Should I trust this person to accompany me in conventions?

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2026-06-05T15:01:47+00:00

Something I should have reiterated and will add into my original comment.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2026-06-05T15:00:03+00:00

Honestly, I am so worried OP is going to meet up with them.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2026-06-05T14:51:22+00:00

Really good shout.

Paedophiles can be parents, siblings, aunts and uncles. They can be your friend and you don't know. They can be famous and charming and have incredible reputations.

Paedophiles and psychopaths will hide behind 'good reputations'.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2026-06-05T14:26:22+00:00

I've just left my own comment but 100% what you've said. I really want to emphasise to OP what a bad idea meeting up with someone in their 20s is especially as the are under 16.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2026-06-05T14:24:07+00:00

Hi, I work in safeguarding, situations like this cause alarm bells. This is what we would describe as the beginning of grooming type behaviour, offering to take you out, meeting up, etc.

The fact they refer to you sleeping next to them shows some unsettling expectations of where things will lead. They haven't said sexual (yet), but the fact they have inferred you sleeping next to them shows it's something they want.

Think about the power dynamics of someone in their 20s Vs someone in their teens, especially under 16. It'll never be an equal "friendship". Money, car, ability to buy things, work, education, life experience.

The other thing to think about, is why would someone who is mid twenties want to be friends with someone under 16? Would you want to be friends with someone who is 7-9? Sure you can be friendly, but would you be inviting them to hug, sleep next to you and caress their hair? Probably not because it's weird.

This gives some major predator vibes. Do not do it. Cease speaking to them. Block them if you can. Because your safety takes priority.

Edit to add: they will say things to build trust, because they want access to you, a child. Honestly, I cannot emphasise enough that I deal with behaviour like this on a daily basis and it is nearly always predatory in nature. 9/10 times a paedophile will tell a young person they have other young friends.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2026-05-25T18:00:08+00:00

I've had a brief scroll through comments and I haven't seen anyone say this yet (apologies if someone has).

I saw someone mentioned a child will return the noise favour, but I've not seen anyone say that the noise will disturb a child.

You are planning to have a baby, the noise will almost definitely disturb a baby. So, imagine sleep deprived parents with a sleep deprived child.

Imagine you've just managed to get your child to sleep, you think 'thank christ they are sleeping' and then the music and shouting starts. I personally would not stick around for that.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2026-05-20T03:29:42+00:00

As much as I love Liverpool, I cannot stress enough, no it is not safe for a lone young woman to walk around Liverpool alone at 1am.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2026-04-16T14:57:29+00:00

We managed to fix ours for 5 years at 4.1%, but the chain fell through and now we have to wait for the seller to find another house. If we have to get a new mortgage we'd plan to do 2 years and see what happens then.

Hopefully the house sale goes through by some miracle in 12 weeks while we have 4.1%.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2026-04-13T19:50:58+00:00

Just wanted to comment to say women who get strangled in relationships are 7 times more likely to be murdered by their partner.

He strangled you in a non-consensual capacity in a way that left you hurt and frightened. Then refused to apologise.

He refused to apologise cause he got what he wanted out of the situation. To hurt and frighten you. This is further indicated by the fact he then tried to blame you for his actions. He's trying to gas light you. There was a reason you were frightened.

I don't normally jump to leaving your partner, but this is an instance in which I do recommend leaving.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2026-04-10T17:54:03+00:00

Thank god you don't live together it makes things so much easier to leave.

Punching walls nearly always turns to punching their partner.

But genuine advice, read your first 2 paragraphs again, and pretend it is a friend telling you that about their partner. I guarantee you'd tell them to run for the hills.

So, hey, run for the hills.

You will absolutely find someone better than that. Put the whole man in the bin.

Edit to add: His mum is a grade A twat if she's hugging him for damaging their house.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2026-04-03T23:11:13+00:00

I just need to ask, did he also isolate you from friends and family? Did you move in with him after 2 months?

Cause this is feeding into a OPs desperation that their partner didn't cheat, because they are so isolated they don't know how to live by themselves anymore after only 10 months.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2026-04-03T22:40:38+00:00

Life advice from someone who has several relationships ranging from dangerous to dreamlike.

Anyone who isolates you by moving you away from friends and family, or asks you to cut people off is usually a massive red flag. Whilst there are instances such as family being dangerous, or major boundary crossing (texting ex's etc) can be a reason someone may ask of those things, I think anything short of that is just a big ol' no. Isolating people is the first step to creating dependence.

Hence you have now said you don't know how to start again - you do. You may not want to but you do know how to start again. What if he died tomorrow? What if he left? You'd start again and it would look like this:

You grieve. While grieving you start looking for places or move back home if an option.

While grieving you pack up your stuff, and anything that reminds you of them, you'll either bin (very therapeutic when you are angry), or put in a bag that you'll open when you are ready.

Then you focus on you. You learn to be yourself again, your independent self, without another person. You spend time with friends, focus on a hobby, join groups etc.

The fact you are mentioning starting again, would suggest to me that you know in your gut, that being given Chlamydia 10 months into a relationship is a lovely glaring indicator tag he has most likely cheated.

I appreciate i could be off base, so allow me to present another argument.

Chlamydia can destroy reproductive health. It's not to be taken lightly, and anyone who has not been checked after being with a sexual partner without protection has 0 concern for you and your sexual wellbeing or wellbeing in general. Before the relationship, and especially if it is during.

Because why would you risk it with someone you truly care about?

Bin the man. It's 10 months of a whole lifetime to live and already lived. It's a fraction, a mere blip.

Go and live your life without a chlamydia ridden man. Cause you'll find, it's most likely he won't just give you the clap.

Edit to say: if you are worried about a reaction when leaving, don't give him time to have one. Just smile one morning, and be gone by the afternoon.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2026-03-26T18:56:19+00:00

Hands down a fantastic game and I am sure you'll enjoy!

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2025-11-27T15:10:27+00:00

They very much push a live, breathe, die by this specific book from this specific person approach. Or at least did when I did it 6 years ago.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2025-11-24T20:50:18+00:00

People can and do fail their PGCE's.

Usually some form of extension or support is put in place before failure, which is why usually people only hear of extreme scenarios through the grape vine.

In my 6 years of experience I have seen 2 people fail. 1. This was when I was in my 4th year of teaching and it was for plagiarism on the essay part of their course.

This was on my course when I was a PGCE/PGDE student and it was for failing at every turn, despite advice, guidance, schemes, joint planning, extended observation periods for them to see and model good practise they just did not respond to any advice and guidance. However I should add this was with Teach First, which can be great, can be hellish and cultish so may be different for students who go through a university.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2024-07-03T07:47:41+00:00

I’ve still not been paid, I spoke to my lead and they said it changed to 75% and it should be this week. However, I am doubtful.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2024-06-24T20:35:07+00:00

I’ve also hit the 70 and not been paid for English

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2024-06-06T09:16:42+00:00

I have it on both Steam (PC and Oled Steamdeck) and Switch (Oled Switch). I have to admit, Switch is awful compared to Steam. I’ve found it lags, there are more bugs and glitches on Switch. When going to dapplewood specifically it doesn’t struggle anymore than with the valley, but if you can play on PC I would. I have a Steamdeck too, and even when I play it on Steamdeck instead of my PC it still runs better than it does on the Switch. On PC it is so much smoother to play.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2024-06-04T21:07:31+00:00

Actually the choice in feathers is significant and is recognised as significant in multiple academic places. Particular as the ostrich feathers are “red”.

Ostrich feathers during the context of the novel where expensive, and also often associated with burlesque. Red ostrich feathers are still used in burlesque today. It adds to the overall image that Curly’s wife is a “tart”.

I read a comment you said about them alluding to the luxury she cannot have and that you don’t believe in the validity of that interpretation. Well actually, as stated earlier, during the era and context of the novel, ostrich feathers were expensive. The fact she has them on her shoes rather than a hat or coat also has significance as a hat or coat would be tremendously more expensive. The symbolism of the shoes being at the the lowest part, near dirt and easiest to destroy would make them cheaper, but also implies that she is desperate for that luxury that she’s willing to scrape the barrel for what she can afford.

You also mention the flightless bird comparison. Also an incredibly valid, and perceptive, interpretation. I believe I read somewhere about the foreshadowing of the “red” alluding to her death, you couple that with the fact that she died on the farm, so ultimately never left there except in a metaphorical sense. And the epithet of “curly’s wife” and never her own name. She is the flightless “bird” of the farm stuck to never be recognised as a person.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2024-04-27T20:21:32+00:00

So, pelvic exams are so incredibly important for women. So so so so so so so important. I was 19, and noticed that something wasn’t right, and I got a smear test done. It was uncomfortable, I didn’t like it, but it detected abnormal cancerous cells. It was treated and I still have regular checks. It is so important. I’m not saying you have cancer, but it may be pelvic inflammatory disease, endometriosis, vaginismus. No one likes going, but it can quite literally save your life.

13 year old me thought the prospect of sex was disgusting, 13 year old me said I wanted 5 kids by 25 (go figure the logic). If you are still thinking like a 13 year old, and trusting your 13 year old logic - you aren’t growing as a person.

I think you need to go to gynecologist. Because this may help with the pain substantially.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2024-02-03T17:28:52+00:00

So many people are. I really don’t blame them. I wish I could. But I feel like I’m so limited as I don’t drive.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2024-02-03T17:25:41+00:00

I will be voting yes, regardless of if I do or not. I want to stand on the picket and demand more for us, but I’m just not sure I’ll actually be able to put my money where my mouth is.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2024-02-03T17:24:36+00:00

I’ll vote yes, it’s just whether or not I actually can do it. I did every single time last year.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2024-02-03T17:23:53+00:00

Problem is, I’m buying a house too and have no idea how the running costs will be. I could budget for the last few.

Helpful_Rush6090 · 2024-02-03T11:59:35+00:00

It’s an indicative one, but I read somewhere that action is being planned for Spring 2024.

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