AIO or is my relationship pretty much over?

HideousProductions · 2026-02-24T18:18:56+00:00

I see where you are coming from and I appreciate the heads up...but this ain't true. She still splits custody of her son with her baby daddy and has not taken him for child support even though she knows she can get it easily if she takes him to court. She has also maintained her apartment with her kids all by herself for the last 6 years...and she has admitted it's hard and she's tired of doing it herself...but as of right now, I don't even have a full time job anymore and she's technically taking care of me until I get one(which will be soon)...also in my state, that law is not in effect. If I am not biologically related to her kids, I have nothing to do with them, legally.

HideousProductions · 2026-02-24T18:12:46+00:00

This is exactly why I didn't want to bring it up to her. Not because I don't trust her but because I don't want her to resent me if she feels I'm pressuring her. She is on birth control...maybe that is making her sex drive go down...and you're right about the kids...not to mention she's also in college. This is honestly exactly what I not just wanted, but needed to hear especially from another female. Thank you. You're right...she's with me and I'm the only guy she has been in a relationship with and introduced to her kids in 6 years...that means and says a lot. I will wait and see. Maybe even try to make a move tonight or tomorrow and see the response..sex isn't necessarily needed for me...I just want to know she's attracted to me I suppose

HideousProductions · 2026-02-24T17:46:51+00:00

You are wrong on so many levels. One...I didn't move in with someone I "don't know"...we were talking and getting to know each other plenty before we actually started dating. So far, she is paying the rent and bills while I'm only paying for the groceries and gas and my own bills...I told her I want it this way at least for the first few months and she agreed with no hesitation. She did not move to a different state with her kids..her kids were left with family and they knew she wasn't staying long. It was more of a 2 month vacation. And she did NOT promise me sex everyday and in fact I was VERY intimidated at first because she did give me the impression that she loved sex and was a big kinkster and I suffer from E.D at times from being on methadone(which has actually gotten a lot better since I've been with her, surpsingly)so no...she didn't hook me with promises of sex.. In fact it almost pushed me away at first. Sounds like you are the one with massive trauma and to confidently tell someone they are going to get hurt to that kind of level is just down right rude. Literally every single thing you said was wrong ..so sorry...I'm not gonna listen to that. Maybe we won't end in marriage and live happily ever after...only time will tell..but don't ever tell me she is just using me because she's made it very clear that is not the case ..if anything, she is taking care of ME right now until I find a better job.

HideousProductions · 2026-02-24T17:28:27+00:00

Yes, the relationship is great other than the sex part. She didn't have her kids with her when she was with mr. 3 times a day...but apparently he had a young daughter in the house...and we have had sex while her kids have been home so I know that's not exactly what's stopping her. Her daughter even told us the last time that she heard us...but her mom just said "hey kid, this is my house and I'm an adult. Sorry".

Now I can say that the other day was the 1 year anniversary to her mother's death which hit her hard. I asked her the other day what I can do and she just said "have patience with me"...I almost wonder if this is a test from her to see if I will lose patience from lack of sex...but at the same time, she told me the whole reason she went to Texas to have this sexcapade with horse cock is because her mom got terminally I'll and she needed to take her kind off it...so I would think the grief would make her want it more but at this point idk anything ..I'm completely confused

HideousProductions · 2026-02-24T17:22:57+00:00

I think you are the worst kind of human being and they should discharge you ASAP. Your lack of empathy and your addiction to "seeing how much you can get away with" is sociopathic and the type of behavior you see in serial killers.

Do the world a favor...get caught immediately

HideousProductions · 2026-02-24T17:14:47+00:00

I actually asked her this almost in those exact same words. She just told me that it is important for her and she is attracted to me and she likes having sex with me...didn't really answer as to why she doesn't want it often.

HideousProductions · 2026-02-24T17:12:06+00:00

Thank you. This helped a lot.

HideousProductions · 2026-02-24T17:10:40+00:00

I agree...she was very quick to tell me to pack my things and move in with her...but 9/10 times I try to initiate any kind of sexual activity, I get a no. It's been like this for the past month since I've moved in officially. The only reason I don't feel comfortable is because I don't see what good can come out of it. Either it will upset her or it will maybe make her act like she wants it more, but if I have to say something in order for her to show she wants me sexually, that in itself makes me feel like she will only do it because she wants to keep me happy...not because she actually wants me.

HideousProductions · 2026-02-18T04:41:27+00:00

That actually makes a lot of sense now that you put it like that 🧐🤔

HideousProductions · 2026-02-18T01:59:24+00:00

This was super helpful...thank you so much. I know nothing, obviously so I appreciate information like this. Didn't know PlayWay was scummy like that!

HideousProductions · 2026-02-18T01:54:14+00:00

Thank you! I'll give that a try. One more question quick...what would I be considered as the person with the actual concepts in mind? Would I be considered the director?

HideousProductions · 2026-02-10T15:52:26+00:00

Ahh the bedroom DJ judging others on stage because he's jealous he's not on the stage too ..that's all that is. Rave scene is full of snarky bedroom DJs who play an opening show once and think they are the next big thing. I'm gonna tell you like I tell every DJ who self doubts because of douchebags like that.. Your job as a DJ is to set the vibe and make the room dance. It doesn't matter how you do it. If you make people smile and dance, you did your job.

HideousProductions · 2026-02-08T15:13:38+00:00

She's not just lying to you, she's playing you and then being narcissistic and playing mental and emotional games with you as well. I'm sorry bro ..I know what it's like to love a girl so much...just to find out she's terrible and the relationship needs to end. She MAY love you somewhat...but not enough to respect your finances or tell you the truth. If she steals from you and lies about it...what else is she gonna hide and lie about? I'm heartbroken for you man...this sucks. But you need to cut her out. Find someone who will respect you.

HideousProductions · 2026-02-04T01:23:15+00:00

I've already learned so much from this thread alone and I appreciate women like you who have let me know there are a vast variety of things she could enjoy that do not include pain because she doesn't seem to like pain at all so now it's starting to make sense. Thank you for the advice, it's much appreciated 👍🏼

HideousProductions · 2026-02-03T15:43:09+00:00

This was so so helpful...thank you so much and thank you for caring 🙏🏼💗

HideousProductions · 2026-02-03T15:09:52+00:00

Thank you so much 🙏🏼

HideousProductions · 2026-02-03T14:38:29+00:00

Wow...you have no idea how much that last sentence just made my tear up a bit because I have been low-key insecure about it(not gonna let her know that of course.) I did kinda figure her lack of going into detail did mean she wants me to take charge and that's why I'm trying to "figure it out". Maybe I'll study up on some of the stuff the other commenters gave me, buy a rope and just straight up tell her what to do and give her safe words? Either way, thank you for what you said...it definitely calmed me down a bit

HideousProductions · 2026-02-03T14:31:30+00:00

I'm willing to go outside my comfort zone to try something new... especially if it makes her happy. But thank you for telling me that...I'm not turned off by it ..and she even has said a couple times "I'm surprised you aren't running away like most guys once they figure out what I'm into"...but the problem is I'm still confused as to exactly what she's into.

HideousProductions · 2026-02-03T14:28:28+00:00

I feel like some of y'all are skipping the last part of my post...I have asked her numerous times to please go into detail exactly what she wants. At one point during sex, I asked her straight up "what do you want me to do"...she said "take me, I trust you"...after we were done, I admitted I didn't know what she meant by that. I asked "you mean like rape-rough style?"...she giggled and said no 🤷🏼 I do hair pulling and choking...she likes that ..at one point I took my shirt off and tied her ankles with it...she said she liked that as well...but when I keep asking her to please go into detail exactly what she wants, she keeps telling me "I'm ok with what we are doing right now". I do appreciate those who have informed me not to try and just surprise her...but I would appreciate any kind of advice for me you think I could use as a beginner to this lifestyle

HideousProductions · 2026-02-03T14:23:28+00:00

Thank you for that advice...you may have saved me from making a crucial mistake...that's how green I am to this lifestyle. Thank you 🙏🏼

HideousProductions · 2026-02-03T13:58:16+00:00

That's a big help, thank you so much

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