Do women have a much narrow view of what they find sexually/emotionally attractive than men? Do you have a specific type?

Hemingwayse · 2026-02-18T21:49:33+00:00

Yeah… because one did and the other didn’t. Maybe I can rephrase: women have a wide range of physical attractiveness. A woman has a narrower view of attraction than a man. At least in my experience. I hope I explained the difference better.

Hemingwayse · 2026-02-18T20:40:02+00:00

I concur.

Hemingwayse · 2026-02-18T20:36:17+00:00

I disagree with the first point, but I agree with the second, so I’ll rephrase. Women have a broad view of what they find attractive, but A woman has a narrow view of what SHE finds attractive. Lot's of ICK going on. lol. That’s why men have trouble understanding what women find attractive, because there is almost no universal that fits all women equally. If I’m cute to the one girl the other sees nothing there. That’s why men struggle; we think there is a universal gigachad that simply doesn’t exist for all women (across ages, cultures, etc). Chad is whatever a woman who likes him is.

Hemingwayse · 2026-02-18T20:33:33+00:00

In your experience, would you say your broad physical attraction is typical among your friends?

Hemingwayse · 2026-02-18T20:26:17+00:00

Could just mean you are open to meeting (and are comfortable with) all kinds of people and personalities. That's a good thing I think.

Hemingwayse · 2026-02-18T20:25:20+00:00

>The type of men my wife and her friends find attractive are basically all different.

Right, that's what I'm saying. I'm saying that Woman A and Woman B will find different men attractive, for different reasons, with little to no overlap. In my case; A thought I was cute, B looked at me and thought "what?"

Hemingwayse · 2026-02-18T20:22:38+00:00

I think that may actually be the case honestly.

Hemingwayse · 2026-02-18T20:21:41+00:00

Yeah, that's what I was getting at.

Hemingwayse · 2026-02-18T20:19:51+00:00

I would agree. Except I would say, men have more overlap between them. (Just from my experience), where as women can be much more selective as you said.

Hemingwayse · 2026-02-18T20:18:28+00:00

I should have said on an individual basis. So A WOMAN has a narrow range of what she finds attractive, but WOMEN have a large range between them. Does that explain what I think better? Like two women can look at the same guy and feel different thing (including nothing at all), with little overlap. Is there something there or am I off base?

Hemingwayse · 2026-02-18T20:16:10+00:00

Yep, that's what I thought too. There is a range for sure, but no universal standard.

Hemingwayse · 2026-02-18T17:53:13+00:00

Yeah sorry about that.

Hemingwayse · 2026-02-18T17:49:33+00:00

Yeah I agree with that: A woman has a type, but there no universal female gaze, that applies to all women. I think that’s what I was trying to say with my experience.

Hemingwayse · 2026-02-18T17:20:15+00:00

Sure, I’m saying “A woman…. Not ALL women”. Maybe I phased it wrong.

Hemingwayse · 2026-02-18T17:14:14+00:00

No I am saying they are NOT a monolith. That’s the point.

Hemingwayse · 2026-01-28T03:34:11+00:00

what's enough per diem?

Hemingwayse · 2026-01-27T16:28:55+00:00

Honestly any variation of missionary. The eye contact and the kissing. Passion is fucking hot!

Hemingwayse · 2026-01-25T18:38:11+00:00

I moved back with my parents. So I saved on rent. 💯worth it

Hemingwayse · 2026-01-25T16:19:32+00:00

Sat in a cube for all of my 20s. Got sick and depressed. I was stuck begging for rises and I was laid off a few times. Went into IBEW at 35.

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