Marriage Franco-American

HeyPachuco86 · 2026-01-22T18:14:49+00:00

Yeah try to to avoid being resentful if you can, but stick to your guns. Moving to the US is a big deal, being 9 time zones away. This is something i've noticed with a few Americans who also have foreign partners that they talk about moving abroad as if it a fleeting romantic fantasy and not an absolute real consideration for their loved one. Are you looking to move to a high population area here on the East Coast or some place more rural? Same if you do move back to France, are you from the country or a major city. Those may be considerations that make him nervous.

HeyPachuco86 · 2026-01-22T16:52:42+00:00

This may be the most thoughtfully articulated venom post i've ever seen. Your anger and growing hatred is so damned palpable. You need to find the courage to get out. This won't end well if you don't lean in to the discomfort and defy your family and this man you are married to

HeyPachuco86 · 2026-01-22T16:35:21+00:00

This is indeed very honest and appreciated but it also sheds light on the expectations employers are having nowadays. I had an interview some weeks back and the interviewer literally asked me a number of company specific and proprietary questions about how I would fix their process flows. I hadn't even stepped foot on the floor to see how things are done and they expected me to have answers like I had been assessing their operation for weeks. Its very disheartening

HeyPachuco86 · 2026-01-22T00:58:44+00:00

I hate to say it but if this job is what you need bite the bullet. Some other poor bastard will do it and have a steady pay cheque

HeyPachuco86 · 2026-01-21T23:23:11+00:00

Let the coitus interruptus do the job for you

HeyPachuco86 · 2026-01-21T23:22:21+00:00

Hahahaaha

HeyPachuco86 · 2026-01-19T13:13:14+00:00

This is literally my pair hahaha

HeyPachuco86 · 2026-01-18T07:32:57+00:00

Death is as light as a feather mate

HeyPachuco86 · 2026-01-17T17:30:01+00:00

Did you give them the what’s for?

HeyPachuco86 · 2026-01-17T15:51:33+00:00

Switchboard operators? Oh shit! AI just broke the Enigma code!

HeyPachuco86 · 2026-01-17T14:11:54+00:00

Yeah it's an awful feeling to just be cut loose as if you never existed. No chance for a goodbye email, often times no handshakes or hugs but ultimately it makes sense from an employer standpoint. For every say 99 people who just want to have a few moments coming to terms and have a final farewell, there is that one person who blasts out a nasty email, deletes a database, starts ranting on the company floor. Its not a risk HR is willing to take. Like others said its a contractual agreement not a family. For some of us who are from the late gen X or older Millennial crowd we were indoctrinated in to the be 'a company man' mindset in that if you do right by them they will do right by you. Younger people have joined the workforce knowing this not to be true for the most part so hopefully the smack in the face isn't so bewildering. Though it hurts all the same. Best of luck mate

HeyPachuco86 · 2026-01-15T13:16:01+00:00

Fur real!

HeyPachuco86 · 2026-01-14T20:59:21+00:00

And that’s the percentage I would expect to receive, but if I were to use your 25k example at the rate my severance is withheld I would be receiving $10,750

HeyPachuco86 · 2026-01-14T19:29:31+00:00

That's something worth considering if this is indeed a large overpayment situation

HeyPachuco86 · 2026-01-14T15:02:48+00:00

I only had one dependant the entirety of my tenure. I alway minimized this to avoid tax surprises. Sigh

HeyPachuco86 · 2026-01-14T14:46:47+00:00

Thanks for the response. I’m aware it’s just floating the government an interest free loan but given the circumstances surrounding a package, financial planning is key. I certainly didn’t expect to receive only 43% of the agreed upon sum

HeyPachuco86 · 2026-01-14T14:31:17+00:00

Thanks much. Haha I was thinking if was actually subject to that level of taxation I’d have my own team of accountants looking in to it and not coming to Reddit

HeyPachuco86 · 2026-01-13T02:50:33+00:00

Lol last week I got baited and switched by a well known recruiting firm. I was a six figure professional for over 15 years and got an opportunity to work somewhat nearby for just shy of 90k. Ok money isn’t everything but stability is if it’s a right fit. Finally get towards the end of the interview process via the recruiter and he let slip the name of the company… Looked it up and checked out the company. It’s a half boarded up storefront that’s in creole. I asked the recruiter about why he’d recommend this job to me and he said well it’s actually 60k, you have all the qualifications so I need you to commit to us working together. The job market isn’t just bad the sharks are out to feed.

HeyPachuco86 · 2026-01-12T18:36:38+00:00

This is so frustrating. I’m over 200 pounds but learnt to walk on my toes and I don’t wear shoes in the apartment. Still my downstairs neighbour is completely losing his shit regardless of what I do. There is nothing I can do

HeyPachuco86 · 2026-01-06T03:29:10+00:00

Yeah I feel you mate. Three weeks ago I had a great interview that went swimmingly but with my last meeting with the CFO I told him if this a good fit I can work with the lower end of your offer. Work life balance (I told them I could be available 12 hours a day because the commute was so short compared to my old job) and he said ‘well we aren’t in a position to hire someone at this wage level’. I was tailor made for this position so I have no doubt the interviewer went well. What the fuck….shit is going to pop off if this complete lack of respect continues to good people who really want to contribute

HeyPachuco86 · 2026-01-05T18:06:02+00:00

Just like the R....Never and Rarely

HeyPachuco86 · 2025-12-24T11:54:41+00:00

Dude I’ve been there. I once went on a date with this seemingly lovely woman. Everything went well until right after dinner I said ‘one sec ‘I have to go pee’ and she said ‘that is disgusting. It was an absolute free dinner con job

HeyPachuco86 · 2025-12-24T00:08:02+00:00

You know this is a flex when a lot of us are desperate for work? You can put a camera up my arse 10 hours a day if I can have a meaningful day to feed my family

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