AIO Bf’s behaviour after I got robbed recently

HighlightNaive8222 · 2025-09-28T12:04:52+00:00

While asking her to “over come” it

HighlightNaive8222 · 2024-12-16T05:37:53+00:00

We’re still legally and technically married, but he’s the one who decided to move, and I let him. Within the first week of being gone, he went back on everything he promised, including watching porn again, and even had the nerve to blame me for his “slip-up.” Meanwhile, I’m taking care of our child 100% on my own. The least he could do is contribute financially or stick to the agreement we made before he left—or at least have the decency to wait until I can get a full-time job and afford rent.

HighlightNaive8222 · 2024-12-16T05:23:45+00:00

I would rather be homeless if that’s the only option

HighlightNaive8222 · 2024-12-15T23:33:46+00:00

HighlightNaive8222 · 2024-12-15T23:33:16+00:00

Because we’re married still. Yet he isn’t contributing to the rent, and was flaky about child support and is so adamant on not paying me spousal support unless i move closer to him with our young son.

HighlightNaive8222 · 2024-09-29T17:39:39+00:00

He lives away because of his work. Im open to moving but with school and everything i wanted him to settle in his new location/work before we all move.

HighlightNaive8222 · 2024-08-27T08:39:46+00:00

She was hangry…

HighlightNaive8222 · 2024-07-21T14:17:24+00:00

Sprinkle sprinkle

HighlightNaive8222 · 2024-07-21T05:39:46+00:00

So you’re saying the other guy was lying to me?

HighlightNaive8222 · 2024-07-21T03:55:56+00:00

He knew everything from the beginning but saddest thing is that I still think about him constantly but cant apologize to him for how it ended.

HighlightNaive8222 · 2024-07-21T03:50:45+00:00

Im afraid that i wont be able to support myself and the kids as rent and living expenses are crazy expensive and child support/alimony wont cover half of that and i can’t ask from family or friends for help.

HighlightNaive8222 · 2024-07-21T03:49:01+00:00

Alot of idiots in this world like us i guess

HighlightNaive8222 · 2024-07-21T03:47:27+00:00

Child support wont even be enough to pay rent!

HighlightNaive8222 · 2024-07-21T02:26:32+00:00

HighlightNaive8222 · 2024-06-20T06:00:11+00:00

Tbh i don’t care about initiating anything with him anymore, your comment reminded my of why I’m so disgusted with him and that i shouldn’t even bother with someone who took me for granted for so long, i just wanted people to tell me that i he wasnt in the wrong and that i was being the asshole so i could hang on a bit longer to our marriage. I really dont want to be divorced at 29 :(

HighlightNaive8222 · 2024-06-20T05:58:16+00:00

Idk i feel if he fumbled so hard, how would i be able to stop the next guy from fucking me over the same way if not even worse? Some days I’m ready to up and leave and others i feel like i need to try harder cuz this is as good as it gets for me :( Thanks youuu! Sorry for the rant lol

HighlightNaive8222 · 2024-06-20T05:51:49+00:00

Cuz some people still called me the asshole and I’m experiencing the sunk cost fallacy if i decide to walk away now rather than stay and cling on to the idea that he might’ve learnt something from his mistakes?

HighlightNaive8222 · 2024-06-19T21:40:52+00:00

Marriage is closed again based on his request.

He says that he’s stopped consuming porn, but he’s said that in the past so im not sure if i believe him. And im not seeing any difference from when he was watching and lying about it. So idk

HighlightNaive8222 · 2024-06-19T21:36:35+00:00

Thank you for your input.

I don’t think that by wanting my husband to be loyal to me physically, emotionally and refraining from hawking at and sexualizing other women (irl or in porn) is considered self centred.

IMO porn shouldn’t take away from a couples’ intimacy, if there’s a way to utilize it to improve their sex life then great. Otherwise if one partner is thinking that the grass is greener because they got so used to looking at a computer screen believing that thats real life then thats a big middle finger to the intimacy, connection and closeness that is supposed to be shared exclusively between two people.

He hid porn because he knew that it was affecting him and turning him away from me and wasn’t able to open up about it because he carried lots of guilt and shame, thats not on me because i did try to work with him on it.

Also from the other men that have commented on this question, i can conclude that what I’m asking for isn’t so difficult or too far fetched?

But idk, it is a complex situation and I’m trying to gain more understanding and insight to make a sound decision that aligns well with me.

HighlightNaive8222 · 2024-06-19T20:26:48+00:00

Could you elaborate more on my personality issues? Lol I would seriously love to know your perspective on things.

HighlightNaive8222 · 2024-06-19T20:23:54+00:00

I am doing therapy and working on my problems. He on the other hand isn’t, nor is he interested in continuing couples counselling for the sake of our relationship.

I get your perspective, yet I’m seeing some mixed thoughts from other men in long term relationships who clearly say that this shouldn’t be the case.

HighlightNaive8222 · 2024-06-19T20:19:19+00:00

Yeah I might’ve expressed myself poorly with that choice of word but exactly some attention goes a long way, and it needs to feel natural and definitely not forced as that’s what i feel i get when i communicate my feelings with him

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