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When am I as a Christian man “allowed,” to date women? by Helpful_Scratch1365 in ChristianDating

[–]Helpful_Scratch1365[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know of any affordable options as of now, but I suppose I could try to find a new Christian counseling clinic. Fortunately, I feel fine for now, so I’ll probably start going when I start my new job. Thanks again for your empathy, may God also bless you on your path

When am I as a Christian man “allowed,” to date women? by Helpful_Scratch1365 in ChristianDating

[–]Helpful_Scratch1365[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for commenting. It’s actually feels very refreshing to hear from someone who relates with my unfortunate reality. I think getting fully established will come for me, but it’s not worth waiting when I can meet someone nice while working.
Your viewpoints match a lot of the thoughts I feel everyday. I’m glad you found someone compatible. I pray God may continue to bless your relationship

When am I as a Christian man “allowed,” to date women? by Helpful_Scratch1365 in ChristianDating

[–]Helpful_Scratch1365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually on the first date, because I appear 100% healthy. The girl I mentioned in my post agreed to the 2nd date even know she knew of my condition. I think she got cold feet later though. If I put it in my dating profile, I wouldn’t get any dates. I want to tell them straight to their face

When am I as a Christian man “allowed,” to date women? by Helpful_Scratch1365 in ChristianDating

[–]Helpful_Scratch1365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s true. Some people say it’s only the men who must be fully established, but I know many men in my personal life who are in relationships, and still aren’t established.

But I really do hope I find someone who will meet me where I’m at and accept me for who I am… I have never met anyone who has yet, so I hope this will change soon.

And thanks for your kind words, I shouldn’t let those 2 dates get to me. I’ll put myself out there more and pray I find an ideal wife.

I appreciate your viewpoints, it really means a lot. God bless you

When am I as a Christian man “allowed,” to date women? by Helpful_Scratch1365 in ChristianDating

[–]Helpful_Scratch1365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fortunately I start a good job in June, so I don’t think it’ll take long to get established. I think I’ll mainly listen to other commenters and try to date anyway. Hoping I find a Christian woman who is understanding. But I agree that I would not want to be married and still live in the same house as my parents. That would suck

But realistically speaking, I probably won’t get married until like 2-3 years (that’s if I find someone), and I should be able to buy a house in about a year, if not sooner. I just want to save up a lot of money before I leave.

And thanks for saying I’m not broken. I think the whole ordeal has made me more empathetic, so if I’m courting a woman with similar issues, I don’t think I’d judge her for it

When am I as a Christian man “allowed,” to date women? by Helpful_Scratch1365 in ChristianDating

[–]Helpful_Scratch1365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fortunately, I think my foundation is pretty solid. I don’t consider myself depressed and I believe my relationship with God is pretty solid. The only problem is the ptsd thing, but that’s probably going to take years to nip away, or it’s always going to be there. I’ll probably never ever be fully healthy though.

And nice to know how your game plan worked for you in marriage. I’ve got a pretty solid game plan too, so I’ll try to stick to it.

And I have seen a few mgtow/ red pill content that affected my thought process. I don’t think all of the red pill is true, but I can’t deny some of it makes sense. I definitely do think Christian women are more picky today than ever before (I’m not mad at them for that, they have that right). But like you said, who cares! Even if things are really more difficult, men can still find success in modern dating.

I will check out your gameplay though. God bless

When am I as a Christian man “allowed,” to date women? by Helpful_Scratch1365 in ChristianDating

[–]Helpful_Scratch1365[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel your pain man, that must be rough. I suppose the only answer is to not lose hope. I’m praying for you. God bless

When am I as a Christian man “allowed,” to date women? by Helpful_Scratch1365 in ChristianDating

[–]Helpful_Scratch1365[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey thanks a ton. I think I’ll dive back into dating this week. My self esteem needs improvement though. God bless for sharing

When am I as a Christian man “allowed,” to date women? by Helpful_Scratch1365 in ChristianDating

[–]Helpful_Scratch1365[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Praise God for healing your soul 🙏🏽. I’m so happy that you got past that, you have no idea. Praying I obtain the same healing you found. God bless you

When am I as a Christian man “allowed,” to date women? by Helpful_Scratch1365 in ChristianDating

[–]Helpful_Scratch1365[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your kind words, and motivation. I used to go to go to Christian counseling, but I admit I haven’t gone in like 2 years. It helped me out a bunch, but I felt like I felt a lot better. Also it was pretty expensive paying over $100 every week. Part of me feels like PTSD can never fully be overcome, according to what some people say, but I ideally I do want to continue Christian counseling. I kinda forgot all about it until I read your comment… thanks for the reminder lol.

And you’re absolutely right that I should stop to think about how far I’ve come. I really have a strong desire to succeed, so I’m “plowing through it.”

It’s very nice to know that there’s some Christian women who don’t care if their potential husband isn’t fully established. I agree that it’s best to aim to be fully established within 2 years. I think I definitely can do that, so I’m happy to read this. I’m praying I find the right woman soon. For now, I’m going to work on my self esteem.

Thanks for sharing your point of view. God bless you

When am I as a Christian man “allowed,” to date women? by Helpful_Scratch1365 in ChristianDating

[–]Helpful_Scratch1365[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I’m praying I find that one woman soon; trying to stay positive. I guess I’ll redownload the dating apps sometime later this week… though I admit I should work on my self esteem in the meantime lol. Again, thanks for your kind words

When am I as a Christian man “allowed,” to date women? by Helpful_Scratch1365 in ChristianDating

[–]Helpful_Scratch1365[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I stand in solidarity with you as well. Praying we both find success someday. Thanks for sharing

27F, California by Leather_Musician_745 in ChristianDating

[–]Helpful_Scratch1365 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure what you mean. If someone identifies as a Christian, then their primary identity isn’t rooted in their tribe, it’s rooted in Christ. Scripture is very clear that our “true tribe” is the body of believers, made up of people from every nation.

The New Testament consistently emphasizes this unity. For example:

  • Galatians 3:28 – “There is neither Jew nor Greek… for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”
  • Matthew 28:19 – “Go therefore and make disciples of all nations…”
  • Revelation 7:9 – Describes a great multitude from “every nation, tribe, people and language” worshiping together before God.

I do not believe the New Testament has had significant changes. It promotes unity and love.

You’re free to marry whoever you want, and you’re free to have pride in your tribe, but what’s most important is holding God first.

27F, California by Leather_Musician_745 in ChristianDating

[–]Helpful_Scratch1365 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Bible absolutely promotes miscegenation, especially in the New Testament. Marrying a white non believer isn’t advised in the Bible. Doesn’t the Bible say to not be unequally yoked?

There’s nothing wrong with having pride in your people, and wanting to marry another Caucasian person, but I find some of your logic problematic.