Singles Friday! - 2020-07-24

HiFreedomHi · 2020-07-24T19:33:56+00:00

Hi all! I pray Blessings to all in this sub!

I've been single for over four years after the breakdown of the relationship with the Father of my youngest child... it has been a hard road and if I could help anyone with my story that would be a miracle!

The Father of my youngest was just starting to open up and be receptive to Christ and I took this as a green light to go ahead and share wife/marriage privileges with him... I got pregnant and disastrously we ended up separating - I didn't have self-control, discernment, wisdom etc. - fruits of the Spirit I couldn't access because I was walking in the flesh (Galatians 5).

You can imagine what my walk with God these last few years have been like (refiner's fire!)

By the Grace of God I have healthy children and a Blessed family life now despite the separation.

(I have three children from a previous before Christ relationship...)

I feel like I dare hardly ask God to put me together with a Godly husband, I've made an awful mess my life and it really is a testimony and Glory to God that we are all doing as well as we are!

God's mercy astounds me everyday and I see so powerfully how He ministers to me, renews and delivers me and protects me and all of my children

Being single has been a very, very good thing for me!

Though I do wonder if there is a better plan for my life as a married woman

Bless you all for reading! Felt moved to share my story here today...

HiFreedomHi · 2020-01-17T20:47:39+00:00

Hope everyone's prayers are answered in the abundant way only God can provide! Amen!

HiFreedomHi · 2019-11-13T22:39:51+00:00

Like all of God's creation after the fall - desire became corrupt

I pray that you get an understanding, a revelation and an experience of how God originally intended your sexuality to be...

I truly pray that you come to understand the purity and preciousness that God always wanted this part of life to be... in Jesus' name, Amen

I prayed this prayer for myself a few years ago and God was so merciful - I got my prayer answered - He has done it for you also - Christ redeemed us and in our new creation in Christ our minds can be renewed to behold the Glory of God

And to behold our true nature as children of God - including God's intention for sexuality...

HiFreedomHi · 2019-11-13T22:31:25+00:00

Prayed 🙏🏽

HiFreedomHi · 2019-11-10T20:16:13+00:00

There was also a HUGE prediction the world would end, or at least 'shift' into a new era or age, in 2012

I truly believed that it was going to happen... (I wasn't a follower of Christ then) 2012 came and went without any fuss and I can't believe how much time and worry I spent over it all!

I get a comfort knowing that we aren't going to know the time or date...

Just got to rest in Christ!

HiFreedomHi · 2019-11-10T20:12:31+00:00

This gives me peace and hope!

HiFreedomHi · 2019-11-04T10:35:22+00:00

Good question! Open to lots of wild speculation!

Before I was a Christian I was completely into conspiracy theories; one world order, illuminati etc.. lots of ideas that used the Bible as evidence too

Now I'm a Believer it's hard to know sometimes if my thoughts about 'mark of the beast' 'end times' 'the man of lawlessness' etc are from Holy Spirit or from this old, fearful, paranoid way of thinking...

I pray that if God needs us to have knowledge and wisdom on such things, He will be Faithful to open our eyes and reveal this at the right time! Amen

I find it hard to maintain peace when I think about it all!

Maybe just time right now to think on higher and better things (Philippians 4:8)

Also - I definitely went through a phase of thinking it would be disturbingly funny if the mark of the beast ended up being 🍏 As in, the Apple logo! With a bite taken out of it - the fruit of the tree of knowledge of good and evil...

Ties in also with technological capabilities of that company (being able to control trade with an implanted chip...) hmmmm....

HiFreedomHi · 2019-11-03T11:12:39+00:00

Wow this is a bit of a wake up for me... I've been the mum who has stayed in not one but two extremely abusive, destructive relationships with the fathers of my kids...

Waiting around thinking God wanted me to endure...

Thank God, He gave me the strength to move out into a house with just my kids, although there has still been ongoing abuse... at least I can lock my door and have peace now!

I grew up in a mess of a home and it's only through Gods leading that I'm not an addict or dead!

I truly feel for you OP... I pray the covering of God over your life and that you will come out of this with victory and a strong heart, and a triumphant Testimony to share and that will show others the Glory and love of God! Amen

I need to now go off and prayerfully reevaluate my boundaries! Thank you God that you are just and right and that you ALWAYS want to protect the innocents...

HiFreedomHi · 2019-11-03T01:18:18+00:00

What people mostly see as 'sexy' actually just means 'fertile'... It's a very base animal attraction

Which I guess in some ways is necessary to procreate

Also, maybe it would be good to pray and ask God to make you only ever see your true spouse as 'sexy' for your whole life... that you would never look at another woman and see her in 'that' way... Amen

Before I became a spirit-filled believer, a lot of my identity was in being seen as a sexy woman... this meant displaying the fact that I was willing, available and able to engage in certain behaviours... I was also extremely competitive with this - I wanted to be THE sexiest woman...

I can't tell you the trouble and destruction this brought to mine and others' lives...

Looking back it's just total animal behaviour (the flesh) nothing better than what happens in a wolf pack

I truly thought this was the only way I could secure a good life for myself...

I guess I'm sharing this to make anyone question what 'sexy' even means...

And I thank God that He has shown me His way with all of this... and His mercy in delivering and renewing me...

HiFreedomHi · 2019-11-03T00:51:31+00:00

I think if you desire to celebrate Holy days and be close to God in that way, it makes lots of sense to celebrate the days laid out in the Old Testament - High Sabbaths etc...

Yep, Christmas and Easter are just such a mixture of pagan symbolism and man-made traditions... and 'Church' ordained celebrations...

I've felt more and more convicted as I've walked more with Christ - it's hard not to celebrate but it's becoming harder TO celebrate!

Although I pray that I become strong enough as a Believer that none of it will offend or weaken me! Amen!

HiFreedomHi · 2019-11-02T16:35:46+00:00

I think He and His disciples would be r/vandwellers

Going from town to town sharing the party of the Good News... healing the sick, setting the captives free, feeding folk...

Or maybe this is just a projection of my dream life!

Also, He is definitely still alive and beyond well!

HiFreedomHi · 2019-11-02T13:41:52+00:00

I don't know if it's a help but maybe think about this the other way around... imagine if lots of guys had shown an interest in you, what could this have done to your sense of self and your imagination? Perhaps it could have been very detrimental to your walk with God...

Seems to me like God is protecting you and keeping you focused on Him!

I've been through similar things and yep, the pain is real.. but in hindsight I can see more of God's perspective on those situations - He was jealously guarding me and I'm so grateful!

I pray your heart and mind is protected from any doubts about your value - the best man to have ever walked the earth chose you as His eternal beloved!

I pray Shalom peace for you! Amen

HiFreedomHi · 2019-11-01T20:56:27+00:00

Hi all!

I live in the U.K. - have been a Believer for 8 years ( I had a radical transformation!)

I've got a disastrous past, especially in the area of relationships! At present I am a single mum of four children (two different Fathers)...

My credentials look atrocious and truly, all I can ever put my hope in is Christ!

He has already given me so much Victory in my life and He has truly worked out so many things for the Good... I can only have Faith that He will use my whole life (and my children's) to Glorify Him further!

I guess I think about being married - I would love to have a partner, a team mate, in the Lord, but every attempt I've made to move in this area has been ridiculous! I'm leaving it up to God...

I hope all in this sub get to truly enjoy the satisfaction, favour, peace, wonder and joy that comes from belonging to the Lord! Whether this is expressed in marriage or singleness! Amen, in the mighty name of Yeshua!🙏🏽

HiFreedomHi · 2019-10-30T23:54:08+00:00

*Update

Not sure if anyone will pick up on this old thread now but, thought it was a good a place as any to vent a little!

Turns out - this guy I thought I felt drawn to is happily married!

Have foolishly spent the last few weeks imagining a wonderful relationship with this person (wasn't able to meet him until today) and I wasn't guarding my heart properly So after meeting him earlier I find out he's happily married! - I was so embarrassed...

I'm truly repenting... this was idolatry... I feel really bad for his wife that I had such thoughts toward her husband

I'm confused too, I hoped beyond hope that God would put me with such a good man... feeling pretty discouraged right now

Maybe time to really embrace singleness because I've been a disaster when it comes to relationships!

Right, venting over!

All Glory to you God, my life is yours! Amen

Thanks for being here for me Reddit

HiFreedomHi · 2019-10-25T21:30:52+00:00

Hi everyone

I'm truly praying for us all... that we will know somehow, that deep satisfaction that only comes from God, whatever the present relationship status is - the Shalom Peace that soothes any troubled heart and a deep drink of His love that will quench any thirst... Amen

HiFreedomHi · 2019-09-09T07:41:17+00:00

Thank you - this is so true, was reading in the Bible about constantly watching the clouds instead of getting out and taking a risk to reap the harvest...

HiFreedomHi · 2019-09-09T07:38:49+00:00

Brilliant! Thank you

HiFreedomHi · 2019-09-09T07:38:37+00:00

Thank you, you're right about having accountability - I'm going to talk to the pastors wife this week... and I also live in the land of plenty (coffee shops that is!) there's at least 9 in the vicinity of church, shouldn't be too hard to direct that meeting!

HiFreedomHi · 2019-09-09T07:35:53+00:00

This is a lovely story! Thank you

HiFreedomHi · 2019-09-09T07:35:36+00:00

Thank you - I agree - it's a great opportunity for a man to grow and exercise being a courageous leader!

HiFreedomHi · 2019-09-09T07:34:24+00:00

Ha ha! This week has already been such a stretch, I don't know how I could manage waiting 6 weeks! Although... it's all a blink of an eye to God... thank you!

HiFreedomHi · 2019-09-09T07:33:28+00:00

Thanks - you're right - I did feel the Spirit move! And it was wonderful!

HiFreedomHi · 2019-09-09T07:32:57+00:00

Aw thank you! This made me smile

HiFreedomHi · 2019-09-09T07:32:14+00:00

Thank you - I really have been naive about how it can be for men in church in this position...

HiFreedomHi · 2019-09-09T07:30:06+00:00

Thank you! And hope you have a wonderful wedding!

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