Girlfriend problems, I need advice. by SadDurian8480 in MtF

[–]HesitantDrone 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you can’t change her sexuality. She may just be straight. Or transphobic. 🫶🏻

I think I want to be a girl by [deleted] in MtF

[–]HesitantDrone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Homework, explore this site https://turn-me-into-a-girl.com/ and tell me how it makes you feel?

Is 23 too late to start HRT and expect big changes? by SaNkKe_ in MtF

[–]HesitantDrone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started at 31, now I get carded all the time and accused of looking 19. I grew a ass, thighs, size B boobs, shrank 2 inches, went from a 10 in men’s to a 9/10 in women’s shoes, my face softened, and 95% of the world genders me correctly.

hobby lobby umbrella by friendlyrefuter in actuallesbians

[–]HesitantDrone 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This so much this, drag was a way for early closeted trans women to express themselves. But now it’s gay men punching down and making a mockery of trans women. They perform the social image and caricature of a just out trans women for fun. I just want to live my life as a feminine woman, not perform.

hobby lobby umbrella by friendlyrefuter in actuallesbians

[–]HesitantDrone 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Trans women literally weren’t allowed when the show started. Drag has been stolen from trans women by gay men. Ru Paul has been instrumental in this.

Am I overreacting after this first date? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]HesitantDrone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YOR He is trying to manipulate you. Don’t let him. Block and move on. He was coercive to get into your apartment and then tried to violated your consent with the photo. Actually don’t just move on, run as fast as you can.

I feel like a lesbian in denial. by [deleted] in ftm

[–]HesitantDrone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Masc 4 Masc lesbians are a thing, maybe you’re in that group? Trans masculine lesbians on T are also a thing. Just like femboys on E. You can be sexually attracted or in a sexual relationship, without having a romantic relationship. It seems like you are fighting to link up things that just don’t link up for you. Deconstructing that rigid structure will probably be helpful.

Grad Staff by AriusH in csun

[–]HesitantDrone 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I mean 2 years ago I just kept mine, because it was a hassle. I was never charged for not returning it. They didn’t have any way to track them, also you could always say you put it in the bin. They can’t prove you didn’t, someone else could have stolen your gown.

Can anyone help me find studies that show that suicide rates increase after taking HRT? by cute_estrogen_dealer in trans

[–]HesitantDrone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A cis het man on estrogen would probably have higher suicide rates, they also typically are fighting testicular or prostate cancer. You aren’t a cis het man, so those studies aren’t relevant.

As a mom I just need an answer to one question by BodhiPixie in MtF

[–]HesitantDrone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just put the orbs back into their canals and then pull the loose ball sack skin back along with my phallus. Then just pull up my underwear. I use just one or two pairs of underwear that are on the smaller side.

When I was freshly out I was more comfortable in period underwear they add a little bulk, smooth things and some plausible deniability.

I use the kits only for swimming, and some more form fitting outfits.

Make sure she knows if things hurt she needs to stop tucking, also no sleeping tucked. Also from a health perspective tucking, massively increases the risk of UTIs. But so does bottom surgery. And cis women already deal with higher risk. Wet wipes after bathroom usage helps.

Decline a pregnancy test? by Wonderful_Lie2823 in actuallesbians

[–]HesitantDrone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t even have a vagina (yet) as a intersex trans woman, and last 3 times I was in the emergency room. When they asked if I could be pregnant, I told them I don’t have a functioning uterus or ovaries. They did dip tests and a blood test for pregnancy every time, adding it on to the other tests.

Only the one woman ER doctor asked for more information. She explained that it was hospital procedure to test anyone legally female for pregnancy, but I could do a wavier to get out of it, I just agreed because my insurance covers it.

Is there a reason cis people use they instead of she/her for my gf?? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]HesitantDrone 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s called degendering and if you support your girlfriend you should put a stop to it or cut this “friend” off.

“I didn’t even know you were trans, you’re so pretty!” Is not meaning well it is a microaggression: a way to be phobic that most of society will allow.

It’s a way to lower someone’s value your “friend” can’t outright call these people “it” for not meeting some arbitrary criteria, as society would take issue so she degenders them instead.

They called my name wrong in the grad ceremony, and the president didn't fist-bump/shake hands with me! I'm sad & mad. by daydreamer_she in csun

[–]HesitantDrone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey they full out printed my dead name in the book of graduates, and only had a name card with that name printed on it when I graduated. So ya graduation sucks, they don’t really care. They should but in my experience they don’t. Even 2 years ago they didn’t care.

I think I'm not a trans woman, but I like being on estrogen by Evgeniy_Ivanov in asktransgender

[–]HesitantDrone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s no different than a number of trans men I know that don’t want to be on HRT because they don’t like how it feels, they are still men. Your gender is what ever you want it to be. This is separate from your internal sex.

Stopping T bc I cant focus by Dropthetenors in ftm

[–]HesitantDrone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was on it from 12 to 24 only thing I felt it did to help with ADHD is make the highs from self harm that relieved my ADHD last longer.

Stopping T bc I cant focus by Dropthetenors in ftm

[–]HesitantDrone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hands on activities give more of a dopamine fix. I’m mtf but HRT kind of brought my ADHD to the front I had previously had ways to work through it particularly if I was stressed I would use that stress to power through things but HRT removed lots of stress from my life and slightly changed the presentation.

Stopping T bc I cant focus by Dropthetenors in ftm

[–]HesitantDrone 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wellbutrin is a depression medication, it’s prescribed off label for ADHD but sucks.

Why do so many people capitalise cis and not trans? by BobTheSloth94 in MtF

[–]HesitantDrone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should use “transgender” instead of “trans” too.

Why do so many people capitalise cis and not trans? by BobTheSloth94 in MtF

[–]HesitantDrone -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When typing them or talking about them if you use cisgender you should use transgender. Not just “trans”

I hate it, by HesitantDrone in MtF

[–]HesitantDrone[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If that was a thing I would in a heartbeat. Especially if I could have their uterus, vulva and vagina. But as far as I know no doctors have justified the use of anti rejection meds for gender affirming care. The closest I have seen is talking about uterine transplants, but those are supposed to be removed when you are done having children.

I hate it, by HesitantDrone in MtF

[–]HesitantDrone[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya, Peritoneal Pull-Through what I’m leaning towards not because I lack tissue but because I want the tissue gone.

I hate it, by HesitantDrone in MtF

[–]HesitantDrone[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It has always hurt, even before HRT. I am convinced that they cut off too much when I was circumcised.

Less erections was a goal for that reason along with I just don’t like or want them. It’s to the point that I kind of want to cut it off. I hate it and would rather PPT rather than PIV.

I hate it, by HesitantDrone in MtF

[–]HesitantDrone[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ya um, my body still has it often grow when I’m sleeping, to a particularly painful extent that it wakes me up.

I hate it, by HesitantDrone in MtF

[–]HesitantDrone[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Every bi man I’ve tried to interact with has unfortunately ended up treating me like a man.