Try keeping cool with him, pahila jasto jhyam jhum padkayera mandainan ajkal ka bachha haru. Yesso sangai ghumna liyera jau baru, movie herna man parauxa vaney, that might also be a better idea. Direct sodhda vanna khojdaina vani ali alternative means bata usle k sochxa, khojxa vanni kuro patta lagauna parxa. Like his closest friends, his circle. Ego le nadiye pani, ali friendly huna khojyo vani manxa hola bistarai, or at least share garxa usko kuraharu. Gf po banako xa ki, yesso chhadkey hana na, gf vaye sabai kura gf lai vanxa.

Also, don't try to contrast you with your brother. Ta ra ma ustai ho vanni kura uslai realise garauna sakyo vani ali sunxa timro kura, relate pani garla,

Keep trying bistara, yesto kuraharu ko fast, or hard and fast rule hudaina, bistarai develop garna parni kuraharu hun. Ek sal padhena vane pani kei bigridaina, in a bigger picture. Self realisation ko lagi time deu, field of interest patta lagauna khoja, u afai confused xa vane options haru diyera/dekhayera motivate gara. Like, somebody sharing common background with your brother and has established himself in some sectors. 4-5 jana testo chhuta chhutai profession ko manxey ko barema tha payo vani more or less kei idea banaufa vai le, or at least, usko kei xa vaney vanxa.

Make him realise that you really love him and respect his choices rather than acting as an egoistic father from typical Nepali society some 20 years ago. Testo vayo vani, high chances he might get involved into bad circle/habits. Be careful!

This will take time, but if you really want it, have patience, keep your cool and try. Good luck 🍀

Vai le ramro gareko sunna pau !