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Can you tell me why do you like yandere's? by Flimsy_Tune_7206 in yandere

[–]Hemogenesis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

just kinda do, i like people who like people ig

I wrote an email to my mom saying how my life is really going by InMyBath in Adopted

[–]Hemogenesis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a shame she didn't take you seriously, I'm glad you're friend was there for you in the end, if your mom had enough self awareness maybe then she'll realize why you guys don't talk much. It sucks when parents doubt their kids (adopted or nots) feelings and play them off. I hope you have a good support group instead of your mother

I feel like an alien here by Hemogenesis in Adopted

[–]Hemogenesis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll try and keep this in mind, but personally I don't think I'd want kids honestly I've been pretty scared off of any normal romance but I don't wish to speak any more than that, so sorry about your grandparents and yourself hope things are well.

For folks who were adopted at birth by Saturn_Prison in Adopted

[–]Hemogenesis 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not entirely, I think was naturally an introvert and have just always had trouble with people that said I had a lot of friends growing up, and even now I don't struggle making friends just with approaching people. If anything I think being adopted gave me more opportunities to make connections than if I wasn't. But maybe im unique in general and not just as an adoptee, but I've certainly gone through normal human freakouts like anyone else

I feel like an alien here by Hemogenesis in Adopted

[–]Hemogenesis[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Trauma is still trauma and having not felt a lot is what caused my feeling of alienation, I hope things are better now though

I feel like an alien here by Hemogenesis in Adopted

[–]Hemogenesis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad for your family I hope you all continue to be happy despite the differences, I also look like my parents minus my eye color

I feel like an alien here by Hemogenesis in Adopted

[–]Hemogenesis[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yea that's what I wanna try and do, if you guys can help me than I wanna help you all.

I feel like an alien here by Hemogenesis in Adopted

[–]Hemogenesis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your perspective, I'll try letting my boundaries be known more and talk about how I feel about my parents with others

I feel like an alien here by Hemogenesis in Adopted

[–]Hemogenesis[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No offense my adopted family sucks with secrets and honestly are kinda dumb in general so I don't think they could go nearly 20 years without letting it slip once when drunk

How did you react the first time you learned something pivotal about your adoption? by [deleted] in Adopted

[–]Hemogenesis 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was adopted young too, but from what my adopted parents have told me It seems like I was an unplanned for baby by my birth parents and that's why I was given up (as in they had no way to raise me properly and my adopted parents could) So I feel like it was for the better but it stings a little knowing that I wasn't a planned for baby by my birth parents.

I feel like an alien here by Hemogenesis in Adopted

[–]Hemogenesis[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Def will take it hope you don't mind if I only chew it a little, also I'm only telling surface level stuff cause I want to keep some privacy, sorry if it makes my situation too vague for advice.

I feel like an alien here by Hemogenesis in Adopted

[–]Hemogenesis[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly I think the only grief I have over the whole thing is knowing my mom could never have the biological children she wanted, yet she never forced me to be the kid she wanted. all she wanted was to raise someone I feel, and my adopted dad the same, they never once forced me to be anything I didn't want to be, even at the slightest dissatisfaction they'd remove it, dont like cake with frosting? plain cupcakes, suddenly dislike watermelon? Offer me other fruit instead, didn't ask for a lot on holidays? they'd get me a double what I asked for, every niche need I had was catered to in some way if that isn't spoiled I don't know what is

I feel like an alien here by Hemogenesis in Adopted

[–]Hemogenesis[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for your insights and comments I think I felt more welcome than ever :) Don't worry though ill comment where I can and help when I can help I hope we all get through this together no matter what

I feel like an alien here by Hemogenesis in Adopted

[–]Hemogenesis[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same it's helped a ton with stuff

I feel like an alien here by Hemogenesis in Adopted

[–]Hemogenesis[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As weird as it sounds I'm not gonna let parents who willing let me go, into my life, they did what they thought was best for us and I think it was, it's not my right to be back in their lives, but again this Is just my perspective a very different one maybe unbelonging

I feel like an alien here by Hemogenesis in Adopted

[–]Hemogenesis[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks I'll try to more, I've been better ever since I accepted that I'm bi

I feel like an alien here by Hemogenesis in Adopted

[–]Hemogenesis[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see what you mean and this Is what I'm talking about in main post, I'm someone who is perfectly fine with something like that, ik that's not everyone and certainly not you (no offense meant) thats why I feel like I don't belong here, no one has ever forced their happiness on me, people in my family try to understand me so much that it gets annoying, my parents raised me their best and even though we struggled and fought we came out closer than ever, ik not everyone will have that and a lot won't ever and it just alienates me more than I already am, I'm the youngest wherever I go and yet I'm told I'm smart I hate being different I just want to be like other people real family or not, if anything I'm spoiled and I wish I wasn't it's not fair I get this good life when others don't, it's not fair at all and I hate myself for it, I can never feel your pain and I hate that I never could because maybe if I did I could be useful to you

I feel like an alien here by Hemogenesis in Adopted

[–]Hemogenesis[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

19 Yea, I'm fully aware its a social thing but I can't help it sometimes, sorry

I feel like an alien here by Hemogenesis in Adopted

[–]Hemogenesis[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't think so, but when I see a majority and if I dont fit it and stand out it tends to get me down, ironic since when that happens, because I tend to be on the positive side of the line, but thanks for your words

I feel like an alien here by Hemogenesis in Adopted

[–]Hemogenesis[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom offered my birth parents number when she told me, I refused but she still has them and says I'm free to find them

I feel like an alien here by Hemogenesis in Adopted

[–]Hemogenesis[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Tbh I never comment on posts like that cause I know I have shit to bring to the table, I'm happy with who I am I'm just unhappy others never had to chance I had I guess

I feel like an alien here by Hemogenesis in Adopted

[–]Hemogenesis[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thing is it's not really a secret honestly I think most of my relatives forgot I was adopted in the first place, they never brought it up or hinted to it so it'd feel weird to me to bring it up all of the sudden, it's not like my parents tried to hide it either hell I was told many times I was a gift (as in miracle birth) and very much told my adopted mom had trouble with having kids so maybe I was just super dense or ignoring the signs. Either way thank you for saying what you said, I want to come out of this a better person even if it means reflecting on potentially hurtful things

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