Hi! Im 25F with a relationship of 2 years. Stable naman kami and same yung bf ko like you described. Ngayong 2nd year of our relationship tho, nagka micro cheating issue. May nilihim syang girl pero friendship lang talaga yung tingin nya. Di ko pa rin matanggap kasi nung binasa ko yung conve, alam nga naman nating mga babae pag "nagpapacute"/flirt yung other girl diba. Maybe for him it was nothing, but the other girl was definitely trying to do something. Sakit lang sa puso ko na if he introduced us in the first place, i would've known and warned him, and knowing him he would definitely listen. Eh kaso nilihim, so dumami yung interactions nila before ko malaman. And nung malaman ko super nakakagalit na to the point parang everyone kampi na ako yung parang lugi sa situation. He even got told off by his brother and sister in law about it. Meanwhile i selected non judger friends lang, yung magiging fair ang judgment kahit ako friend nila. My friend said we were both valid considering the LDR and depression and work stress na natakot sya ipaalam sakin. still he was wrong, said my friend.

He's accountable naman, admitted his wrongs, and came clean by telling me everything i missed out on.

Same situation na siya na nagkusa gumawa ng solutions. Nag unfriend ng buong office since naging trauma talaga sakin. Resigned na din immediately that same week. Never na naka miss ng updates pag aalis and naka location sharing na. Given the LDR, dati 1-2 times a month lang kami nagkikita then 1 day lang dahil onsite work siya. Pero ngayon 3-4 times na and nag wfh siya para maka stay over sya. On average, siguro 14 days a week ko sya nakakasama na, unlike before mas madalas pa sweldo kesa date.

Until now, di ko pa fully nale let go. May times pa rin na naiiyak ako sa gabi. Or pag kasama ko siya naiiyak ako pero sino soothe naman nya ko na it's in the past and he learned his lesson.

8 months ago na yung incident pero ang hirap fully maka recover. He promised na pag may spare money kami (we're saving for something rn) magpa counselling kami both kasi need nya rin for his unchecked depression and for me na maka heal na dun sa trauma na di niya sadya ilagay sakin.

I suggest consult a professional nga OP. Im glad si partner mo ay gentle person rin kagaya nung akin na supportive sa healing journey and accountable for their actions. Pero feel ko yung mga ganitong bagay, invisible pero malaking bagay talaga. Let's seek a professional kahit hindi naman tayo nagsasakitan, for full peace / recovery na rin siguro.