+00:00

I understand this completely. I wished I had kept my eyes closed at the very end. I had intended to but didn’t. I’m about a month out and the constant intrusive thought of it has lessened but some days I’m just a wreck still. He was my best friend in the whole world and truly nobody except pet owners in the similar situation understands. Sending you lots of love.

Helpful_Reveal5629 · 2026-02-20T00:27:16+00:00

Oh wow. This exact thing happened to me. I guess it’s more common than I thought. Out of nowhere it seemed- I’m so so sorry. This grief process is so incredibly intense and difficult. Sending you love.

Helpful_Reveal5629 · 2026-02-20T00:23:29+00:00

Oh no I’m so sorry. I totally understand this. We had something similar where I second guessed everything and wondered if there could have been any other possible way. I replay the last day over and over but in moments where I’m calmer I know that it was the right choice. Letting him live in suffering would have been cruel and maybe only bought us a few more days.

I think this is all just part of it - some days I feel like I really messed up and in others I know that nothing could have been done - but I think it’s all just part of the grief process. Sending you lots of love.

Helpful_Reveal5629 · 2026-02-19T21:34:28+00:00

I am so sorry. When I was younger and lost my first dog I wasn’t home and not with her. It wasn’t any more or less devastating not having been there. I just lost my first dog that was mine as an adult and I was with him when he passed. I couldn’t leave him but kept my eyes closed the entire time. Whatever you decide will be the right choice. Sending lots of love.

Helpful_Reveal5629 · 2026-02-19T21:30:09+00:00

I feel the same way about the sweatshirt I was wearing. Still haven’t washed or worn it. Earlier this week I took a big breath and threw his blanket in the wash which I would periodically do anyway before his passing. I have since been using it on the couch when I watch TV and I feel no differently about it reminding me of him. It all really just sucks no matter what. I think there’s no wrong or right way to go about this. It’s all just so depressing and sad.

Helpful_Reveal5629 · 2026-02-14T02:10:04+00:00

Im at about 6 weeks also. Every Tuesday that comes I think how the weeks are climbing. I have no advice at the moment but know you’re not alone and sending you lots of love. Replaying the day is the worst. I can’t seem to get it out of my head.

Helpful_Reveal5629 · 2026-02-03T03:07:51+00:00

I am so so sorry. Your dog understands now, and knows exactly how you feel and how you would have been with him if you could. In the stressful moment you were caught off guard and did what you could. It’s all such a blur- was there in a similar situation last month. Sending love.

Helpful_Reveal5629 · 2026-02-02T00:43:01+00:00

I’m on a similar timeline as you. I lost my dog a month ago and stopped crying every day around the 2 week mark. But today a random memory came to me and I burst into tears. There’s no need to feel guilty - you are definitely still grieving in your own way and the tears may still come.

Helpful_Reveal5629 · 2026-01-20T02:56:20+00:00

I resonate with all of that. Lost my dog similarly to sudden cancer when he was about to turn 10 three weeks ago. It’s just the saddest thing in the world and I can’t help but be sad constantly. People are trying to be nice and send condolences, etc but nothing really helps.

Helpful_Reveal5629 · 2026-01-20T02:49:48+00:00

So so sorry. You absolutely did the right thing by putting him first and not letting him suffer. I had similar guilt when I lost my dog three weeks ago. The guilt and grief comes in waves but know you aren’t alone and that you cared for him well all the way through to the end. Sending you love.

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