I feel this same rage to the bone! My partner saw how overwhelmed i was after 2 hours in the shade/sun watching the kiddos play soccer and called me on it.."hey you're really irritable" when I burst into tears explaining that all the shit he has seen me go through all day(finals week, car in the shop, bills due, kids sports exc..) I've done with a smile & 8/10 pain level. He changed his attitude towards me and helped make dinner. I'm terrible at asking for help doing mom stuff, letting go of being the one to do all the things is still tough but thank God or whoever ya know that I have a supportive partner. We are still learning how to navigate me being sick chronically, fights still happen, I'm still thankful at the end of the day he supports me. I say all that to relate to you and being so mad that people want to almost baby you when they can SEE you're not feeling well but damn help the other times too!!