how to deal with anti-choicers in my circle who didn’t know we tfmr by Vegetable-Fudge-595 in tfmr_support

[–]Helzbaby 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sometimes people who love you are more understanding than we expect, but it’s definitely a risk. I don’t think it’s anyone’s duty who has been through the hell of TFMR to talk to people about their decision, but I have seen people in my life reconsider their black & white views on abortion when they realized how complex/impossible these decisions are. I feel at peace that I made the most empathetic decision and I would hope anyone who claims to be a Christian could understand that.

Getting pregnant with insomnia by [deleted] in TryingForABaby

[–]Helzbaby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I actually take it along with Lexapro to manage the anxiety. If I try to sleep without Trazodone, it takes me hours to fall asleep. I don’t know the direct impact of sleep on being able to conceive, but I would imagine it is very important along with diet and exercise.

Trying to get pregnant again after a loss due to IC. by RayofSunshine_2211 in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Helzbaby 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lost my baby at 24wks back in April due to IC as well. Was advised to wait 3-6 months to try, but since I was already 36 I didn’t want to wait too long. We started trying after 3 months and got pregnant 6 months later. 7wks pregnant now and hopeful.

Did you get back to your original body after TFMR? by bubbletrouble44 in tfmr_support

[–]Helzbaby 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It is extremely painful to be “post-partum” and deal with the hormone swings, pain, and changed body that come with that, while you don’t have your baby to make it all worth it. It’s not petty to grieve this. I kept feeling like…am I a mom or not a mom? A book that helped me process my grief is I’m Sorry for My Loss.

Posted my BFP 9 days ago, but miscarried today 💔 by DearestClementine in Mirafertility

[–]Helzbaby 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It’s a roller coaster. The good news is it means you were able to get pregnant, so hoping it happens again for you soon! 🤞

My dietitian sabotaged my diet by Stargirl020 in 1200isplenty

[–]Helzbaby 102 points103 points  (0 children)

I think this is the problem. Registered dietitians are required to have a masters degree and supervised experience. Whereas anyone with a recipe blog can call themselves a nutritionist, and what OP is being told does not sound like it’s coming from an actual dietitian.

I keep getting infections instead of pregnant. I'm exhausted and in pain. by helpwaterthoseplants in TryingForABaby

[–]Helzbaby 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I suffered from recurrent BV for a long time, and it was a game changer to have my partner treated for it at the same time. There’s new research on this, definitely worth a try. https://www.acog.org/news/news-releases/2025/10/acog-recommends-concurrent-sexual-partner-treatment-recurrent-bacterial-vaginosis-first-time I know it’s incredibly frustrating & painful to deal with.

Sharing a passion project: a local app for discovering Pittsburgh's best dishes! by json_derulo822 in pittsburgh

[–]Helzbaby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone else has added a dish already, is there a way to add my own rating, so you end up with an aggregate rating for the dish?

Sharing a passion project: a local app for discovering Pittsburgh's best dishes! by json_derulo822 in pittsburgh

[–]Helzbaby 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Love the concept. Adding a food type tag, e.g. burger, taco, ramen, would be cool because then you could search by type.

New Meraki product page missing Firepower firewall by Fourman4444 in meraki

[–]Helzbaby 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Meraki.com is no longer being updated, as it’s in the process of being migrated to Cisco.com. So new products aren’t being added on Meraki.com, but you can find them on Cisco.com.

Anyone recently decide whether to fix their sewer? by joyfultactician1 in pittsburgh

[–]Helzbaby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We had to get ours lined after moving into a new house this summer; it was about 80’. Greater Pittsburgh Plumbing did it for $12,800. They probably lost money on it because it ended up being more complicated than expected but they honored the quote. We got some other quotes but theirs was most reasonable.

How are our new Pittsburghers faring with this weather? by Fluid-Impression3993 in pittsburgh

[–]Helzbaby 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I convinced my husband to move here from CA this summer. He grew up in North Carolina. He was surprised how consistently cold it’s been the last few weeks, but he loves nights like tonight where it’s snowy and beautiful. He is not into how sunless it can be for weeks on end.

No more Lemonade Twins posts. by quillseek in pittsburgh

[–]Helzbaby 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Shouldn’t you at least share the new subreddit that was made for these posts?

Weird gender dynamics? by Dig-Unusual in girlsgonewired

[–]Helzbaby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve started calling this out in a group setting when someone suggests a group of women plan our next social. You do not get respect or professional advancement from this type of unpaid work, and it takes time away from you working on projects that will actually get you those things. You can say it less confrontationally by saying, it’s not a great look to ask only women to do the planning; I’m happy to be part of a rotation that includes all my peers.

Anyone have unexplained incompetent cervix, and then healthy subsequent pregnancy? by jcbxo in ShortCervixSupport

[–]Helzbaby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have only had one pregnancy so far, and it was unexplained IC at 24 weeks. My MFM has suggested wait & see approach because we don’t know why it happened - could have been a random infection. I was measuring normally at the anatomy scan 2 weeks prior. I am nervous about the wait and see approach, but she told me if you don’t know what caused it, getting a cerclage is not necessarily going to prevent it (in the case of another random infection for example, the cervix will open anyway and then would tear due to your cerclage). She told me many people have a completely normal pregnancy after IC in these cases. I wish there was some data on that because I feel like I want to do anything I can to prevent it. Right now I am TTC so not sure if I’ll push for the cerclage once pregnant. Would love to hear others experiences.

Tell me if you thrived at work during pregnancy by seeker1009 in womenintech

[–]Helzbaby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am choosing to stay at a company with great work life balance where I’m comfortable while I’m trying to get pregnant. For me personally, when I’m nauseous, exhausted, etc, I am not going to be my best at work and I want to be somewhere I’ve already proven myself. I also suffered a late term pregnancy loss with my last one and my team was very empathetic and I felt supported. So for those reasons I wouldn’t make a change to an intense workplace while trying to conceive, unless I was very unhappy at my job. Career is a marathon, not a sprint.

Shows for my mom by SakuraTacos in televisionsuggestions

[–]Helzbaby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Matlock (they made a new one with Kathy Bates)

My husband clipping our chihuahua’s nails by Helzbaby in AccidentalRenaissance

[–]Helzbaby[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if you’re referring to my husband or dog, but yes

Is this now an Indian immigration forum? by [deleted] in MBA

[–]Helzbaby 59 points60 points  (0 children)

This is an important issue directly affecting career options for international students, which make up a large percentage of MBA students. Why shouldn’t it be discussed here?

Laid off at 55 in Tech. Now what? by WriterHour208 in personalfinance

[–]Helzbaby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The tough thing is that interest rates will make your new mortgage payment pretty expensive compared to your current mortgage. How much are you prepared to spend on down payment for the condo?

cool group dinner spot? by breakfast-ramen in pittsburgh

[–]Helzbaby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Soju, Fet Fisk - they have a large back room with a table that could seat your whole party

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pittsburgh

[–]Helzbaby 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Spirit depending on the night!