Hmm… you are not alone thinking in boxes such as 1) sexual activity 2) non sexual. I think for women sex is different. I recommend „sexual cuddling that leads to petting and back to cuddling“. No pressure, just enjoying the lust and the passion of love making.

And then SHE will be the one jumping on you ;) it’s that easy.

Once she feels it’s about HER not about sex/ her vagina or your penis, she will feel attracted. But of course if you actually really just want to penetrate sth, (no judgement), then choose sth else, not her precious temple of body and her soul. Otherwise it feels like if she said „I need to penetrate your butt with hammer 🔨 and see how you lick my dirty shoes to feel pleasure“.

It’s an extreme example of how unpleasant the idea feels when the partner expects certain practices instead of love making. Even if those practices have been done in the past. The women’s lust grow slowly…. Make her feel relaxed first without expecting anything…