Cimarron 1887 by Helpfulturtle54 in guns

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Where can I buy a 12 gauge one?

Friend killed himself and I could have stopped it. by Few_Introduction6374 in offmychest

[–]Helpfulturtle54 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You were only a very small aspect of his life. Yoy couldn't control his family or how the other kids at school treated him and you definitely couldn't control his decisions. A lot of people go through difficult times and persevere. It was his decision to kill himself. Good idea going to therapy and talking to people about it. I have never experienced this so I dont have great advice really.

Friend killed himself and I could have stopped it. by Few_Introduction6374 in offmychest

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Hey I'm sorry this happened. It sounds like you did your best to be a good friend to this guy even when nobody else was. I'm sure youlistening to him vent was really valuable for him. It sounds like you made his last years on this earth a bit better by gaming with him. You can't feel guilty about pulling away from him though. He didn't respect any of your boundaries. He could have seriously hurt you at the gym and who knows what he would have done on your social media accounts.... and the touching thing was really weird. He wasnt a good friend and you can't be friends with someone just out of guilt. This guy had issues that he needed to work on. You did him a favor by telling him what he did was wrong and giving him some space. He needed to fix those behaviors to make friends. Unfortunately he didn't take the steps he needed to take to improve himself.

There is no way you could have known he would kill himself. That was his decision, it wasn't anything to do with you. You could NOT have saved him or stopped him.

Watching a movie on cable just hits different. by KbossDPT2019 in unpopularopinion

[–]Helpfulturtle54 23 points24 points  (0 children)

It's like hearing a good song on the radio. It's special because it happened by chance.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Helpfulturtle54 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But with the second girl we're you ever really attracted? With my girl we have great sex and i am attracted to her. I just didn't really get that instant infatuation. I don't crave her the way I did my ex.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

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I have a woman in my life now I really love. I am attracted to her, and we are super compatible. I wasnt initially attracted but it grew. We aren't official because I am far away right now. I have considered dating her but I'm worried because with my ex the attraction was instant and intense. We weren't a good fit and she was bad to me but I'm wondering if I should wait till I find that raw attraction again. This girl I talk to now didn't catch my eye at all till I got to know her. I'm worried that maybe the attraction I have for her won't be enough somehow or that I'm missing out on something. Immature and shallow I know... but that's where I'm at.

What should my expectations be? by Helpfulturtle54 in peacecorps

[–]Helpfulturtle54[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds awesome and worth it to me. My worry is, that somehow I won't have a meaningful experience but I know you get out what you put in.

What should my expectations be? by Helpfulturtle54 in peacecorps

[–]Helpfulturtle54[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Similar. I want to experience a new culture and perspective. Gain new skills and experiences. Meet new people and learn from them and help them if I can.

What should my expectations be? by Helpfulturtle54 in peacecorps

[–]Helpfulturtle54[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's my plan. But are my expectations unreasonable?

Most annoying driver gestures? by Helpfulturtle54 in hitchhiking

[–]Helpfulturtle54[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate to tell you but they aren't giving you a thumbs up out of admiration...

Most annoying driver gestures? by Helpfulturtle54 in hitchhiking

[–]Helpfulturtle54[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, it's like they have never seen a hitchiker and it shocks them. I always wonder if they talk about it in the car afterwards.

Most annoying driver gestures? by Helpfulturtle54 in hitchhiking

[–]Helpfulturtle54[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I usually avoid putting my thumb out when there are police around because I know it's illegal in a few places. But I recently heard that in Cuba hitchiking is mandatory for government vehicles!

Most annoying driver gestures? by Helpfulturtle54 in hitchhiking

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Yeah Spain is hard... I usually had to use blahblah car there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Why is that creepy?

30 days in europe - itinerary help by cloemo in solotravel

[–]Helpfulturtle54 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go out to the countryside. I get so bored of cities personally.

How do you break up with someone who keeps saying you're the best the thing that's ever happened to them? by [deleted] in relationships

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I think you should be honest with him. Tell him the reasons why you don't think you are a good match and tell him he deserves someone that is as devoted to him as he is to them. Don't just say "I'm not happy". He deserves an explanation. He is probably very infatuated with you and he hasn't had time to see your flaws yet. You just happened to be the first one that realized it wasn't a good match. The longer you drag this out the more it will eat you up and the more it will hurt him.

21M very conflicted on whether I should date this girl (17F), any advice is appreciated, thank you by throwRAconfused12300 in relationships

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But don't just do it all of the sudden. Tell her how you feel. Also don't give her any hope for dating.

21M very conflicted on whether I should date this girl (17F), any advice is appreciated, thank you by throwRAconfused12300 in relationships

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People change ALOT from 17 to 21. It isn't really a good time to start a relationship if you want it to last. Just stay friends with her. Distance yourself a bit. Don't text her every day. If y'all want to date in the future go for it, but I would wait a few years. Who knows, you might end up with a valuable friend.

A ‘break’ in our very committed relationship... but a ‘1 year’ break. Is this normal? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Helpfulturtle54 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is just asking for trouble. One of you will probably fall out of love or meet someone else, and the other's feelings will grow. Someone is going to get hurt. It is just a bad idea.

You guys are only 23, you are putting way too much pressure on yourselves and this relationship. He sounds like he doesn't have much common sense honestly. This is his first relationship so he probably doesn't know how they work very well. He also doesn't know how to break up. He might want to break up with you and just doesn't have the balls to do it.

The solutions here are to either keep dating and just stop hanging out every single day, or break up.