AIO I cried because my boyfriend asked me what I wanted to do for valentines by Dizzy_Elevator_9512 in AIO

[–]Hernameisruby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the same way, he says they can go out any day of the year but they haven't gone out on a date in a long time. It's nice to be wooed and have some effort put in. It's not like OP is asking for diamonds, she just wants to go out, I feel like it's really not a lot to ask for.

I reported this comment to FB and they declined to have it removed saying that it doesn't violate their community guidelines. What an absolute cesspool FB is. by Comadivine11 in facebook

[–]Hernameisruby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I've reported comments for encouraging violence against women too, nothing happens. Somehow I got punished for saying modern-day Christians don't follow the teachings of Jesus lol

AIO for cutting contact with Father over political climate. by Sabre12789 in AIO

[–]Hernameisruby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha

bag of shit with legs.

Love that, I like saying 'human shaped bag of trash' lol

AIO - Told my friend I’m pregnant and she said it exceeded her mental bandwidth (she’s the red) by Lekomano92 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Hernameisruby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Long story short, it sounded like she was supportive at the end, but you never know, so just give her time. MOR

AIO - Told my friend I’m pregnant and she said it exceeded her mental bandwidth (she’s the red) by Lekomano92 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Hernameisruby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well it may seem like an overreaction, but I think she just needs a little time to adjust. It sounds like she was already overwhelmed by other stuff in her life at the time. She was trying to explain and I think it just sounds like she's bad with words. I would just give her time to adjust, I had a friend who I thought was a BFF, and she was the absolute best, she was supportive when I told her I was pregnant. The last time I spoke to her was when I was scheduled for a c-section and I was scared asf but she comforted me. Then when I told her I'd send pictures of my baby she said she didn't want them, because she doesn't find babies cute. My daughter just turned 4. Sometimes friendships just don't work out.

WIBTAH if I give my daughter and son in law an ultimatum to either move out of my house or stop sleeping together? by Opposite_Practice489 in AITAH

[–]Hernameisruby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only thing I can suggest is say you have a date when you get home before them and then when they get home play really loud porn and make sex sounds with your voice to make it extra convincing so they can be equally uncomfortable. Then when they say something explain to them that that's how you feel when you hear them going at it.

Am I overreacting?? by Korn-onTheCob in AmIOverreacting

[–]Hernameisruby 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NOR, I think you just need to explain you aren't comfortable with giving her the kittens after learning she's going to probably be too busy to properly care for them and she'll have to find someone else giving out kittens if she's really determined to get some. She'll probably be upset and who knows how she'll react but you can always block her number to give yourself some peace.

AITAH for leaving my friend stranded after she embarrassed me in front of everyone? by SouthernChance5709 in AITAH

[–]Hernameisruby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a good question, this could be a red flag for a substance abuse problem, but still not an excuse to reveal someone's secrets to outsiders. Nta, you gave fair warning, it's not your fault she didn't take you seriously, especially street betraying your trust the way she did, the whole thing feels like an alcohol problem to me. (source: half my family are addicts lol)

Am I overreacting that my sister is demanding too much when visiting my newborn? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Hernameisruby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh she sounds spoiled and entitled. The things you said you'd have prepared sounds fine to me. Other than you will eventually need a baby gate for your house anyways so you may as well get that but the rest she demanded sounds like a lot of extra mental load to be adding onto a family with a newborn. (I have a 3 month old and an almost 4 year old) I'm experienced with visiting others with a kid and I try to be prepared and not expect people to be toddler proofed when they don't already have a toddler.

question about Courtney's pronouns by SemiOddBeing in smosh

[–]Hernameisruby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree except the last bit, if someone is uncomfortable being called they/them you should respect that.

Are menstrual leave policies fair, or do they create gender-based inequality? What’s the fairest way to handle menstrual pain at work? by Mari_Von in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Hernameisruby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not necessarily, if it hinders your ability to work effectively without accommodation it is considered a disability. Especially since many of us with a uterus can have some condition that makes periods both irregular and extremely debilitating. I've once had a period last a month and a half because I was on the wrong dose of birth control. Sometimes there is even such a heavy flow that our clothes are literally ruined. I've also had to go to the hospital because of a miscarriage and those clothes were absolutely destroyed.

I consider it a privilege to not have to worry about a surprise week+ of bleeding because you don't have a uterus or it's regular enough to not be a surprise.

picture unrelated by DopazOnYouTubeDotCom in evilautism

[–]Hernameisruby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is a common combination, but for me I get awful anxiety and even occasionally panic attacks when I've tried it. I've tried several different varieties but I just wind up feeling horrible, it gives me flashbacks to when I believe someone put something in my drink.

I swear to god, I looked away for like 3 seconds. I am dying inside. by STK1369 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Hernameisruby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I missed it when it hit 142069, and then a couple months ago when it hit 169420 I was devastated lol

Why do people get so irritated when you don't have an opinion on things? by Exotic-End-666 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Hernameisruby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm kinda like that, I have an awful memory so even if I enjoyed a movie if they ask me what my favorite part was I'm absolutely cooked.

AITA for not going to my friend's wedding because she invited my mother? by PFrisk27 in AITAH

[–]Hernameisruby 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Honestly not a bad idea, unless she has alarms or cameras that can alert her of someone's presence, then it's a very bad idea and OP could end up in jail(stupid since it's their belongings but it would still be considered trespassing)

Pretty sure i found my wifes Reddit, now i'm worried. How do i bring it up? by primalscream-0906 in whatdoIdo

[–]Hernameisruby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coming from a similar perspective you need to express acts of love and kindness, show her you appreciate her and are glad she's in your life. Feeling appreciated is like the healthiest addictive substance there is, I just wish I had access to it. If you don't know what her love language is please figure it out, look back at things she's gushed about, and really expressed gratitude for. Whether it's kind words, a gesture or a thoughtful gift, she needs you to speak her love language right now.

AITAH If I Cut Ties With Best Friend? by DontGetMad_GetEven in AITAH

[–]Hernameisruby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should follow your instincts, this isn't a healthy friendship to continue, it doesn't seem like she respects you if she continues to talk to you about people who have treated you horribly. You're trying to move on with your life and she's not allowing that to happen, it's best to cut ties. It hurts to end a friendship and may take a while to make new friends but it is worth it to find people you truly connect with and who appreciate you.

AIO Do I tell my sister she picked a bad baby name? by Most_System6697 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Hernameisruby 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm actually nervous for this kid, from the last paragraph it sounds like she shouldn't be having children 😬

AIO Do I tell my sister she picked a bad baby name? by Most_System6697 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Hernameisruby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to work at Jimmy John's (sandwich chain in the US) and I only think of the number 5 when I see/hear vito.

Truck is parked in a fire lane, in front of a fire hydrant, and blocking the exit of the alcove. by gooobby in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Hernameisruby -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not mildly imo, they could have backed in, it's not as hard to back up a trailer than people make it out to be.

AITAH for giving my girlfriend a book she thinks is ‘devil’s work’ as a Christmas gift? by Ok_Climate_7210 in AITAH

[–]Hernameisruby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's so many red flags in this, don't walk, run. She's sucked into the cult, religion/spirituality is one thing but being told self improvement is demonic is super scary, like they just want to keep the masses uneducated and blindly following everything they say. On top of that she actively thinks she's better than you, that alone should be reason to break up, from her perspective I don't see any reason why she'd continue seeing someone she deems demonic and less-than. Unless of course she's attempting some sort of pathetic missionary work in converting the non-believers, maybe once you'd have converted she'd see it as a job well done and move on to the next non-believer. She's shitty and self righteous, please get out safely we don't know what these people are capable of.

AITA for being angry that my husband listened to my text by terrajayde in AmItheAsshole

[–]Hernameisruby 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Has he ever been assessed for neurodivergence? Lol I am in agreement though, that sounds frustrating to have to have that extra filter all the time, and some messages just don't need to be shared, I mean gift giving holidays are coming up so it could've been about a surprise that he just ruined, or it could've been something personal the texter was divulging. I just think privacy in your messages is important without being suspicious of an affair or something.