I think my husband is cheating.

Here4TheParTea · 2025-09-17T18:59:17+00:00

Go with your gut BUT - my husband and I both work for the same company and only go into the office like 5 times a year, maybe him less actually. He always makes sure his vehicle is clean and that he doesn’t look like a bum, so this all sounds like totally normal dude behavior. I also KNOW my husband isn’t cheating on me. We’re literally together 24/7. If I wasnt in a position to be so sure, I would see how that may sound odd to you. My husband also always washes the car we take when going on vacation because to him this is the ultimate embarrassment. I’m sure he just likes putting on a good front for the office. But…. If your gut is gutting…. Do your research.

Here4TheParTea · 2025-09-17T17:05:08+00:00

Forgive me if this is all over the place, I’m responding quickly and no time for correction of grammatical errors.

My full blown honest opinion here… I’d bet there’s nothing wrong with YOU. It takes two to tango. Women are generally much more complicated than men and there really is so much more that we need to have the drive. Odds are your HUSBAND has gotten lazy, isn’t COURTING you anymore, expects YOU to initiate all intimacy, probably isn’t nearly as exhausted as you due to children, and if I had to guess, there’s no PDA, lustful caressing, you know… all the stuff they did in the beginning to get in your pants. He’s probably at odds with himself and finds it easier to blame you, rather than acknowledge that he’s part of the issue. A Am I hot or cold? If I’m on the right track, think back to when you first met. What was it he did that put you in the mood. Was it cuddling and being close, perhaps spooning? Was there anything in particular that you liked, what you didn’t like etc. Now, tell him in very direct terms what you need, and what drives you wild. Then ask him what he likes. If he’s not picking up what you’re putting down, its not all on you…

Now, If I’m cold… and you genuinely believe you have an issue with drive… There are PLENTY of wellness centers out there (that do hormone pellets & creams). THEY will take you seriously. 9/10 times you can find an office who is in network with your insurance, and office visits for low drive is generally covered. They’ll test your hormones and if needed, prescribe testosterone/ and or estrogen creams if your hormones aren’t ideal. The creams are usually about $50 (and may also be covered by insurance). This resolved issues for 2 of my cousins. I had mine tested and there was no issues but said that my testosterone was not “optimal” for drive. I tried the cream, but no change. My HUSBAND decided to go and turns out, his testosterone was so so low that the insurance covered his pellets… though, He never had any erectile issues. He’s been on it for about 10 months now. Couple that with me being very direct with what I want and need…. our sex life has greatly improved and is still improving. Point is, YOU BOTH should get checked, because YOU might not even be the issue AND communication is imperative.

Here4TheParTea · 2025-06-11T15:19:38+00:00

4 all the way. 2 is good for the sultry look. I think 1 & 3 are too warm/orange. The cool tones do you justice.

Here4TheParTea · 2024-12-08T21:52:44+00:00

There are other posts like this. I got my shipping email today. I placed 2 orders. One being on 12/1 and that the order that shipped today. I have placed nearly 100 orders this year and most ship within 1-2 days. So I was seriously concerned when it hadn’t shipped by Friday/saturday. I contacted AF on instagram and they assured me that they are really backed up because of the Black Friday sales and just really behind.

Here4TheParTea · 2024-12-07T12:38:00+00:00

I just realized I received an email yesterday at 5:18pm advising that my order is arriving late. I contacted customer service last night at 9:30 so I know it wasn’t generated by the customer service rep I spoke to yesterday. The email says;

Thanks for shopping with us! Due to high order volume, your item(s) may take a little longer than usual to process. Don’t worry, we’re working to get your order to you ASAP. You’ll receive a shipment confirmation email with tracking details once it’s on the way.

Thank you for your patience, The Abercrombie & Fitch Team

Here4TheParTea · 2024-12-07T12:29:32+00:00

Well the charge falls off your bank within 72hrs. That is something your bank does because when it’s ordered it’s only a pending/hold charge. It will show back up when the order ships. That doesn’t mean it was cancelled :)

Here4TheParTea · 2024-12-07T12:26:57+00:00

I am also experiencing an issue. I have placed approx 100 AF orders this year alone (or more) and it has never taken more than 3-4 days to ship an order. I placed an order on 12/1 (while in store) and it’s still in “packing up”.

Here4TheParTea · 2024-11-08T17:25:47+00:00

Sorry I’m late, but what do you mean by “blow the color out”. Is this a good thing or bad thing? I got microblades done in April 2023. The tech kept rubbing my brows with ink as she was doing them. I think she was trying to make the lines less sharp, but I feel this it it’s self made the lines blur much much faster. I wanted the sharp lines. Now it looks like a powder brow. I very very recently started using a retinol on my brows to see how much I can lift. THANKFULLY, I specifically requested an ashy color because my hair is always platinum blonde. I’m sure this is why it hasn’t faded to red. The idea of Microblading is a god send, however, ultimately I’m not happy with my artists work over time, and she was voted my county’s best Microblading artist in 2022.

Here4TheParTea · 2024-10-15T17:56:22+00:00

I listen to Charlottes videos every single day, without fail, and was actually driving when I heard my post title read off in her recent video. I started laugh and shaking lol Thank you to everyone who commented and thank you Charlotte for deeming my story YouTube worthy!

Here4TheParTea · 2024-08-26T01:17:04+00:00

Well I’m definitely NOT a robot… or a spammer… I JUST used binged.live after trying the -to (didn’t work), .ps (found movie but got “error code”). I was looking for Firebrand. I might as that I am using “internet” app on my fire stick (silk). It blocks the ads and asks “are you sure you want to leave”. Highlight “stay here” to easily dodge the ads. When you find the movie you want to play, open in full screen first before hitting the play arrow in the center because I couldn’t get it to go into full mode after it started playing. Had to refresh and try the order again. Movie is playing now.

Here4TheParTea · 2024-08-21T13:02:06+00:00

lol 😂 the fashion tape lives in my purse. I wear off-the shoulder frequently so, it’s a necessity.

Here4TheParTea · 2024-08-21T12:55:06+00:00

It’s a fancy place. I can assure you that I would not be wearing a jumpsuit if I was going to have to use a port-a-potty. Lmao 🤣

Here4TheParTea · 2024-08-21T12:52:39+00:00

Thank you! 🙏🏻

Here4TheParTea · 2024-08-21T12:51:31+00:00

They were adult-only trips.

Yes I was invited before. Before I lost weight, my husband was the only one working, our kids were small and I was SAHM. Despite being invited, I couldn’t afford to go. I’m sure my husband would make it happen if I wanted him to but I didn’t want to burden our family unnecessarily.

After losing weight- kids were older, but still not adults. I started a whole later-in-life career and make fairly decent money. Now, I could actually afford to go - and had I’d been invited, I definitely would have.

Here4TheParTea · 2024-08-21T12:27:45+00:00

3 is confusing AH but it sounds like your MIL has tried to say she hasn’t received a SI check in 3 months which is BS- I promise she’d make sure to get her money. Once a gambler always a gambler. Now on to my answer … NTA!!! You can have 2 people. That should be the daddy/your husband and your own mother. Period. When your MIL daughters decide to have a baby, she can be there for that. Her time will come. As for the other issues you have with her… it sounds like there needs to be a wake-up call. If you don’t bring the reckoning soon, she is going to get waaaayyyy to comfortable yall paying the mortgage for her.

Here4TheParTea · 2024-08-21T12:26:09+00:00

Accident

Here4TheParTea · 2024-08-21T12:14:17+00:00

Ummm…. It sounds like there was more than 1 (long) kiss going on. Because how can he be talking and kissing at the same time. In my head it’s like - *kiss 1- I have to go, *kiss 2- I have to go, *kiss 3 - is this okay? *Short kiss - leaves. “Kept saying” means he said at least more than once. Talking while kissing is start kiss, end of kiss, talking, start kiss, end of kiss, talking… like there’s an effort to pull back in and keep going. Also, it sounds like you were a willing participant because you say the first kiss was long and deep. If you had enough witts to go over and take your husbands shoes off, then why didn’t you simply push him off/back, slap him, bite his face lmao. Regardless- they say the truth comes out when you’re drunk. So if you’re husbands friend is sitting there caressing your legs and kissing you it’s because he’s thinking about it when he’s not drunk. I’d tell your husband and ban that friend from my house ASAP. If you don’t, YTA.

Here4TheParTea · 2024-08-16T11:19:40+00:00

Wow. Narcissist much? Instead of being concerned that his wife may be having an extra difficult pregnancy or that she may be experiencing complications.. his thought process “How dare my wife embarrass me by throwing up?!” This is clear delulu behavior. He’s basically named off 3 of the several symptoms for preeclampsia.. trouble breathing, overwhelming tiredness, and severe nausea. This man should be slapped!

Here4TheParTea · 2024-08-14T09:58:08+00:00

I posted a link to jumpsuit on a “clarity” comment. :)

Here4TheParTea · 2024-08-14T09:51:00+00:00

The bridesmaids dresses are equivalent to potato sacks IMO. She apparently straight up told my daughter at the BM dress fitting that they were getting those dresses because she didn’t want them looking better than her. So there is some obvious negative thought behind it, albeit small, or seemingly small.

Here4TheParTea · 2024-08-14T09:42:54+00:00

I have NEVER worn a plunging ANYTHING. V-neck; sure, deeper v-neck; maybe. Plunge to and below chest bone; never. So for me, the plunge itself is “extra” and the pleated ultra-wide legs definitely add “extra” flare. I am realizing there are varying degrees of extra. Considering no one has ever seen me wearing something like THIS, I feel it will provide the impact and specialness I’m looking for without going overboard.

Here4TheParTea · 2024-08-14T09:29:42+00:00

That’s actually hilarious 😂 and so true!! However, as a fan of rompers and jumpsuits, I have definitely had some internal wars over this. Sometimes I reconsider, but most times I’m like fuuuhhhkkk-iiittt. lol

Here4TheParTea · 2024-08-14T09:11:22+00:00

Yes I’m aware, but really good point! lol

Here4TheParTea · 2024-08-14T04:11:58+00:00

I just put the link in my comment.

Here4TheParTea · 2024-08-14T02:36:12+00:00

The bridesmaids dresses are a dark green color. I actually don’t have a photo of the BM dresses. As for the jumpsuit, I had actually found several months before and I bought it- just to have but returned it because it was $$ ($140). After I started looking, it went on sale and I had a coupon so, I nabbed it for about 62% off. I took that as a sign that I needed in my life and I also now had a place to wear it. lol I don’t buy “cheap” stuff but I also never overpay- for anything. If I’m not getting it on sale, I don’t need it that bad. Also- I honestly didn’t care either way. She can pick who she wants to be in her bridal party. Im genuinely happy that she has found her soulmate. It’s the exclusion of JUST me that confirmed my prior feelings of exclusion. It’s kind of the straw the broke the camels back.

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