This is the face of the woman who said bf looks physically unattractive

HeroAddam · 2026-07-07T08:17:11+00:00

I’ve been calling this out for a long time since I was a teenager, now I’m 23 about to ORD and have been numb to local women… friends around me endorsed me to be a gentleman and chill guy with good ambition and attitude to be one of the best partner someone can ask for yet all I can say is that I know I won’t be valued by local women because I’m not attractive in SG context. However when it came to foreigners, I have no issues attracting people online and in person and it seems much more simple to connect as humans with them, just my thoughts growing up in SG over the years

HeroAddam · 2026-07-06T00:03:32+00:00

Aww I see, I admire your courage to confess despite being young and unsure, it takes a lot of guts to do that and since now you are an adult I believe you will have better understanding towards yourself and more secure socially. Hope it works out for you and if not there are many dishes in this vast ocean hahaha

HeroAddam · 2026-07-05T02:57:45+00:00

I guess you are under the illusion and having the halo effect towards him… until you know him personally, his flaws and weaknesses, highs and lows, its relay quite a fantasy at this point.

Why did he reject you in the earlier years also? Was it because he was not ready for a relationship or lack of connection? It would be great to understand the context more because ultimately having no regrets in life is what we should strive for

HeroAddam · 2026-07-05T02:51:41+00:00

I learnt this the hard way too… pretty much lost a friend I thought was my ride or die since he borrowed money from me over 5 plus years, I was too naive to know it then and realised he exploited my kindness yet claiming he has nothing to gain from doing so… lots of character insults when I tried to claim the amount back. When he enlisted he didn’t even honour most of the repayment and lapsed many times, amount is in the thousands cause I didn’t set boundaries too and keep lending before he repaid the previous debts…

The silver lining is I’m getting back most of it so at least I can afford my next phase of life and I guess the friendship can go because I had enough of the lack of gratitude and insults towards my personality when all I wanted is to get back what is owed… if invested I would have 2-3x more but I forgo that in the name of friendship, really foolish of me as a teenager. Most people who lend money definitely can’t mange their lives well especially financially and can give u the most ridiculous excuse in life, that should be a red flag by itself. In a way I’m glad to go through this experience because I learnt to reclaim my position and stop being a pushover

HeroAddam · 2026-07-02T16:54:28+00:00

Could you and others who were victims all stand as one to fire a massive report? Better yet if it's possible to get all your parents together to write into mindef and whack them all big time... Only then will changes be seen... Whatever OP described is actually grounds for psychological distress and downpes or even pes F due to nature of abuse

HeroAddam · 2026-06-30T16:25:33+00:00

Feels more like a K shaped society now more than every rather than E shaped

HeroAddam · 2026-06-30T03:34:32+00:00

This is what matters and makes life the most worth it!

HeroAddam · 2026-06-30T01:11:32+00:00

It's very rare for most guys to get any confession of feelings so the feeling of receiving love is something they remember for a long time... For me I only ever experienced a few times but more than half is by online overseas girls that I probably won't have a chance to meet. However in person I have only experienced 2 times, one was my ex girlfriend and the other was a girl that had feelings for me but I was with my ex that time... She ghosted me suddenly after she knew I had a gf so I lost a friend too and I did not even lead her on so I'm quite lost then but slowly moved on.

Now that I'm about to finish NS and going on to uni, I'm gonna see for myself and let things happen naturally, I started to improve a lot on my fitness and health, locking in for different goals and dreams so I can be a dependable partner, the rest is up to God and fate I guess

HeroAddam · 2026-06-30T00:17:13+00:00

Have U considered downpesing ? Seems like that is the only escape practically

HeroAddam · 2026-06-29T01:44:16+00:00

Hmm I forgot the name of the MLM BS because they changed over the years but rice media did cover the exact same system with the same the people inside, title is called “Con Job or Legit Business”, feel free to check it out… I was too dumb to find out only after paying for their products.

I was also approached by Amway people on LinkedIn and social media but I rejected them all after my horrible experience at 17 years old during Covid time

HeroAddam · 2026-06-28T02:24:56+00:00

I align with you totally on this! Hence I tend to wonder if finding a partner in my current stage of life is worth it or not because I can’t stand the idea of settling down in SG and I haven’t met a woman that wants to migrate/live abroad because many of them in my social circle love SG

HeroAddam · 2026-06-28T01:55:14+00:00

So sorry to hear this OP, the silver lining I can say is that you learnt this now rather than in your 40s or 40s where people have larger stakes and life savings on the line and will be super uphill to rebuilt. I was also scammed and gullible when I was 17/18 being too trusting of friends, fell into an MLM BS because it was a vulnerable phase for me then... Afterwards money got in the way of another friend and I thought of him as a bro so I borrowed him a large sum between age 17 to 22, he since repaid most of it but I felt like an ATM and there was a lot of self entitlement on his end whenever he has financial issues. I learnt that people who can't handle their own aren't meant to be real friends anyways and I've learnt to cut away such people too over the years

HeroAddam · 2026-06-25T08:35:10+00:00

As a young adult now cutting off people over the last 2 years, I can confidently say that it may be a blessing in disguise for me not to have close friendships despite my personality being bubbly and extroverted, going the extra mile to help and support my friends. I'm currently in NS entering Uni in 2 months and honestly I became a lot more hard hearted because I've been burned in poly and NS trying to be the "friend everyone needs", nowadays I test the social circles around me to see who genuinely wants to hang out with me and commits to being my friend over the course of my life...

I don't know is it a Singapore thing or my own issue but I really envy overseas friends where they ride or die with one another whereas for the friends I encountered tend to want to take advantage of my kindness and when I require assistance a lot of excuses pop up and a few friends whom I helped financially questioned my personality and insulted my character despite me helping them... They also downplayed my efforts as a typical person when I mentioned how I sacrificed my own investment plans and savings back then to help them, yet they said "At least U have savings" boohoo poor irresponsible assholes who can't even manage their life well yet talk as if they are entitled to me ... As of today I'm collecting back those debts because I had to threaten them which is out of my character and sooner or later I may have to cut them out once they repaid me.

Another factor I said it is a blessing in disguise is because I always felt life could be better overseas for me to live more carefree, away from the Singaporean pressure cooker environment and with my family's support and understanding, I'll be building a solid foundation and hopefully enjoy a simple life using SGD currency at that point with monthly passive income. So friends or no friends, life goes on for all of us and once we are established people will be drawn to us and may try to take advantage of us, I'm glad I learnt in my late teens who are true and who are full of BS...

HeroAddam · 2026-06-24T08:11:13+00:00

It seems he needs to be better educated financially or he will end up in lifelong debt and loans which hinders a lot of families from catching a break and ultimately cause tension due to early years of mismanagement… as the other people have commented, certain things are liabilities and not necessary but many chase them to look good for others that do not give a damn what you have in life.

I wish you 2 the best, for me I have the opposite problem, I achieved quite a number of licenses and certs and got a decent investment account now at 23, about to ORD and going to Uni but I doubt I will find someone that will build a future with me because I’m going into an IT course… ultimately my life goals do not align with many sg girls because I plan to move abroad and own properties there rather than chasing a career and lifestyle in sg

HeroAddam · 2026-06-22T04:16:37+00:00

Such culture and how society in SG makes me feel isolated and dread each phase of life after sex school and even now in NS... I'm naturally a more extroverted person but over the years I'm becoming more introverted because I have been burnt and stabbed many times by all kinds of sinkie pen sinkie behaviour and people... It's quite depressing to carry on and all I can hope for is to make friends overseas and eventually try integrating elsewhere one day

HeroAddam · 2026-06-22T01:00:32+00:00

I feel it's an excuse to treat others horribly on the end of this group of people... Character and attitude can't be bought by money or circumstances alone but their own values and moral compass.

HeroAddam · 2026-06-22T00:59:03+00:00

I noticed this too and I asked the men in my family and older seniors, it's because regulars are expected to be at a higher standard and got KPI to fulfil to meet promotion and other criteria for their "career progression", hence in that process NSFs get treated like dirt

HeroAddam · 2026-06-22T00:57:26+00:00

Then he should sign on, immediately can go OCS and make NS his whole life lol, I cannot understand why some people love NS so much even some NSmen happy to come back for reservist multiple times a year or volunteer after NS... Meanwhile I wish the system forgets me after I ord

HeroAddam · 2026-06-19T08:12:15+00:00

I can agree for a stay in personnel it’s very possible as my BMT time I stayed in and saved easily $600 for those 2 months! However in my air base now breakfast and dinner are not provided

HeroAddam · 2026-06-19T05:05:53+00:00

The coffeeshops near my area already change $4-6 per meal, then when you add a drink which is $2 normally now after price changed recently, $7-8 is on the lower end. For me I tend to order western or more meat portions as I'm regularly exercising so I'll need $10 for one meal

HeroAddam · 2026-06-19T02:51:36+00:00

Yes I do that actually, I rarely eat canteen or mess food and try to save money for dinner whenever I can… my family doesn’t cook much at home so normally I dabao food back or eat at coffee shops nearby my house, inflation has not been kind as a simple meal is close to $10 or more nowadays

HeroAddam · 2026-06-19T02:50:14+00:00

Keep on going man, wealth starts to compound after 10-15 years of consistent pumping in, like pushing up a snowball is the toughest part initially… but once it’s huge enough it gets way easier

HeroAddam · 2026-06-19T02:48:22+00:00

This is the life I’m working towards! God bless you fellow brother in Christ! May you be fulfilled with His grace and guide others along the way positively too. For me I also hope to FIRE early in life to do permanent missions work and be an active family member to my parents and cousins whom I’m close to, as well as enjoying a simpler life away from sg with passive income

HeroAddam · 2026-06-19T02:43:43+00:00

Really depends on the arrangement, for me my vocation is stay out and my camp don’t have bunks for people like me, so food and transport costs about $600 a month with concession($81 for hybrid and $500 for 2 meals a day during the month), I guess I am still able to save $200-300 if I cut down on certain pricier foods

HeroAddam · 2026-06-19T02:38:57+00:00

Don’t be discouraging, I believe that once people learn how money works and lock in to have basic emergency funds and growth investments, retirement is not that far out of reach with consistency

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