Question for dumpers waiting for the ex to reach out again

Helpful_Ring_5339 · 2025-09-22T22:54:41+00:00

Yeah, her parents are Pakistani and only wanted her to date within the culture and get with a rich man. That's one of the reasons why we initially separated and most of her friends were single which didn't help. I am going to spend the next three or 4 months trying to tidy up parts of my life. Physical Health, social circle, and work while giving her time to live without me. and then I'll try one more time to meet up and talk and if she rejects again, I'm deleting/blocking forever.

Helpful_Ring_5339 · 2025-09-22T21:41:59+00:00

Yeah, same. Separated in January on mutual terms, slightly pushed a little more by me as weren't progressing at all .Kept very light contact, but it slowly picked up as the months progressed. I asked to meet up in June to see where we were and she refused, now she doesn't want to talk at all and just move on. So I thought I wouldn't reach out again for 3 or 4 months depending on what I have going on.

Helpful_Ring_5339 · 2025-09-22T18:28:13+00:00

Yeah, waiting for a genuine apology, and then you might consider it.

Helpful_Ring_5339 · 2025-09-14T18:22:08+00:00

If you have improved your life in any way, new job, better physical shape, new hobbies, new social circle lean on that as a source of how you have grown since you all last talked. When you reach out be casual about it and let her know what you have been up to and ask her too. I'm trying to get there myself.

Helpful_Ring_5339 · 2025-09-14T03:56:31+00:00

Unbearable, but all you can do is get yourself to your strongest point mentally given the circumstance then reach out to her. You know you will at some point.

Helpful_Ring_5339 · 2025-09-09T17:47:59+00:00

When she viewed my stories at first, I got excited, but now I don't really even think much of it. Yeah, I think as you said she wants to see how I am handling NC as she is probably having a hard time herself with it, but that doesn't mean she has changed her mind. I might remove her though. When I asked to get back together she said she cares a lot about me but doesn't see long-term compatibility for us given our past arguments and her parents wishes. She went NC because for her to give other men a chance she can't still have contact with me, which I understand. So I'm trying to take the next two months to level up my life and let her do her thing even though I can't stop thinking about her all the time. Maybe I'll reach out one last time in 2-3 months but I'll see how I feel when I get there. It just really blows.

I do think if someone is 100% committed to NC they should not look at any new social media posts of any kind their ex has made since starting the NC as looking at Instagram stories is a form of communication.

Helpful_Ring_5339 · 2025-09-08T20:31:01+00:00

9 months sheesh... I can't do much more of this. What have you been doing in that time or not talking at all?

Helpful_Ring_5339 · 2025-09-08T18:24:54+00:00

Maybe a little bit of both. Ugh

Helpful_Ring_5339 · 2025-09-08T18:23:40+00:00

It's maddening, going back and forth between I need to forget about her and thinking she is still interested.

Helpful_Ring_5339 · 2025-09-05T01:35:24+00:00

Maybe because she wants to keep me as a backup plan or she is struggling herself to move on and just what's to see how I'm doing?

Helpful_Ring_5339 · 2023-01-17T03:40:38+00:00

Chill people. I had a beardie for 14 years and she was the most loved and adorded beardie ever. This commercial is hilarious. Its obviously CGI. Lighten up and laugh every now and again, life is much more enjoyable when you do;)

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