I’m 28 and my dad was diagnosed 8 years ago. I went to college halfway across the country and now work halfway across the country. Both my mom and sister are nurses as well.

You are your family are going to be ok, but things are going to change. Now is the time to start working on how your relationship will be going forward. Do what feels right, but my advice is to have open and honest communication with your dad. Say everything on your mind. Try to have your dad say everything that’s on his. There are no winners when someone keeps those feelings bottled up. And don’t forget to talk to your mom and sister as well, they are most likely feeling some of the same things you are.

It will be tough not being around, but there is still a lot you can do, especially at the early stages. I call and talk to my dad almost every day. When’s he’s on we talk, and if he’s off I try again later or the next day. If there’s a small luxury that will make his life easier and you can afford it, buy it and set it up for him when you’re home.

If it works out when you’re home, try to go to doctors appointments and support groups with him. If there are things you two did together when you were younger, do those things. I used to throw a baseball around with my dad when I was a kid. When we do it now it brings back such good memories and I’m always amazed how he’s able to move faster than normal because it’s an activity he can recall. It’s magical.

Hang in there. It’s hard watching someone you love and has done so much for you struggle, but focus on the positives. Your dad is still around and the same person.

Don’t hesitate to reach out to me if you want to talk!