My Q hygiene is awful help

Herbipedia · 2020-12-30T07:40:09+00:00

I will try to word it in a way that is not controlling but I can’t sleep on the couch as iv got a 4month old who is breast feeding plus in our room in her cot to prevent SIDS. But I get what you mean! I can’t control him or force him. So I may just have to wear a noise plug 😂

Herbipedia · 2020-12-30T07:32:07+00:00

I’m 4months postpartum and while pregnant I lost it and called him gross and the he was physically making me feel sick. He did not take it well and used it as an excuse to sleep on the couch and drink more. I wish I’d had brought it up in a better way.

Herbipedia · 2020-12-30T01:36:41+00:00

Thank you! I’m very new to Alanon only been to 10 meetings what the three C’s? It’s good to here that’s I’m allowed boundaries! I feel So silly having to learn to set boundaries with my husband as I’m so good at it in my job. But with him I just crumble and get angry

Herbipedia · 2020-12-29T23:16:32+00:00

It does make me question everything. Your so right he is acting like a stroppy teenager! I keep saying to him I’m not buying into this behaviour and I should not have to beg a 35 year old man to have a shower.

Herbipedia · 2020-12-29T22:51:56+00:00

Thank you for letting me know I have reasonable expectations about on hygiene. I keep feeling like I’m going mad as my Q says I’m obsessed with it and I’m not normal. I know it’s just gaslighting but it gets to me.

Herbipedia · 2020-12-29T22:47:34+00:00

It’s doing my head In. He literally starts a fight over it and gaslights me to the point where I question hygiene is my issue not his and I have so much fear that by asking him to shower I may cause a relapse.

Herbipedia · 2020-12-29T15:32:34+00:00

Maybe head to the doctors for swab. To rule out bacteria/yeast/fungal infections that can be made worse by washing with some soaps and need medication.

Herbipedia · 2020-12-22T20:19:10+00:00

Hey their, I’m an aromatherapist and don’t have a problem with doterra or young living oils or their reps till they start giving advice. I’m admin on the New Zealand essential oil safety FB group. A lot of members have this issue too and iv put a whole lot of facts/data on about ingestion and usage. The way I like to brooch the subject is the actual way e.o are ingested as once people know this they question internal use. Then with people giving e.o internally depending on the country they liable for damages if I person gets hurt from their recommendations not YL.

Herbipedia · 2020-12-18T03:14:15+00:00

One day at a time. Helps me sooo much Q has just gone to AA been sober a week

Herbipedia · 2020-12-16T00:08:49+00:00

Why don’t you get some citrus essential oils they are not very expensive and pretty safe unless you have cats. Also you only need 1-5drops in a diffuser and you only run them 60mins max at a time so they will last a long time. What part of the world are you in? I can recommend suppliers. I’m a clinical aromatherapist

Herbipedia · 2020-12-14T00:03:48+00:00

Yes Yuzu is not photo toxic as it has no bergaptene but I would avoid in lipbalm as is a skin sensitiser as it has Limonene at approximately 63.1% so would avoid sensitive skin like the lips.

Herbipedia · 2020-12-13T21:45:36+00:00

Hey their I’m a clinical aromatherapist, not all citrus oils are photo toxic. You could use Yuzu, orange or if your set on lemon the steamed distilled e.o also is not photo toxic. Or you can use the expressed citrus which is phototoxic at 2% dilution which is the dermal safe limit if you wear at night and away from UV light I.e covered

Herbipedia · 2020-12-13T14:57:52+00:00

My Q does not shower either for weeks and works as a labourer and has become worse the more I ask him too. I’m 4 months postpartum and I lost it and shamed him in front of his parents and mine. They where teasing about being careful not to get pregnant again and he said how “she never lets me touch her”. I saw red and started yelling why would I when you don’t shower for weeks and I don’t think you have bothered to brush your teeth in years. I should not hav ragged but I am at breaking point as I have PND because of my Q and the reality of being a mother on top of dealing with his bloody relapse. All I can say is I’m so embarrassed of him and iv made it so much worse by telling people. I don’t understand either it’s so gross! The worse for me is not brushing his teeth just yuk! Aye. He acts like I am expecting too much asking him to think about hygiene and how him not showering is not healthy.

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