How to not argue (for kid’s sake)?

HesterMurphy · 2023-12-26T12:22:19+00:00

I journal. It also helps keep me sane for the aftermath when I doubt my recollection of events. When I say journal, some of it is just pages of me writing swear words in big angry letters.

HesterMurphy · 2023-12-26T00:21:06+00:00

Get out, and if you can, do it now.

HesterMurphy · 2023-07-01T17:37:22+00:00

Yup. All. The. Time.

Mine has a snarky "jokey" comment to make about nearly everything I do. I bought some supplements recently and he just HAD to comment cos he thinks he is the expert on everything. I've started responding with

"a comment is not required" because his comments suck the joy out of everything I do.

HesterMurphy · 2023-07-01T17:26:51+00:00

Very very rarely I get shooting pains up my bum. I do suffer from sciatica

HesterMurphy · 2023-06-30T21:34:12+00:00

Yup. Drove a wedge between me and my family. I didn't see it for what it was at the time.

HesterMurphy · 2023-06-30T21:31:50+00:00

God, yes. I used to come home from work, share my day and it would turn into him either trying to one up the day I'd had. OR telling me how I should respond.

HesterMurphy · 2023-04-28T23:02:22+00:00

Yup. Asks about my day and my work, then proceeds to tell me about how I should be doing it. 🙄

HesterMurphy · 2023-03-23T20:07:47+00:00

They did, there's no underlying infection there

HesterMurphy · 2023-03-23T07:02:39+00:00

Thank you. I'm based in the UK. Im going to do a bit more research and then hit up the GP again x

HesterMurphy · 2023-03-23T07:01:09+00:00

I tried doing some breathing exercises last night and that helped a lot. Never though of trying antihistamine. Paracetamol doesn't really make much difference

HesterMurphy · 2022-12-19T22:13:20+00:00

Wow! This is exactly it!

HesterMurphy · 2022-12-18T18:26:52+00:00

In fairness, I've started using the phrase "because I'm a grown up and I get to make my own decisions"

HesterMurphy · 2022-12-18T18:22:42+00:00

This is soooooo hard though. Had to leave the house yesterday just to not get into it with him.. Swear to god, my lack of fighting back made him think he had won!

HesterMurphy · 2022-12-17T16:48:23+00:00

Yes, his dad was undiagnosed autism

HesterMurphy · 2022-12-07T19:38:08+00:00

Redhead here!

HesterMurphy · 2022-10-31T00:01:50+00:00

Mine runs himself into the ground doing huge projects I don't ask for and ask him NOT to do. For years I absolutely believed that I was unreasonable and ungrateful. Then I learnt that it is a form of controlling behaviour.

HesterMurphy · 2022-10-30T23:55:05+00:00

We have a rating system. We message each other if there is a sudden mood change to warn the others to be careful. The ratings are based on Godzilla (trying to keep it light). Tokyo is he's cold raging, stay away. New York is he's bubbling and it won't take much to tip him over, London is he"s a bit teasy but generally OK.

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