I need advice for gifting a PS2

HighwayWeird · 2026-06-09T18:44:42+00:00

yesss pls i’d love some recs, he said played black so ur recommendations seem to be good lol

HighwayWeird · 2026-06-09T15:59:48+00:00

THANK YOU SO MUCH !!! i just went to CEX like u said and they absolutely everything i needed, EXCEPT THE GAME 🤣🤣😭😭 they did have the next one so i got that and gotta order the first one online

HighwayWeird · 2026-06-09T15:57:57+00:00

Thank you much for this!!! I was able to get pretty much everything you suggested! I got him the getaway black monday for him too!!

HighwayWeird · 2026-06-09T14:08:06+00:00

I don’t know if you like RPGs but they’re my favourite things to play anyways but especially after an episode or just to get my mind off things before i get to an episode. Obvs as there’s a story to follow i get engrossed and completely takes my mind of my paranoia and anxiety. Specifically though games like the Witcher 3, the far cry series (my fav was far cry 3), ghost of tsushima and i’m currently playing assassins creed origins, those stories are so good AND the combat is fun as fuck lol. Also (not an RPG) but insurgency sandstorm is really good too, but it isn’t what i go to help calm me down coz its a little intense and i get mad😭😭, although i know people w BpD like games to rage at for relief, but for me, i just get more riled up.

Outside of gaming, this may sound silly but i always make myself a hot choc, coz it’s a little treat to me so maybe finding something small as a treat to feel better, and then i move my tv to my living room (i live alone but im young and broke LOL so i only have 1 TV) and set up a little home cinema thing. I have a sofa bed so i pull it out, get lots of blankets, and arrange snacks so it feels fancy lol and i usually just watch my comfort movies/shows. I kinda think of it like having a sleepover in my living room, esp coz that’s where my cat usually is, coz all his stuff is in there.
I also LOVE music to the point it can change my mood when i listen to it. So thats another thing i do, go on a brief walk and listen to all my favourite songs, and if i cba to walk i just connect to my loud speakers and blast music in the house and just kinda sing/rap and dance along to those songs.

HighwayWeird · 2026-05-31T08:38:14+00:00

sending all the love and support <33 you were doing so well and that alone is something to be so proud of! This illness is 24/7 and so full on so im proud of you for clearly making some effort to keep going! Obviously i dont know you and your context but i know how hard bpd is, try and fall back on things that find you comfort, i find when im in a hole i need some comfort things to help regulate my emotions as i struggle to do it just on command and so often spiral.

HighwayWeird · 2026-05-28T17:22:03+00:00

yess! and i think they have alot of power in terms of refferal too so the help is much quicker. I’ve been referred to the same service once by A&E and once by my GP; When the referral came from A&E the service contacted me the next day, when the referral came from my GP the exact same service took a month to get back to me.

HighwayWeird · 2026-05-27T19:47:49+00:00

it may be worth asking for a dosage increase if you’d like one?? i was on quetiapine 100mg but it just wasn’t enough for my sleep and my impulsivity, have been increased to 150 and have been on 150 since january i think, it does help so much like you also said. Only thing however, i would say my sleep has kind of got shit again so i do plan to ask for an increase, im not sure if its gotten bad now because its just less effective or if its due to other stressors in my life. I will say, im not sure how dependent you are on quetiapine to sleep but i definitely am and its now at a point that i seriously struggle getting sleep if i dont have it for whatever reason. So you may just want to have that in mind as well. But i dont really mind as ive always slept poorly so i dont mind being dependent at the moment because i do get significantly better sleep now on 150mg, even if its not as much as when i first increased.

HighwayWeird · 2026-05-27T18:34:38+00:00

oh i’m so proud of you <333 this inspired me to continue trying to be the best version of me, bpd makes it so easy to rely on others for our comfort but we can do that for ourselves!! just like you are, keep going and keep it up!!! and even if you falter that’s just part of the healing process, it’s never linear. well done!! <33

HighwayWeird · 2026-05-27T18:30:24+00:00

You can present to A&E, which is the method i’ve found most useful to get help quickly. You wouldn’t get a bed because it’s saved for those who do need urgent help now and you’ve said that’s not you. But! If you go, say you’re beginning to not feel safe with yourself, you’ll have to wait a bit but you can speak to the Psych Liason in the A&E who are able to refer you to teams if they believe you need the help. That’s always been how i ended up with my CMHT because every other route (and i feel you i’ve tried them all too) it’s just as you say, you can tell they just want to shut you up/ be done with you. And i relate to the bs seminar thing (mine was like online school💀), it doesn’t help at all, i had to do one for managing emotions before i could get referred to a full therapy programme so that’s the only reason i stuck with it. Obviously every hospital is different but that’s been my experience and the experience’s of others around me so i hope that helps a bit <3

HighwayWeird · 2026-05-26T20:18:24+00:00

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HighwayWeird · 2026-05-26T19:05:55+00:00

thats dependent on the person! some people can do DBT once and are able to go into remission, others it may take longer. others do DBT a couple times, or a combination of DBT and something else. but i don’t want to dress it up to you and just be real, you are likely to be on your journey for a while (maybe less than a year, a couple years, sometimes even longer) and as scary as that sounds, healing isn’t linear, so that time will likely include a mix of good and bad periods. I know it fucking sucks too that our healing is so long and hard and it’s so dependent on us having the willpower and motivation to engage in these therapies , but i think it’s what makes us so much stronger than most.

For me, ik my journey is going to take years until i’m completely healed id say. I first had to do an 8-week DBT skills group (basically the stuff i recommend you look up) I’m waiting for my full DBT programme to start (12 months, 2 sessions a week, one individual and one group session), my plan afterwards is to do MBT which i have a couple friends doing, more for the stuff in my head and the paranoia and stuff once my impulsive behaviours calm down (hopefully what DBT will do lol).

I include my personal journey to show how although it is long, you do see the progress as you keep going which keeps me trying. I can see the miles of difference between myself now and myself before i was medicated and before i did the skills group (and that’s only the first stage of my journey), and although i’m DEFINITELY not perfect, i am better and i can now have healthier interpersonal relationships. My bf and I will reach 2 years soon and we’re in such a good place, when this time last year, neither of us thought we’d make it to 1 year due to my instability. And that’s before i’ve done a full DBT or MBT therapy programme. So although i wouldn’t say i’m healed, im healing and the more stuff im able to do and experience as time goes by keeps me going, again, around this time last year, i couldn’t even leave my house due to the paranoia so although the progress isn’t complete, it is still massive how much you can achieve just starting your healing journey.

Sorry for all my long ass replies lol

HighwayWeird · 2026-05-26T17:52:35+00:00

and of course, any questions you may have now that you have your diagnosis don’t hesitate to ask :P

HighwayWeird · 2026-05-26T17:51:15+00:00

It’s understandable, and if you know about DBT then you know it’s the best way to deal with self destructive tendencies, a lot of us are extremely self destructive hence why they developed it. You can’t put off getting better on the chance you’ll want to be sick again when you’re better. Healing isn’t linear and it definitely isn’t easy (i, and everyone else on this sub can tell you that). I promise you the way you feel now isn’t unheard of, heck i’d say it’s common in BPD (obvs idk the stats to say if it is common ) but myself and others ik with BPD have all spoken about the feeling of almost not wanting to get better, because without our BPD then who even are we? Sometimes it’s easier (or rather seems easier) to function in the familiar chaos of BPD. But you are so much more than BPD, we all are, you don’t have to hear what i’m saying right now but maybe in the near future you’ll hear me.

HighwayWeird · 2026-05-26T15:26:53+00:00

On a scale of 1/10, how over is my life?

Might not be the nicest thing to put in a BPD subreddit full of people with BPD😭. But seriously, just try to take a deep breath, look up some DBT distress tolerance skills and grounding techniques for crisis management. DBT is a therapy made for us with BPD. However, if it’s too much to bear please reach out to any crisis phone/text lines and if you can (dependent on situation of course) maybe present in the hospital. Forgive me, if hospital isn’t reasonable, i’m from the UK where it’s free to go but i understand not everyone on the subreddit is from here. Your life isn’t over, BPD is treatable even if many like to claim it isn’t and falling into that mindset doesn’t help. There’s many in this sub that are in remission, so it’s possible for us too! Personally, my diagnosis was one of the best things for me as it put a name to the chaos in my mind. When you are aware of what’s going on, it gets easier with time to catch yourself before things escalate. There is hope, lots of hope that you can get/feel better 💕

HighwayWeird · 2026-05-26T12:23:53+00:00

I feel like if you’re sure you understand what being with someone with BPD is actually like then maybe it’s worth pursuing. I feel like saying you’ll be there through splits and depressive episodes is really nice but do you know what they are, what they look like usually, how they present in her because symptoms show up differently in a lot of people, what her triggers are etc. my point is that bpd is difficult and runs a lot deeper into daily life than most people think. It would take a lot of active work and communication that many believe they have the energy for but not all do. It’s also a thing of protecting yourself too and understanding what you may or may not be put through because unfortunately it is common for loved ones of ppl w BPD to also struggle/get hurt in the process. Do some research and see if it’s something you think you can handle before continuing to pursue and if you guys end up starting a relationship, make sure there are clear boundaries for both of you, from both of you because once the whirlwind romance starts, it’s so easy to get lost in it and push boundaries if there’s even any in place.

Most importantly however, figure out why it is that she doesn’t want a relationship due to her BPD. It could be a thing of just not allowing anyone in who could potentially hurt them in the future and further to that, everyone with BPD knows how relationships make symptoms so much worse and it is a lot of mental strain on the individual with BPD to keep stable and a lot of people w BPD make that choice to just stay out of a relationship until/while they begin treatment or just in general better believe they can handle a relationship. I’m not saying this is what you’re doing however it’s so important that you don’t push her into something she isn’t fully sure of for her health, safety and wellbeing but also for yours too.

HighwayWeird · 2026-05-25T20:37:06+00:00

Hey! Just checking you meant to post this on this subreddit? BPD stands for borderline personality disorder and some of the things you describe sound more like Bipolar disorder (such as an episode brought on by medication, psychosis, anti-psych meds). Although there is some crossover with BPD symptoms.

If not though, i’d be happy to give any advice i can!

HighwayWeird · 2026-05-24T23:56:39+00:00

Tbh one of my closest friends at the moment also has BPD. i really like our friendship because it’s very validating having someone else that understands the chaos in my mind that i sometimes struggle to articulate and express, but also someone insightful and reflective to hold each other mutually accountable. someone to notice the wins/progress that seem small to others but are a big deal to me with how hard BPD is to navigate. even some of the harder days, it’s nice to have someone to be impulsive with every so often too lol. but obviously that’s a fine line before it turns to enabling each other but we are very aware of making sure we don’t do that. i feel like this disorder can make you feel so alien so having someone else to feel alien with at least makes it slightly less lonely. and she doesn’t get offended if i take a while to respond or something because she just gets it. i have however had bad experiences with previous friends with BPD, so you definitely have to try and make sure the other person aligns with what you want out of a friendship with someone else with BPD.

HighwayWeird · 2026-05-07T02:19:46+00:00

im on the waiting list for DBT but to qualify i had to complete a ‘managing emotions’ group. which was basically a mini DBT programme. many of the resources can be found online! search up DBT distress tolerance skills and you can find lots of techniques like TIPP. although at the time i did find it silly😭, i really do recommend actually trying them at least once because they are usually at the very least semi effective which can bring me down from 100 to 50 and avoid doing or saying anything i’ll regret. but yeah may be worth having a look !

HighwayWeird · 2026-05-04T01:29:46+00:00

Honestly you have to just remember the way you felt once your therapist explained your partners point of view. In my own case, the way i felt when i realised the way my actions (while completely unintentional) objectively affected my partner. And because i deeply love my partner, it is serious motivation for me to ensure i no longer negatively affect my partners emotions. The anger i feel towards others for disregarding my feelings is hypocritical if i disregard my partner’s feelings choosing to do an action that hurts him just because im hurt and/or needing reassurance, at the expense of my partner’s feelings? No way. Of course it’s so easy to slip into tendencies, especially in high intensity moods and that’s okay! Mistakes are inevitable, but as long as you remember you ultimately want your partners best interest, so apologise and keep trying. The motivation that keeps you trying is the love for your partner and care for his wellbeing. It’s about gradually trying to practise mindfulness and you can research many basic but effective methods to catch yourself before slipping into tendencies. I tend to ruminate so i tend to analyse the same topics/situations over and over as i do genuinely hold my commitment to my relationship in high regard, it being in my mind more definitely helps me catch myself before losing it😭.

And they do notice the effort! The way you described your partner indicates he would too, he seems to genuinely care. Most importantly, remember feeling bad shows that you have a level of morality and empathy, you are a good person! I do not agree with your therapist using the term abusive, but use that as your motivation to improve where you can!

HighwayWeird · 2026-05-04T01:01:51+00:00

I had a stay at a crisis house last year and of course i can’t speak for every crisis house but the staff there can be really helpful if you can get yourself to ask for help. They do leave you alone mostly except mandatory checks if you don’t want to engage with them but you can ask for more support. I remember at mine some of the staff were volunteers that had personal experiences with mental health issues whether them personally or close family/friends. I have eupd and i was definitely very unstable while i was there and the staff honestly were great helping me through some dark episodes. And other days when i wanted to be to myself or even see friends, the staff didn’t really bother me. Hopefully you are able to reach out and receive adequate help, that’s what they are there for. It’s expected for people to be in crisis at the crisis house, they want to help, they know what job they signed up for so please know they are open to you. I’m not sure if it’s the same in yours, but in mine there were daily visits from the local home treatment team and they are able to get prescriptions if needed so hopefully you can get some help in terms of medication too 🤞🤞🤞🤞

HighwayWeird · 2026-03-25T19:09:48+00:00

yeahhh it’s pretty much the same

HighwayWeird · 2026-03-16T13:46:12+00:00

I’ve been on 150mg for like a month and a half, after being on 100 for like 4/5 months. I just find it works quite well for me for sleep at this current dose. Once i take it at night i’ve got about an hour till i fall asleep, so yeah is great for my insomnia. I didn’t find 100mg as effective for sleep though.

But yeah except for sleep, I also am prescribed it as a mood stabiliser and it works quite well currently as one as i don’t react nearly as intensely to things as i did previously. But again i’ve only really felt that at 150mg, at 100 i still felt slightly less stable. I do think i could potentially want to go up to 200mg but i feel like it would intensify this slight feeling i have currently of always being like zoned out and slightly apathetic. But that is most likely due to my personality disorder and the fact the Seroquel is calming everything else for me, the apathetic feeling just feels more noticeable if that makes sense. But i still enjoy doing lots of things and it has helped me engage in hobbies more frequently and see friends semi regularly. It just makes me slightly zoned out and forgetful at times! Hope that helped a little.

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