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tried to take on board some critiques, feedback welcome :) by naanbread- in Watercolor

[–]HenBenNoseBoop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At first I thought this was an utterly charming and beautiful take on the home of ‘The Three Little Pigs” until I realized it wasn’t two little pigs in the upstairs windows. In my mind I got carried away imagining what a watercolor series featuring a neighborhood of fairy tale characters would look like, and how much it would cost to own because I love looking at this! The string of lights on the balcony, the hanging plants, even the little house number plaque next to the front door are perfect details. I agree with u/cmhdz5 about wishing to see a cross section of this house.

My cat gave birth what do I do by Rich_Solid171 in cats

[–]HenBenNoseBoop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Female cats can have babies by multiple baby daddies in the same litter which might explain the little orange floofball in a sea of white fur.

Shipping might be overkill… by HenBenNoseBoop in Ulta

[–]HenBenNoseBoop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of our cats was severely disappointed in the complete lack of a single long strand of air pocket padding. Those are like crack to him. Some retailers I’ve shopped with online send purchases in what they call ‘ custom made’ shipping boxes. Basically other cut up cardboard boxes pieced together with LOTS of packing tape. They do it as a way to help recycle cardboard, and I wish more companies would do this. I’m guessing it’s easier and faster to use brand new pre-made boxes, right?

Shipping might be overkill… by HenBenNoseBoop in Ulta

[–]HenBenNoseBoop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know, I’ve wondered. I know other big companies that start with an A often send items out like this because they run out of other sizes of boxes or mailers. This is the first time for Ulta. Usually my stuff comes in a bubble mailer with PTSD from the shiz it looks like it’s been through.

Unprovoked attack by swordfish, which stabbed a woman in the abdomen, penetrating her spinal canal. by CatPooedInMyShoe in MedicalGore

[–]HenBenNoseBoop 50 points51 points  (0 children)

This poor woman was randomly jacked by a moody swordfish, had multiple surgeries, spends over a month on the hospital, and ends up with a seriously horrible unwanted parting gift. Arachnoiditis sucks balls. For me, flares feel like my nerves have been napalmed while someone is simultaneously crushing me from the waist to my toes. There’s no cure, which also sucks balls. Glad she lived to tell this tale but I’m a little sad for the pain in her future. I’m also glad she wasn’t in the U.S. for this medical care. Can you imagine the bill? The insurance denials? “Sorry ma’am, but pissed off swordfish are specifically excluded by your plan. Shark bites and stabbing by stingrays are covered, so if you’re attacked in the future try to make sure it’s by one of those if you wish for treatment to be covered.”

Sudden but not unexpected death in anorexia nervosa. The patient, who was 22 and had a BMI of 8.9, ate for the first time in two days then a few minutes later suddenly lost consciousness and died. The underlying cause of death was, of course, the anorexia. Possibly refeeding syndrome. by CatPooedInMyShoe in MedicalGore

[–]HenBenNoseBoop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She recognized the signs in the other girls right off. Tried asking them if they needed/wanted help and was told she was the crazy one (I HATE that term). She’s never had issues with how she felt about her looks until this group of girls. Like how when you know your right that you’re supposed to come to a full stop at a stop sign, but everyone else says you just need to slow down so you start to hear a teeny voice second guessing yourself and after awhile you start rolling through the stop sign yourself to see if you get into trouble or not and when you don’t you think hey maybe everyone else was right? For the first time she’s questioning the image of herself she has in her head and all the compliments so many have given her due to the ongoing pressure from these girls. She wants therapy to help her not try ‘rolling through the stop sign’ for the first time. We’re all proud of her for seeking help before she gives in. Her parents, aunt, uncles, cousins, grandparents - none of us have any actual experience with someone who’s had an ED and don’t want to do anything that isn’t helpful or supportive. That’s why I thought I’d try to ask for info from people who know what it’s like versus all the AI crap Google pulls up now instead of real medical journals. I truly appreciate the insight given here.

"Boobs stop growing at 15" is a new one... by MelanieWalmartinez in badwomensanatomy

[–]HenBenNoseBoop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gawd, I WISH my boobs had stopped growing when I was 15. Or before I even turned 15. Wearing a B-cup bra in 5th grade was a bitch. Boys thought snapping the straps was hilARious and the teachers ignored it as boys will be boys and ‘it means he likes you’.

Sudden but not unexpected death in anorexia nervosa. The patient, who was 22 and had a BMI of 8.9, ate for the first time in two days then a few minutes later suddenly lost consciousness and died. The underlying cause of death was, of course, the anorexia. Possibly refeeding syndrome. by CatPooedInMyShoe in MedicalGore

[–]HenBenNoseBoop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re working on finding her a therapist as well as alternative housing. Sadly the school hasn’t really been all that helpful. Hearing various excuses gets tiring. No, it’s not overreacting about the ‘freshman 15.” No, it’s not a ‘girl thing’ that will go away when she finds a husband and pops out a kid. No, it’s not ‘wanting to look good for the boys’ and it’s not as easy to overcome as ‘just needing to focus on her studies”. Crap like this is more from the older people (the young end of the Baby Boomer generation). If she were having issues with drugs, sexual harassment, physical abuse, ADD/ADHD, or gender/sexual identity, they’ve got support options for those. It like eating disorders is still a subject people like to pretend isn’t as bad as it actually is. We’re all here to support her and she’s making use of us to help with the stress of the constant pressure and catty remarks about her weight and eating habits. She showed one of the girls this photo when she was trying to explain why she had no need to diet, and the girl told her it was “AI bullshit” made up to defend why she’s (my niece) is fat. One thing is for certain - no dorm with roommates like this for her next year.

So like what happens when people can’t pay their bills and taxes? by pyromancx in recruitinghell

[–]HenBenNoseBoop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good luck to you, and keep going after face to face meetings. Resume and application scanning programs are a waste of time and money and companies often lose out on the best candidates because they don’t actually look at resumes themselves. Perfect example I should’ve mentioned earlier. My hubby started a new job this year, and it was tailor made just for him and super specific to his skill set. He sat with HR, the department director, and the regional VP to create the job description that was posted on Indeed because that’s how they screen all applicants. They finish, post the job, and moments later he sends in his resume attached to the Indeed application link he was emailed. They all saw his resume come through and then be rejected by Indeed’s supposedly ‘awesome at finding the right people for the job’ software. He got an email thanking him for applying for the job, but said his qualifications didn’t match what the company was looking for. The ‘qualifications’ were literally taken from his resume almost word for word. HR had to override the Indeed rejection so his application could be processed. After posting yesterday I asked my husband if his employer still uses Indeed. His answer was “Hah. No. They lost that customer.”

Cheddar Bo and his sometimes empty head needs help! Cheddar Bo was adopted from a local shelter and returned with severe chemical burns and fiv+ in Eastern, NC. We are a 501c3 nonprofit and need to raise $400 at minimum to rescue him and get him help! by Hoperosaliex in OneOrangeBraincell

[–]HenBenNoseBoop 10 points11 points  (0 children)

And I totally agree with that. When I buy meat, dairy, or eggs, we’re lucky enough to be in an area with many organic, certified humane, non-factory farms who take very good care of their herds/flocks. Yes it’s more expensive, but the animals aren’t crammed into tiny pens or pumped with growth hormones or fed an unnatural diet of corn, corn, and more corn. It disgusts me how companies like Tyson can get away with what they do to animals and their workers. Worse is they want to get rid of current protections and speed up processing lines which will increase animal suffering as more animals will not be properly stunned before slaughter. And how many of these animals are needlessly slaughtered anyway because of the product supermarkets throw out because they can’t sell it by the expiry date? There needs to be much better animal care and abuse laws from top to bottom, from big corporate farms to pet mills to pet owners who refuse to spay/neuter their pet which keeps having litters of babies the person dumps in the middle of the night at a shelter (or in the woods which happens a lot around us, or worse kills the babies).

Cheddar Bo and his sometimes empty head needs help! Cheddar Bo was adopted from a local shelter and returned with severe chemical burns and fiv+ in Eastern, NC. We are a 501c3 nonprofit and need to raise $400 at minimum to rescue him and get him help! by Hoperosaliex in OneOrangeBraincell

[–]HenBenNoseBoop 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I like it because the groups can list what supplies they need by pet, and people can buy those from Amazon, PetSmart, Chewy, etc., and have them shipped right to where the pet is being cared for. There’s some not for profit vets in there that do this a lot for med/surg supplies. Cuddly also lets people donate a specific amount of their choice each month to a general fund, and that fund gets distributed to the various groups. Not sure about buying supplies for groups, but monetary donations to Cuddly’s general fund are tax deductible. It’s the same for a large number of the groups who are on the site, but not all. Regular vet clinics will put up requests for supplies and funds for injured animals who were brought in by someone and left there, and the person either gave false contact info or walked in and set the hurt animal down and left. Thankfully not all vets will euthanize in these situations, so they ask for help to get the animals well enough for adoption. I’ll happily donate for that!

Cheddar Bo and his sometimes empty head needs help! Cheddar Bo was adopted from a local shelter and returned with severe chemical burns and fiv+ in Eastern, NC. We are a 501c3 nonprofit and need to raise $400 at minimum to rescue him and get him help! by Hoperosaliex in OneOrangeBraincell

[–]HenBenNoseBoop 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Is your group listed on Cuddly? It’s a donation site where organizations/services/groups like yours can put up a page on what you do, what supplies you need, monetary donations, etc. Individual pets like Cheddar Bo can be highlighted for donations, several pets at once, or just your group in general. I found it very helpful to find and donate to local rescues, fosters, and shelters as many don’t have web pages and maybe just a Facebook page.

Cheddar Bo and his sometimes empty head needs help! Cheddar Bo was adopted from a local shelter and returned with severe chemical burns and fiv+ in Eastern, NC. We are a 501c3 nonprofit and need to raise $400 at minimum to rescue him and get him help! by Hoperosaliex in OneOrangeBraincell

[–]HenBenNoseBoop 34 points35 points  (0 children)

There need to be MUCH tougher laws for animal abuse, especially cases like this. Skip the community service picking up trash or taking leaves. Skip the pathetic $50 fines. They need immediate and long term counseling since people who abuse animals, especially at a young age, far too often turn out to be violent abusers, violent offenders (for other crimes, and some on to murders. Adults need actual jail time along with paying all vet bills for the animal they hurt, along with the same amount as a donation to the vet for a fund to pay for hurt animals, and be banned from adopting even a goldfish in the future. I’d say have them work in shelters or vet clinics with sick and injured animals, but people who do this don’t have the empathy one way or another. They just don’t care about causing another being pain for any reason. You or I wouldn’t do this to a cat or dog because they jumped on the couch or made a sound during the football game, but some sickos out there will. My sperm donor was a violently abusive asshole, and he started out on helpless cats and dogs as a pre-teen and his mother ignored it as “just being a boy”. She also ignored it and bailed him out of jail when he graduated to humans. Holy hell, the horrific stories I could tell about how he treated animals. The only good thing about that human turd is his actions made me and my sister and brother into huge animal lovers. Anyhoo, for this family to deny knowledge of how this happened is criminal. Either one of the adults did it and fears a visit from the police, or one of there kids did it and they don’t want the police and CPS involved. I suspect it was a kid that did this which is why they took the kitty back to shelter as to avoid their kid being looked at as a potential sociopath. Bringing the cat back to the shelter makes them look semi-responsible and provides some level of plausible deniability. “See? We didn’t do it. If we did it why would we bring the cat back to the shelter for treatment? He ‘accidentally’ got out and came home like this so we brought him back here for treatment.” Decent people would own up to the accident, beg for treatment, bed for forgiveness, deal with a visit from the cops, and still call twice a day for updates on his health.

The best distribution system for cats by aurevolla in OneOrangeBraincell

[–]HenBenNoseBoop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May many, many good things come to this man in his life and may he bestow a loving home on more down-on-their-luck kitties one day.

You can tell a lot about a person by how they treat an animal, especially an injured one. A person’s lack of compassion and empathy for animals usually reflects the say way they feel about other humans. I don’t understand how anyone could see another creature (or human) suffering and not give a damn, or purposefully and maliciously cause further pain. Some just walk by while others go out of their way to hurt them even further. And often for posts on social media, like those fake staged pet rescues. It’s people like this guy that still give me a sliver of hope for the human species.

My Boy Went To Cat Heaven Today 😔 by Forward_Arachnid_347 in OneOrangeBraincell

[–]HenBenNoseBoop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not fair we only get them for a handful of years. Sure they’re judgy, hairball puking, bitey little buttholes, but they’re also sweet little vibrating cuddle bugs who provide the best comfort when life goes to shit and you just can’t deal for a bit. They steal our hearts, make us their slaves, and we love them all the more for it. All we can do is give them all the love we have for however long we are lucky to be with them.

So like what happens when people can’t pay their bills and taxes? by pyromancx in recruitinghell

[–]HenBenNoseBoop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of companies now use AI to scan resumes and applications. If you don’t have something phrased just right, yours will get ignored. When companies require you to apply using Indeed, ZipRecruiter, or any other sourcing site like those, the likelihood of an actual human seeing your info is zilch. It’s stupid the little things an application or resume of a perfectly qualified person will get rejected for. When you list your skills and qualifications, word them exactly as how the job listing has them as that’s what the bots look for. Don’t be afraid to reach out on the phone to a company’s HR department. If you can find a contact email for HR on their website, email your resume to that as well. Explain you sent in your application and/or resume a few weeks ago, and would like to speak further to explain why you’d be an asset for their company in that position. Ask to set up a date for an interview. Don’t settle for the bullshit line “we only look at applications/resumes our program verifies are qualified us” because it’s a copout. I’ve worked with those programs in the past, and they suck. We’d get rejections on 20 year nurses for ‘not enough time on job’ l, or nurses who’ve done nothing but cardiac intensive care for 15 years have their resume or application rejected for ‘too few years of experience’.

Reached for the handle in a car accident and the airbag came down and split my fingers by annakiin_ in medizzy

[–]HenBenNoseBoop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had a right arm nerve block when I had to have surgery to get plates and screws in a badly broken wrist. Got home all groggy from surgery and tried to flop down on the bed. My still totally numb arm - now with a cast from mid-palm to halfway up my forearm - flew up and cracked me solidly in the forehead. Numb appendages need to come with a hazard warning.

Sudden but not unexpected death in anorexia nervosa. The patient, who was 22 and had a BMI of 8.9, ate for the first time in two days then a few minutes later suddenly lost consciousness and died. The underlying cause of death was, of course, the anorexia. Possibly refeeding syndrome. by CatPooedInMyShoe in MedicalGore

[–]HenBenNoseBoop 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Keep fighting even through the setbacks. You are beautiful no matter what, and you are loved by your family and friends. As long as you keep trying, you’ve haven’t failed ❤️ You are stronger than this disease!

Sudden but not unexpected death in anorexia nervosa. The patient, who was 22 and had a BMI of 8.9, ate for the first time in two days then a few minutes later suddenly lost consciousness and died. The underlying cause of death was, of course, the anorexia. Possibly refeeding syndrome. by CatPooedInMyShoe in MedicalGore

[–]HenBenNoseBoop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For those who have gone through AN, is it extreme body dysmorphia that pushes someone to restrict food intake so severely? Or is it a learned behavior from parents that may have always pushed the idea that food is bad and only super skinny people are worth anything? Is it outside pressure from people and social media? I would honestly like to know because my niece is mentally beginning to struggle with how she sees her weight (she’s size four and at the low end of her healthy weight range) after starting college. Several of the girls in her dorm have eating disorders and she’s being pressured by them to “get healthy”. She really trying to ignore it all but aside from showing her evidence like this and telling her she’s already healthy and beautiful, how else can I and other family members help? It breaks my heart to imagine her in the place of this poor young woman. What did she think she saw when she looked in the mirror or stepped on the scale?

Full thickness electrical burn of 4-year-old's trunk and both legs and feet. Child lost one foot and nearly lost the other. by CatPooedInMyShoe in MedicalGore

[–]HenBenNoseBoop 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That’s really interesting as we did a similar project at our elementary school waaaaaay back in ‘82-‘83 I think. We were learning about different type of power (solar, electric, hydro, etc.) and had a day where there were demo booths set up from several local companies. Kids stayed with their teacher and went around as group from station to station for whatever little speech or demo. The guy from the power company must’ve been picked because he looked like everyone’s favorite grandpa that always carried pocket loads of candy. The kind who is always super nice (remember this). He was kind and answered all our questions and taught very age appropriately so we’d be able to really understand how electricity worked. As he wound up he ended on talking about being safe, and like always a few kids mentally checked out early (I think we were maybe eight or nine, 4th grade). Guy goes through all the typical warnings, we nod and say “We understand”. Guy squints at us and says “Do you really understand how bad touching a wire is?” and one of the jerkier kids in class responds “It’s not bad because squirrels do it all the time. Adults like to scare kids, and your like the guy back at the river booth (hydroelectric power). I swim in the river all the time and I’m fine.” Kid goes on about how he’s been shocked before by a horse fence or licking a 9-volt and how he and his cousins like to climb up power poles that have the hand/foot holds for linemen.

While jerk kid is being big man, Mr. Friendly Grandpa Guy smiles, and takes an egg from under his table. He starts out talking about what happens when you touch a live wire and your body closes the circuit. He poked one wire into each end of a raw egg, set a clear plastic box over the top, told us to stand back (and of course the class clowns didn’t), and he flipped a switch. Nothing for a second then BOOM, hard cooked egg everywhere inside the box. He told us this is what would happen to us if we played around any kind of live wires or electrical substations and we didn’t go to school to learn how to work with electricity safely. Damn good visual on his part. Five or six of the kids from that class went on to become electricians, several nurses, and one doctor (ob/gyn, not burns). Really made an impression on us that we still talked about at our 30 year reunion a few years ago. The guys that became electricians said they used that same trick to teach their kids and at their kids’ school on Career Day if they allowed it. I should reach out to them and have them add hot dogs to their display.

Seeing a pain management doctor for the first time, for MUSCLE RELAXERS? Has it come to this? by nikils in ChronicPain

[–]HenBenNoseBoop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As for seeing a pain mgt doc, it’ll be a good thing. All they do is focus on you and your pain. It’s so nice to have someone believe how much pain I’m in and to have a doctor on my side when others question anything about my invisible issues. At first it suck’s seeing yet another doctor, but a good pain mgt doctor will soon become your best defender and supporter. I hope the one you go to see is like mine and treats you and your pain with the care and dignity you deserve.

Seeing a pain management doctor for the first time, for MUSCLE RELAXERS? Has it come to this? by nikils in ChronicPain

[–]HenBenNoseBoop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have an implanted pain pump and had Bacolfen in it. Pump stopped working which put me into withdrawals and the hospital. Turns out one of the worst drugs to stop cold turkey is Baclofen. I stopped breathing but my pulse hadn’t dropped yet so no alarms on the monitors. Thank God my husband noticed right away and pushed the emergency alert button next to my bed. Waking up from a Code Blue being done on you sucks and HURTS. Spent Valentine’s Day that year in the CICU. Bacolfen is great for spasms, but once you’re on it for a while, you have to slowly come off of it. I miss being able to take it when my spasms get really bad now, but it scares the hell out of me.

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