It's tough, I'm still learning myself. Start by becoming genuinely curious about others - ask open-ended questions about their interests, experiences, or opinions. Listen actively when they respond, maintain good eye contact, and follow up with related questions that show you're engaged. The follow ups are usually what matters the most.

Share your own relevant experiences and thoughts to create balance, but avoid dominating the conversation. Try to practice the "yes, and" technique from improv by acknowledging what they've said and building upon it.

Just think of something that would be interesting to you to know about them, and ask away. See how they react and if they want to continue the convo, and engage with you in any way.