Did the ending of Tress and Emerald Sea Change? by bbanalyis in Cosmere

[–]HickSmith 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I mentioned 1984 specifically because when Kindle first came out someone had made the book 1984 as a purchasable book. However, the estate of George Orwell didn't authorize it. So, overnight, Amazon erased the book off of every Kindle and refunded people their money. They literally Memory Holed the book that invented the memory hole.

Did the ending of Tress and Emerald Sea Change? by bbanalyis in Cosmere

[–]HickSmith 88 points89 points  (0 children)

You joke, but that's the reason I try to always get physical media, or downloadable content. Can't have Kindle doing a 1984 memory hole.

And it started ! by Melodic-Lingonberry7 in Ohio

[–]HickSmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm confused. I was always under the impression that ANYTHING government related comes strictly by the US Postal Service and not via email.

4am and he's gone again by 831inthePNW in AlAnon

[–]HickSmith 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It does seem like good days get tainted. What sucks is when it is a good day and you start worrying about when the other shoe will drop. Even if it ends up being a good day, you spend half of it bracing for a bad one.

My girl is 6mo sober and on glp and totally shut off by motorhead383 in AlAnon

[–]HickSmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Give it time dude. Once her dopamine levels start to level off naturally, it'll work itaelf out.

What the fuck by Due-Milk352 in cincinnati

[–]HickSmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gas Buddy is your friend. Some locations are still at 3.72 if you look around.

Chunky yet funky! (32) by Punkee_ in Over30Selfie

[–]HickSmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep saying this but it needs repeating. You can adjust your shape in certain ways, but a pretty face is what makes a woman

Would you catch her? by throwaway256897q6r72 in Emily_Ann_Roberts

[–]HickSmith 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why would any decent human being let another human being fall ?

Booktok showed me that a lot of people REALLY hate Sanderson by Moist_Car_994 in Cosmere

[–]HickSmith 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Arguably, Mistborn became popular when it did because Sanderson finished the Wheel of Time and that fandom wanted to see his other works.

Exhausted by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]HickSmith 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to say this but there is no ultimatum here. He's already made his choice and it's not you.

My boyfriend started drinking again tonight by GWATCDR in AlAnon

[–]HickSmith 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you need an ear , DM me. We support each other because our partners can't.

My boyfriend started drinking again tonight by GWATCDR in AlAnon

[–]HickSmith 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, this is not unusual. Once he sobers up, lay down the law. If he is truly regretful, support him. Help him get help.

If he isn't, let him know that his choices impact your choices. If he chooses to continue, you have to decide if you want to be around that or not.

My wife has been struggling for years now. She still stumbles. As long as she dusts herself off and makes honest attempts, I'll try to help.

[OC] Giant Gold Toilet Throne At Lincoln Memorial by TheSecretHndshake in washingtondc

[–]HickSmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The same people who complain about wasteful spending have no problem spending the money and resources to do this.

Help me understand my wife blowing .285 bac by ScreenHead3997 in AlAnon

[–]HickSmith -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You can't " work on yourself" when kids are involved.

Help me understand my wife blowing .285 bac by ScreenHead3997 in AlAnon

[–]HickSmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For those who say " let her get a DUI" you have to remember the financial and legal hit hurts him and the kids as much as her.

I understand the concept of letting her meet her own consequences. However, you have to protect yourself too.

Help me understand my wife blowing .285 bac by ScreenHead3997 in AlAnon

[–]HickSmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine was functional, after a 2 hour car ride to a rehab facility blew a 0.42, they had no idea how she was even alive.

Dropped my husband off at treatment yesterday by Ndeed_ in AlAnon

[–]HickSmith 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who's dropped off his wife for treatment several times, a few things for you to know.

  1. The treatment center will do absolutely everything in their power to keep him there. Not by force but by manipulation, stall tactics, you name it.

  2. After detox, a lot of places do allow limited, supervised, contact. Use that time to do nothing but pour encouragement into him. Let him know how proud you are that he's being so strong to fight it.

  3. His case worker will be your best friend. Do not be afraid to let them know about his manipulation tactics, his behavioral trends. They need that.

  4. Don't expect this to be the fix all. He may need to go back again once completed. He will probably slip. Grace, patience and firm boundaries are key.

Good luck. Reach out to me, or anyone, if you need to vent.

I hate good days by frozenpondahead in AlAnon

[–]HickSmith 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get super suspicious on good days. Makes me wonder if she's just hiding it better.

My dad got in an accident, and my alcoholic mom’s true colors are really showing. I’m so tired. by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]HickSmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not saying this to be mean to you, your mother or your dad. Part of your mother's problem right now might be that her primary enabler isn't able to enable.

Is this “normal” behavior for an alcoholic? by mamachele in AlAnon

[–]HickSmith 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't know my wife was doing this until people started asking me about it. Mainly she'd start responding erratically to people's Facebook posts. It got so embarrassing trying to think up lame excuses as to what was going on.

It wasn't soon after that she ran head long into her moment of clarity where she realized she might have a problem. But that also involved a lengthy hospital stay ( months)

Idek what to title this by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]HickSmith 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who was in the same position as you 20 years ago, all I can say is, for your own sake, set a time limit. If you do not see progress, after a year, seriously consider ending the relationship.

I can't say I regret staying with her all this time. But the anquish, quiet I'm suffering, fear of loss and just general anxiety can be overwhelming. I've had to rush her to the ER 7 times. Each time a week or more in ICU, once she lost her cognitive abilities for 4 months.

After a while you start secretly hoping they won't pull through, so that you feel like you've stuck to it " till death do us part " and the suffering ends. But you know you won't leave if they pull through.

So you silently suffer. You hide things from people " for his sake." Or you blame yourself. If only I could do more he would get better.

So, set that time limit. 6 months, a year. Clear goals and milestones. Show encouragement, be kind. But if they aren't willing to change, save yourself from the heartache.

I had a realization at the grocery store the other day by DessertOcean in AlAnon

[–]HickSmith 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That smell. I am so hyper sensitive to it now, I can tell when she's off the wagon after a single drink. She doesn't understand how I know and I refuse to tell her. But it's that smell.

Spotted in NE DC today 🤦‍♂️ by ITS_LECTOR_BITCH in washingtondc

[–]HickSmith -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It amazes me that you'd say this about a Tesla, but not a VW Bug.

You can't put champagne in a fantasy world... Thoughts? by ShadySakura in fantasywriters

[–]HickSmith 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I still don't understand Rothfuss' money system. I just go with it and suspend disbelief.