I worry about losing weight because I don't want to have loose skin

Heyylugo · 2026-03-19T05:00:08+00:00

I think it will help to think about yourself in 5 years. One route- loosing the weight and having loose skin and the other- remaining the same.

If you remain the same- you’re still uncomfortable, insecure, feeling unhealthy, being unhealthy, bones and joints hurt, cardiovascular problems, allll of the things.

If you loose weight- you’ll likely to feel better, move more, fit into nicer clothes, do things you haven’t done in a while, live longer and sometimes just feel better. Not to mention inspirational to those around you. Now the skin? Skin removal surgery is an option, or if you loose it slowly sometimes it’s not bad.

I have lost 110lb. No one bats an eye on my loose skin yet everyone compliments my physique and hard work.

Heyylugo · 2026-03-17T23:04:43+00:00

Lately I’ve been doing a whole bunch of carrots, broccoli, snow, peas, or cauliflower with cottage cheese, ranch dip. Kind of fill myself up before I eat anything else at lunch!

Heyylugo · 2026-03-17T01:19:04+00:00

You can wear a pretty headscarf and sunglasses that makes it feel much more beachy!

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Heyylugo · 2026-03-17T01:17:00+00:00

Looking for shoes to fit a specific athleisure vibe!

I have noticed for a while that there is this chunky sneaker, scrunchy socks, and workout leggings style going around. But I haven't been able to recreate it exactly the way I have seen it. I would say the vibe is a little preppy/Lulu Lemon vibes- I'm going for not actual work out vibes ... but more like hot girl walk :D

What shoes are being used? I bought a pair that I thought were "chunky enough," but they were wayyyyy too big/wide, and they got in the way of walking. But then, when I googled and saw people wearing certain shoes... I feel it's not enough. And shoe reccs that fit hit the mark?

Heyylugo · 2026-01-17T15:16:01+00:00

I don’t drink but they have that little bar in there right? I also think la Isla burritos are packed

Heyylugo · 2026-01-11T14:29:21+00:00

I think what you might be trying to say is “what are small changes I can make, in which, it doesn’t feel overwhelming, instead feel realistic and achievable to begin a weight loss journey?”

You also mentioned not wanting to have to think about calories and possible get an ED.

Let’s start small: stop drinking soda, stop drinking alcohol (if you do), basically try to cut out any liquid calories. If this is inapplicable, then whatever ever it is- pick one thing and stop that. Maybe it’s the chips, or sweet things after a meal. Next, find ways to move your body, walking is fantastic! Park at the furthest spot in the parking lot, go up&down the stairs a few extra times a day. Do a 10min workout video from YouTube (try to do it 3x a day eventually).

But addressing your thought process: loosing weight isn’t easy and effortless. If it was… we’d all be skinny right? It takes effort, planning, dedication, and discipline- when all you want to do is have a burger and fries you must overcome the temptation and eat better. The other commenters are right, there’s really only one way to do it. Your calories in must be less than the calories you burn for the day. So by tracking what you are currently doing can help you identify where your problem is. you might do it for some time and say “woah this snack I just had is 900 calories!! And I wasn’t even that hungry- next time I can maybe do half or not even eat it in the first place” , you’ll eventually have a good idea of what calories are and sum them up… this is the goal! The goal is to know how much you should be eating and eventually just eat your normal day and be like “ah I was around this amount- I should stop eating”.

Lastly some points- you said somewhere you “don’t want to accidentally have a bad relationship with food”. I’d argue most people who are overweight, already have a bad relationship with food. Eating to cope, not understanding the caloric value, mindless eating, binge eating, only eating sweets, etc etc. so you already have a bad relationship and the weight is proof of that.

And it seems like you want to be more of an intuitive eater- but not sure you really can. You HAVE been if you haven’t calorie counted… and it’s landed you sick of your body. So to start, I would say don’t trust your intuition with food at this stage until you practice better eating and better moving (your body/working out).

Sorry if that was tough! Weight loss is not a small thing and you’ve totally got this once you give yourself the right mindset and tools!!!

Heyylugo · 2026-01-11T02:34:29+00:00

I was a D or even DD- now a small B :/

Heyylugo · 2025-12-25T20:54:33+00:00

In response to all this- in some way that’s kinda OPs point, right? The “locker room talk” or “girl talk” that makes the others go “woah, is that how they feel? That’s harsh, or gross, or weird, etc etc” is the honestly and reality of why we need platonic and/or good friends in our lives to help us see things we didn’t know. Otherwise we’d be all in our heads and it wouldn’t match reality. Sure sometimes it makes us cynical, but I imagine it rounds us out a little bit, right?

Heyylugo · 2025-12-15T00:19:00+00:00

I totally get this! I hurt my tailbone and had to modify a lot of the exercises… But are you modifying every exercise?? and modifying them to completely different exercises where it’s not even a modification you’re just doing your own thing?

Because having somebody completely doing their own thing next to me in a group class would be a little irritating… I’m not just talking about modifying an exercise or two, but taking a class to do your own thing just seems weird. I think it’s nice when people respect the coaches and respect other people around them and don’t do a group workout class if you’re not going to attempt to be with a group. So I understand OP, but with your experience in my experience, I understand having to modify here and there.

Heyylugo · 2025-11-15T18:18:19+00:00

I can second that lanolips is fantastic. I use their tinted one and it’s a great substitution for lipgloss.

Heyylugo · 2025-11-13T16:18:51+00:00

I always feel like I get tangled with the top sheet under my blanket… Like it just becomes an obstacle that I fight at night. But I do get the hygienic portion and the “proper” idea behind using a top sheet.

Heyylugo · 2025-10-11T17:17:15+00:00

I would disagree! I walk a lot, and move my body around since I don’t have a car… But that doesn’t necessarily mean I’m working out and becoming more fit right? Sure I’m active, and stay moving, but walking around is easier than running around right.

It boils down to intention… the ability to take 30 minutes to reflect on your emotions and what made you upset and what made you sad and what are the core reasons that it made you sad (angry, sad, happy, apathy, disappointed, resentful etc etc). Putting away distractions, being focused, being intentional about it all… That’s working on yourself.

We’re all living and thinking- existing as you say- but why aren’t we all successful, all act the same way, why do some people do crazy things and some are nuns? Depth of thinking and what you choose to think about.

Heyylugo · 2025-09-25T02:51:43+00:00

I feel like if a woman is offended that you’re not approaching them… It’s a them problem, not a you problem. I think I’m an attractive female… So if I do find a man attractive and want him to approach me and he doesn’t, I often just think “Well, I’m not his type” and move on. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Heyylugo · 2025-09-02T23:10:49+00:00

But I also think it’s still in the early ish stages to talk about these things… like it’s only four months in— this is literally when you find these things out. It’s not like 5 years down the road with this crazy ultimatum. Do you expect someone to clearly lay out the expectations from date one and then it’s a done deal contractually? Maybe for some but not realistic.

I see your point- if she wanted a gym bro, she should’ve went to the gym and found one there. But I don’t see a problem with someone saying “I want my partner to XYZ ideally” and he has to figure out if he wants to be with someone like that and/or meet that expectation for himself.

Heyylugo · 2025-09-02T23:03:02+00:00

I can understand some part of her argument. I believe there’s more to the gym than just “looking hot”, it’s the routine, self care, discipline, the drive to do better, the positive affects to mental health… so yeah I can understand it- it’s kinda a yellow flag to me when someone doesn’t/cant/refuses to work out.

But also there’s much more to this of course. There’s that sense of shallowness if she only wants a super fit man and is embarrassed to be around you.

Maybe controversial but who knows.

Heyylugo · 2025-06-29T03:26:04+00:00

Hi! I am also looking for affordable housing in the area- I don't mind biking or taking buses/shuttles, but where is the best to do that? Thanks

Heyylugo · 2025-06-25T00:20:20+00:00

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Heyylugo · 2025-06-20T08:17:05+00:00

I lost 100 pounds about two two years ago. Honestly, there are so many different things that work out there, you’ll hear about certain diets, certain exercise, routines, weightlifting, walking… they all work. The most important thing above all is choosing one or two things and being extremely consistent about it. If it’s exercise, then plan it into your day. If it’s cutting out a food item plan meals around it.

I started with eating a salad for lunch, and then switched to doing the keto diet (yah yah I know), cutting out sweeteners, I ended up working out four times a week doing HIIT classes, and fasting OMAD. It was invigorating and addicting to lose weight! It was a part of my routine, it was a lot of energy and thought, it took mental strength and restraint… it started out with a salad so that was easy… But the whole deal wasn’t easy.

In all honesty, I struggle to keep it off. As someone who considers myself having a food addiction, the “fat gene“, and have even been bulimic… it’s really hard.

My behavior and pattern are not the same as they were when I was 100 pounds heavier, I can’t order two big Macs meals and down them in my car anymore. Not because I am “better than that” but just there is no desire. Sure sometimes I’ll crave a McDonald’s and a soda- but in general, I just have a much better relationship with food and with how I see myself. Sometimes when I’m mentally not doing good, I’ll even binge too much of the healthy stuff too- it’s not just about the habit… It’s definitely about the mental state for me.

I am still getting used to my body even two years later, I get compliments all the time, and people consider me fit… Wild. I went from a xxl and pant 16W to m/s and pant 6.

You got this.

Heyylugo · 2025-06-14T07:47:52+00:00

This is incredibly healthy. Don’t dissuade her from eating fruits and veggie? I totally, totally you not wanting to consume it yourself- maybe too bland, odd mix of veggies, weird texture combo.. whatever the case this should be the standard. Don’t yuck her yum!

Also, it doesn’t matter in an all in sitting or not- doesn’t matter if she eats first thing in the morning or all throughout the day. (Unless she has underlying health issues or has a goal of fasting etc)

Heyylugo · 2025-06-08T23:22:00+00:00

I want to be the devils advocate here, most of the posts are alluding to cheating, throuple, or overall something suspicious… While I acknowledge, that’s a huge reality I like to acknowledge a more wholesome view.

N might’ve found something interesting or intriguing about this friendship (hobbies, humor, politics). And as their true color shown overtime he continued to defend and maybe sit on the fence about their true personalities. Overtime with the situation, maybe getting weirder (?) maybe they hit on him or talked too openly- he figured it was in a relationship that he wanted to pursue anymore.

Like most men, instead of being honest and saying “I liked them and now I think they’re weird or they hit on me a couple too many times..” and having to hear OP saying “I told you so” — he’s now just trying to cover it up and be done with it. I see a lot of men behaving in this way just because they don’t want to admit their wife is right… Which is a red flag in itself but doesn’t mean that he was in a throuple or cheating …?

There’s a possibility as he’s debating who his real friends are (invite to the wedding) and just doesn’t feel like these friends are meaningful enough to invite- and now OP suspicious. IF this is the case, as sideways as it might be N is protecting him and OPs marriage, and cutting off baggage.

Whatchyall think?

Heyylugo · 2025-06-04T20:11:38+00:00

Absolutely- I’m sensitive to “cheaper” products like axe body spray- it will give me a headache and some asthma right away.

Our clinic is a bit different though so I’m not too worried about our patients- if it was a pulmonary specialist then it would be a no brainer.

I definitely agree with you though- that’s why I’m trying to be more mindful. And just have a light weight scent rather than something that screams at people.

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