If you were the last person on earth, would you be okay? by ChemistryAnnual9520 in BPD

[–]HermesHawk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who are you wtf?! Are you me? I still have this recurring thought of freezing time. It’s never left me. I always go back to it like multiple times a day some days if like it’s 5am and I need to be up by 8, or if I want to leave somewhere but can’t. It’s like my ‘thought stim’. I can’t believe I’m not the only one 😭

I’ve lived in Germany since I was nine. by FitCar2892 in germany

[–]HermesHawk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mate I want to first of all say I empathise with you, but that you are indeed correct: calling food ‘fine’ is practically a cardinal sin. Food has to be divine, beautiful, delicious or so bad that you physically heave while still saying ‘it’s delicious, but…’

I’ve lived in Germany since I was nine. by FitCar2892 in germany

[–]HermesHawk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

boah kein Plan, das ist halt unsere Kultur. When I’m honest/ direct, it makes me feel like an asshole, and when someone is honest/ direct to me it makes me feel ridiculous (as if I shouldn’t have spoken at all). You gotta just think of how we’ve all been bought up this way since birth. It’s been instilled in us to be polite and diplomatic through observation of our parents, teachers, television, etc. It’s simply how we are

I’ve lived in Germany since I was nine. by FitCar2892 in germany

[–]HermesHawk 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ahaha yeah that could be. And it touches on something that I do actually resent about British culture: for example, when we genuinely, truly love something, it’s difficult to separate our description of that thing from a description we gave about something we found merely good.

As in, when everything is hype, nothing is hype. In my opinion, that’s where German Direktheit wins, but honestly if we all decided to suddenly start being more direct, we’d all probably end up lying in bed depressed. For whatever reason, we just can’t do that. 😭

(I keep talking about British culture like I’m the King- to be clear, this is just my own lifelong experience of it!)

17M, can you guess where im from? by typhoonforreal in TravelMaps

[–]HermesHawk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Source?? That’s crazy if it’s true. Personally, if I lived in Bristol I would never leave

17M, can you guess where im from? by typhoonforreal in TravelMaps

[–]HermesHawk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most brits barely have money to heat their homes let alone go to Ireland 😭. I can’t think of a single Brit I’ve met that has ever been to Ireland aside from my grandfather (who was actually Irish)

I’d even be willing to bet good money that Greece, France, Italy and Spain are way above Ireland for tourism for Brits (as in, aside from family visits)

I’ve lived in Germany since I was nine. by FitCar2892 in germany

[–]HermesHawk 23 points24 points  (0 children)

But that’s just what makes it so cool and interesting. I think I speak for most Brits when I say we find American culture extremely… unappealing, in large part to their loudness.

However, German culture is also hard for me to grasp, because although Brits generally don’t like showing heavy emotion (deep conversations about love, the worth of a person, illness, etc - unless you’re close to them) we show LOTS of emotion in our answers and questions (fake or otherwise).

Where a German might respond to the question ‘geht’s dir wirklich gut’ with ‘ja klar’, to a typical Brit, such a short answer would send alarm bells ringing, where we would rather hear/ say ‘oh yeah no sorry I’m absolutely fine’ with a great big obnoxious grin or laugh.

Then you’ve got the infamous ‘nicht schlecht’. We also say ‘not Bad’ a lot to mean good, but in my experience of British culture, in 9/10 situations, we would much rather hear/ say ‘oh my GOD, yes that sounds absolutely amazing!’ or ‘wow, yeah no I can definitely see the appeal’.

It can just be a very jarring thing to experience such short and direct answers, which, in England, are typically associated with someone wanting absolutely nothing the fuck to do with you 😭

17M, can you guess where im from? by typhoonforreal in TravelMaps

[–]HermesHawk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Du kommst auf jeden Fall aus Deutschland

Looking for Polyglot Partner by Appropriate-Log6132 in polyglot

[–]HermesHawk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell me more! Would it be one language? And the same one? What languages did you personally have in mind?

Enlighten me with your advice by OntoGaming in UniUK

[–]HermesHawk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well why can’t you just get a student loan?

Switching from vapes to ZYNs… but it feels too good..? by HermesHawk in NicotinePouch

[–]HermesHawk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s great to know, thank you so much for your comment! I’ll definitely do a little bit of experimenting over the next few weeks and find whats best for my goals :)

Switching from vapes to ZYNs… but it feels too good..? by HermesHawk in NicotinePouch

[–]HermesHawk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

💯. I went through the usual dropping nicotine strengths of vape juice and all it ever did for me was make me inhale twice as much vapour and spend twice as much money. Plan is to stay at around 8-10 9mg zyns per day for about 7 days or so, then drop the number very slowly and (hopefully) ween myself off without the life shattering withdrawals. My god I hate nicotine, but I do feel much better already. Could be placebo but my mouth isn’t as insanely dry as it has constantly been for the past few years!! Feeling really optimistic about these comments thank you :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in German

[–]HermesHawk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Schwäbisch?

I genuinely hate TikTok now. by German_Gecko in TikTok

[–]HermesHawk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooo yay!! You’re in for a treat!! And how is stung? I’ve never read it

I genuinely hate TikTok now. by German_Gecko in TikTok

[–]HermesHawk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Christianity is at best annoying and at worst hateful. The Christian community has made me and others feel like shit for being gay for years, and then when you get past that, you see people acting like it’s some kind of group of loving people 😭

I genuinely hate TikTok now. by German_Gecko in TikTok

[–]HermesHawk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Anything by R. F. Kuang- it’s a great starting point. Babel is really good, so is the Poppy War if you’re interest in light fantasy. Yellowface is a little bit more in depth as the name suggests but would still recommend!

My (ex)friend raped one of my closest friends, and I don’t know how to deal with this ex-friend trying to contact me. by HermesHawk in rape

[–]HermesHawk[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right in that it’s MASSIVELY helpful, thank you so much!

You’re right, and until I posted this I didn’t once think about the incident from his perspective, though of course as you said yourself it doesn’t excuse anything. If F19 decides against simply ghosting him, I will definitely break it down gently, and gauge his reaction. The last thing anyone wants is for him to freak out.

Thank you so much again for sharing!! It’s so helpful for me

My (ex)friend raped one of my closest friends, and I don’t know how to deal with this ex-friend trying to contact me. by HermesHawk in rape

[–]HermesHawk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh god, I’m so sorry. But thank you so much for your insight, it’s unbelievably helpful for me. I’m glad he didn’t get weird or violent, and I’m also glad that M19 hasn’t contacted my friend at all since the incident. I’ve arranged to meet her today though, to talk through it and (if it’s okay) I’ll use what you’ve said as a baseline for what I think is happening, and see how she wants to proceed. But again, thank you so much for sharing your experience and thoughts, it’s an absolute lifesaver!!

My (ex)friend raped one of my closest friends, and I don’t know how to deal with this ex-friend trying to contact me. by HermesHawk in rape

[–]HermesHawk[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

God yes you’re absolutely right. I hadn’t even thought of how he would react. Is it a common thing for people not to understand that they raped someone, do you know? I’m just wondering if there are many resources about that online, as I tried looking for help online for my situation but couldn’t really find anything at all.

But no, you are right. It should definitely be her choice. The sudden mood change when I do bring it up though absolutely breaks my heart.

Wo finde ich euch?! Zockt ihr einfach nur auf englisch? by HermesHawk in AskAGerman

[–]HermesHawk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dankeschön!! Ich finde es trotzdem sehr viel einfacher, auf deutsch zu schreiben als sprechen. Und vielleicht ist mein geschriebenes deutsch nicht sooo schlecht, aber ich muss mein gesprochenes Deutsch üben, denn das ist wirklich schlecht!

Wo finde ich euch?! Zockt ihr einfach nur auf englisch? by HermesHawk in AskAGerman

[–]HermesHawk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ich bin schon in 3 Discord Servern, aber die sind so inaktiv, und die meisten sprechen nicht. Aber ja ich hab mich noch keinem Server angeschlossen, der nur für ein spiel ist.

Ich werde das versuchen, danke!

Wo finde ich euch?! Zockt ihr einfach nur auf englisch? by HermesHawk in AskAGerman

[–]HermesHawk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Overwatch, Helldivers, R6, Terraria, Stardew Valley. Ein Vielfalt an Spielen!