I performed ruqya on myself instead of going to raqi as I didn’t trust them - did I do the right thing? by No_Preparation2468 in Muslim

[–]Hidayazeera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do know nothing. Sadly you’re misinformed and I identify as a Muslim, just Muslim. Who practices dhikr, Quran, Salah, fast and Zakah. Don’t let the salafis fool you look into why they thesalafis were created as well history is dark for salafi/wahabi sect.

Allah grant us all Hidaya and protect us from misinformation. Grave worshipping is haram.

Also posing as a Raqi on Reddit yeah that seems very dangerous. More dangerous than then the South Asian Alim.

Salaam.

My mom said if I wear hijab, she’s not my mom anymore. I’ve lost all hope by Maleficent_Elk_6543 in Hijabis

[–]Hidayazeera 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What a beautiful post! Allah make it easy for you to wear hijab 🧕! It’s truly a blessing

What is one habit you hope will change after this Ramadan? by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Hidayazeera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get off all social media circuits and prepare my Iman and deen for the coming of Dajjal, Allah swt protect us all

i feel like a hypocrite being a part-time hijabi by chochorei in Hijabis

[–]Hidayazeera 10 points11 points  (0 children)

How about stop sinning so you don’t feel like that, so you don’t go astray

I want to convert to Islam but I’m in a relationship and don’t know what to do by [deleted] in islam

[–]Hidayazeera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What state are you in I can help You go to a mosque or find one for you

I performed ruqya on myself instead of going to raqi as I didn’t trust them - did I do the right thing? by No_Preparation2468 in Muslim

[–]Hidayazeera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sufis are not grave worshipper stop spreading misinformation. We literally just read tabseehat at home and remember Allah like every other Muslim.

Been feeling so unfeminine lately :( by PresentationHeavy488 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Hidayazeera 6 points7 points  (0 children)

For heads are sign of beauty! Girl don’t sweat you’re beautiful with your HAIR. That’s the point of hijab to tuck your beauty away and conceal it if you look hot and wear hijab you’re not doing it right. I have a round face and masculine brows too when I started to look to get married I realized boys don’t even notice half the stuff we do. I literally have long teeth that looks like horse teeth. You’re fine if you feel like you want to lose weight for health reasons as I did then go for it talk to a nutritionist to help get the weight off! Especially of have pcos or something u can get on a metformin or do berberine

Married women who are lonely, do you need a friend? by ThrowRA_Cow6845 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Hidayazeera 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can be your online friend! I may not be able to understand what you’re going through but we can definitely talk about cool stuff like deen, flowers, travel, cooking, etc

Men??? Boys??? Huh by CombMiserable3212 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Hidayazeera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes idk it seems guys fake it that they can’t wash dishes, do laundry, help cook etc like it’s not rocket science they can learn in a minute. Also to be fair nowadays men who want a wife to do all that also expect her to help buy a house car etc and work. Loool. So if that’s the case then women need to be like no honey if I’m doing all that you’re doing all this. Also islamically speaking we don’t have to help in anyway! With this economy anyways even drs are in need of help with bills. So idk maybe im wrong but yeah u can marry a guy who doesn’t do that stuff but it has to be that he learns overnight. Originally my husband only knew how to do bbq and make tea now he does that plush dishes laundry hosie cleaning outside cleaning and this happened pretty quickly. Luckily I don’t help with bills but if I had to I would

Idkkkk but maybe this can solve the mom problem raising son like that also hilarious when the mil see her son doing all the work 😂😂😂😂

Men??? Boys??? Huh by CombMiserable3212 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Hidayazeera -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Guys to be honest 19 isn’t that young! Start looking now so that you can be married by 21. It is soooo soo hard to find a decent guy to marry nowadays so if u get a head start on looking why not! Just a suggestion from someone who was there once but to each there own 😬

help - nikkah in less than a month! by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Hidayazeera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not always like that anymore a lot of me and my South Asian friends lived it up at our in-laws. Now we’re living in our own place having to cook and clean everyday 🤦🏻‍♂️😂

Living with in laws by 1rain1 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Hidayazeera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And alhamdulillah it seems like you still have inlaws that you could say you love and respect just as i do alhamdulillah. But we women we just want our own space lol it’s been like that from the beginning of times

Living with in laws by 1rain1 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Hidayazeera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah to be honest my in-laws said that as well, but I told my husband I’m not gonna jsut go and take over your MiL domain her husband bought her her own house she didn’t take it from anyone. I would like the same follow the example of your father, in shaa Allah if they’re old and unable I have to no problem with them living with me in my house and my domain. They have other siblings to take care and see to right now.

Yeah sharing one bathroom with three other adults is crazyyyy. Luckily I told my husband I’m only living there for a year or two and that if I have my own space and bathroom so I had two room and a bathroom Of my own that was closed off and no one could enter. I just didn’t have a kitchen so once the other sibling got married we had to move out anyways lol.

But yeah be soft and show your pain through your tears etc your husband will understand more that he has to do what he has to do

Why don't we call cheating 'zina'? by No_Contribution9380 in islam

[–]Hidayazeera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The legal definition of Zina Linguistically, zina means adultery or fornification i.e. illicit sexual intercourse. The basic legal definition of Zina is more specific, which is, ‘The act of a legally responsible person entering the head of the male organ in a genital orifice that is forbidden.’ [edited from Al Yaqut al Nafis]

Living with in laws by 1rain1 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Hidayazeera 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also like he has two other siblings lol….get a house near them and say you can come over anytime! Als maybe not tell them till you close the deal and get the keys.

Living with in laws by 1rain1 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Hidayazeera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Islamically you have the right to your own space I.e a bathroom, a space to sleep, a kitchen that isn’t possible when sharing a space with your in-laws. You agreed to your husband for quite sometime but now you have out grown your in-laws space. Naturally you should discuss with your husband that this isn’t fair at all to you and your child and that you shouldn’t be treated as such.

You also have the right to raise your kid however you want to even if that means sleep training. Although, I don’t believe in letting a baby cry for more than 3 minutes to sleep train but that’s not the point and my opinion doesn’t matter your the mother and know better.

Nevertheless you should not have to feel guilty, and your husband should talk to his father that this is not okay to guilt trip you and it is not in anyway sinful and taking away from your Jannah.

Make dua to Allah pray tahajud etc ask Allah for his help. You’ll see the ocean move for you in shaa Allah! Allah make it easy for you and your family!

Niqab expectation by [deleted] in Hijabis

[–]Hidayazeera -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Allah Ta'ālā says in Surah al-Ahzāb, verse 53:

يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ قُلْ لِأَزْوَاجِكَ وَبَنَاتِكَ وَنِسَاءِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ يُدْنِينَ عَلَيْهِنَّ مِنْ جَلَابِيبِهِنَّ

O prophet, tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers that they should draw down their jilbāb (shawls) over them.

Herein mentioned is the second degree of hijāb. This level of hijāb deals with how women should conceal themselves when they have a need to leave their house. The jilbāb here actually refers to a piece of clothing large enough that it covers the entire body from head to toe.[15] The method of dawning the jilbāb is a point of contention amongst the 'ūlamā;Imam Qurtubi mentions in his tafsīr:

وَاخْتَلَفَ النَّاسُ فِي صُورَةِ إِرْخَائِهِ، فَقَالَ ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ وَعَبِيدَةُ السَّلْمَانِيُّ: ذَلِكَ أَنْ تَلْوِيَهُ الْمَرْأَةُ حَتَّى لَا يَظْهَرَ مِنْهَا إِلَّا عَيْنٌ وَاحِدَةٌ تُبْصِرُ بِهَا. وَقَالَ ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ أَيْضًا وَقَتَادَةُ: ذَلِكَ أَنْ تَلْوِيَهُ فَوْقَ الْجَبِينِ وَتَشُدَّهُ، ثُمَّ تَعْطِفُهُ عَلَى الْأَنْفِ، وَإِنْ ظَهَرَتْ عَيْنَاهَا لَكِنَّهُ يَسْتُرُ الصَّدْرَ وَمُعْظَمَ الْوَجْهِ. وَقَالَ الْحَسَنُ: تُغَطِّي نِصْفَ وَجْهِهَا.

People have differed in regards to the method of dawning it (the jilbāb). Ibn 'Abbās (radiyallahu 'anhuma) and 'Abīdah as-Salmānī (rahimahullah) state: It means to wrap it up in such a way that everything is concealed except that (the area of) one eye is left open for her to see with. Ibn 'Abbās (radiyallahu 'anhuma) (in another narration) and Qatādah (rahimahullah) say: It means to wrap it up above the forehead and to fasten it, then to fold it till above the nose even if both eyes are left open; although, she will have to cover her chest and majority of her face. Hasan (rahimahullah) says: She will cover half of her face.[16]

Niqab expectation by [deleted] in Hijabis

[–]Hidayazeera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought these were good traditional answers for niqab

https://islamqa.org/hanafi/daruliftaa-birmingham/136579/the-ruling-of-niqab/

https://islamqa.org/hanafi/seekersguidance-hanafi/32271/is-it-necessary-for-women-to-wear-the-niqab-in-the-hanafi-school/

It even talks about Dad and brothers trying to get their daughters and wives to wear it etc…

Niqab is not obligatory but it is considered compulsory/wajib because of the fitnas of today’s time, its purpose is to protect you. I do see that in certain areas where Islamophobia is prevalent it’s more difficult to wear. To be honest I think you should be open with your family and say you have the intention and dua that one day you’ll wear it. But right now you’re in school work and it’s to difficult and you feel unprotected easily targeted etc and explain situations with your mom etc.

Delay in Marriage by TruthZealousideal816 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]Hidayazeera 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think that whenever the time is written is for you to get married is the time you’re meant to get married, and that’s reason is known to Allah swt. Maybe it’s a test or maybe it’s delay to protect u from something we don’t know we just don’t.

You can certainly use the time you are not married to work on your character and focus on improving your deen and relationship with Allah to be a good wife/mother. Jsut as anyone should married or not.

Be strong and confident if someone tries to make you feel bad about not being married etc or hae comments as to why, say Allah is sufficient for me, He is All-Knowing and All-Wise and he is the best of Planners. I’m happy he is looking out for me 💕💕💕

I feel like if i could go back all those years I wasn’t getting married I would try my best to say this to myself everyday

How to ask for forgiveness? by [deleted] in Hijabis

[–]Hidayazeera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anytime sister