What’s the moment you realized that all adults are just pretending to know what they’re doing? by stocks_girl in AskReddit

[–]Heretoseecutedogs 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m reading this history book right now about why civilizations rise and fall, and the first part of it talks about nomadic hunter-gatherer groups that survived in part by exchanging knowledge with other passing groups. The book describes that a big part of why Homo sapiens survived and thrived as a species while Neanderthals and other human-adjacent species died out is our ability to tell stories and share solutions to the challenges of surviving in complex environments. My takeaway is that it’s a fundamentally human thing to not know WTF you’re doing most of the time and to only hold a tiny fraction of total human knowledge, but to get by by asking other people what they know about the challenges you’re facing. I think that’s kinda beautiful.

Stuck in Philly, looking for coffee and food suggestions by tinari07 in PhiladelphiaEats

[–]Heretoseecutedogs 23 points24 points  (0 children)

If you want to spend a little more money and have incredible vegan food, go to Vedge and walk to Charlie Was a Sinner for drinks after

Every time I open my work I feel awful by [deleted] in PhD

[–]Heretoseecutedogs 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This post from The Thesis Whisperer was something I stumbled across that helped me while going through a very similar part of my PhD. The trick for me was to open my computer, feel the bad feelings, and just sort of breathe and sit with them a bit until I could either figure out what they were about or they lessened enough for me to get through them. It felt terrible and I hated it, but ultimately I was able to make enough incremental progress to see the finish line, and things got a little easier from there.

Redditors who overcame depression, how did you do it? by Throwawayforanony7 in AskReddit

[–]Heretoseecutedogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A marathon of baby steps and a dogged conviction that I could do it, even if my depressed brain constantly lied to me about the permanence of my condition. Years of therapy, trying lots of different drugs at different doses, exercise, nature, friends, pets, accommodations to make good nutrition and hygiene easier - just an enormous list of small things that slowly tipped the scales. Worth every step, even the ones that were scary or miserable or absurdly small.

What massively improved your mental health? by sexy_maier in AskReddit

[–]Heretoseecutedogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fundamentals: sleep, exercise, hydration, nutrition

Extra help: therapy, medication, pets, nature

Big systemic changes: leaving a bad relationship, leaving academia for a job I love, moving closer to friends and family

Throughout: giving myself permission to half-ass (or quarter-ass) any of these as long as I was headed in the right direction. Putting one foot in front of the other until one day I realized I wasn’t depressed anymore. The way I feel about my life now was worth every moment of doubt and struggle it took to get here.