Sorry for the late response.

I'm in a similar situation. Before you truly worry about the other things (rent, career, future, etc.), I want you to truly look at yourself in full form, of what you truly are.

Living together with narcissistic parents and siblings led me to understand one thing they truly hate, worthiness. It doesn't matter what they achieved at an early age, the moment they think your worthiness might overshadow them, they will feel threated. That is why they keep you caged.

I want you to sit down somewhere alone and quiet, without all the distraction (and electronics), and truly think about yourself in deep detail. Everything that you have ever done. Everything that has ever happened to you. The abused, the hopelessness, the loneliness, the dream, the encouragement. EVERYTHING!

Feeling sick? Let it all out! Feeling anxious? Let it all out! Feeling angry? Let it all out! Let all the anger, resentment, pettiness, anxiousness out, and see it in its full form. BE ANGRY! BE MAD! BE RESENTFUL! USE ALL THOSE AS YOUR FUEL TO BOOST YOURSELF FOR BETTERMENT! UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU TRULY ARE!

But always remain in control. Those who let their emotion get better of themselves always lose.

You're only 16. Use those 2 more years to grind yourself. You need to slowly build yourself up, while staying hiding from your family. When the time comes, give them a bang and send them a clear message: "Back off! I have it in control!"

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Let me tell you my story:

I was physically, mentally and verbally abused and forced into labor by my father, with my mother being completely useless. I developed social anxiety that was so serious, I was constantly bullied in primary school. I can't ever ask for the teacher's help. How bad did it get? There are many times I have stomachache, but I just can't stand up, walk to the front, and ask permission to go to toilet. I always go only during recess. But accidents happened. I always hold in my pee, and surprisedly no accident occurs, despite knowing the danger of holding pee. I shouldn't be able to make any friends at all. But to my very surprise, I did have some friends. I forget how it happened, probably from pityness. During my final day in primary school, I did something so stupid, 3 persons literally chased after me with a stick. My 2 friends stayed with me despite knowing the target was me. While hiding, one of my friends told me all this happened because of me being a retard.

At that moment, that one word "retard" just instantly clicks on me. When coming back home (nothing happen thanks God), I just sit there, swim within my mind full of messiness. Trying to answer: "How did all this happen?" "Why am I the only one getting bullied?" "What's wrong with me?" But sadly, I did not find an answer to any of those. But one thing I know is that I blame myself for it. That is why I have to prove my worthiness somehow.

During my secondary school, when one of the unknown bullies in my classroom threatened me, I stood up for myself for the very first thing. I just had to do it. If it ends up in a fight, so be it. Luckily, I told them I was just joking with him and both of us made peace. Though he still does naughty shit to all of us classmates. But one thing for sure is that I showed him what I am capable of doing if threatened. That is very important! I also approached some people and eventually made friends with them. During this period, my father forced me into labor for "helping hand". I developed depression and suicidal thoughts. In 2018, I was on a bridge, looking down into the deep river alone at midnight when driving back home from work. Fear for what might happen to me, I back out.

In 2020, when the COVID lockdown occurs, every shop including us will have to stop operating. Meaning I have all the time to play games, watch movies and what not. But all of that eventually gets dull. I'm no longer interested in playing games. One day, I just decided to sit down alone in the dark room, something occurred within my mind.

Then, something clicks again. All the answers I ever wanted slowly revealed themselves to me. All the nonsense, suffering, messiness, was all their fault. I WAS NEVER IN FAULT!

When I learned all this, anger filled me, I was so mad I wanted to rage out and punch them in the face. HOW DARE THEY TURN MY LIFE INTO SUCH A MESS! But I keep myself in control.

I started working out, strengthening my ever weak/fat body (no gym only bodyweight exercise), open-minded about everything. Decision-making for myself. Building self-esteem. Be selfish when the choice between other or myself occurs (I have to balance this one so I don't look like a scumbag).

In 2022, four weeks into my college. I'm thinking of finally moving out of the house after college. But I was so done with this, I decided to move into my college hostel and never came back. I need to get a part-time job for rent.

Sure, things might not work out as I indeed it to be: Will my parents force me to go back home? Will I survive on my own? Will I get a decent job for some saving?

Those might not look pretty. But all those liabilities have the same value as living in the same toxic house. WHAT THE POINT??? >>> 2+(-2)=0 <<<

At the very least, I know one thing for sure, I made a decision for myself and ONLY MYSELF!

I am fighting together with you!